His daughter at home: Do not develop your child with a "good girl" and sue the child 7 words as soon as possible

"How did Ma Sichun become like this? I don't care about himself!" When lunch, Wang Li looked at the mobile phone and shouted. What kind of thing Ma Sichun did, and Wang Li, who had always been stable, screamed.

"What's wrong with Ma Sichun?"

"She drove retrograde and was photographed to throw things out of the window. How did you say that she had become like this! I started to like it since she was a model of Rao Xueman, watching her shaped a lot of characters, and stepped towards Golden Horse step by step. But why is it like this now? First of all, there was no good work, then found a scumbag, and then all kinds of negative news.

"Isn't she depressed? Nowadays, she doesn't appear in the eyes of the public, and she is basically conditioning her body."

"Yeah, because of distressing her illness, those who like her silently wait for her to make new works, but an actor with such aura, but finds a" scum man "in love. In the future, I don't want my daughter to become She does not distinguish between right and wrong, and does not listen to it. "

The more Wang Li's anger, the more "hate iron and steel", the more I feel how deep her like Ma Sichun's like. Those who have loved for more than ten years probably have been beyond the definition of idols and become friends.

It is relatively high at the beginning of Ma Sichun's entry into the performing arts industry. Her aunt Jiang Wenli and her uncle Gu Changwei, and her mother Jiang Lijuan's status in the performing arts industry made Ma Sichun easier than others in the interpretation circle. Coupled with her own aura and hard work, at a young age, there is a golden horse shadow in hand, and her future is better.

However, if she did not go to the slopes as everyone foreseen, she went to the downhill road from her temperament. In fact, aside from the external fame and fortune, you will find that Ma Sichun has become what it looks like now.

Ma Sichun was educated as a "good child" since he was a child. The elders in the family told her to be sensible, obedient, not to quarrel with others, and learn to let others.

In a variety show, Ma Sichun talked about his experience of being bullied by campus. At the age of 14, she was received from her hometown from her hometown and to a large city. She would have felt a huge gap in her heart, and she had to experience the bullying brought by others in this gap.

Language bullying, cola was filled with chalk ash, rag water, and loved by the crush on the crush, but was publicly recited ... When she was aggrieved, she told her to tell her mother that she was not maintained. Instead, let her not take these.

Her family education is also very strict. No matter what the situation, she must return home before ten o'clock every day. These Ma Sichun did it according to the requirements of the adults. She never resisted, because from a young age, she thought that the adults were right.

Just as Professor Susan Furde said in the book "Poison Parent": "Children always believe in what parents say about themselves and turn it into their own ideas."

Maybe she was protected by the family so well, so that the well -behaved Ma Sichun had internal and external pulling, so she was depressed, her figure, and loved the "scum man" in the circle ...

These are really not that Ma Sichun has deteriorated, but was too good. Her rebellion came later than others.

In the future, Ma Sichun may grow up in this relationship or any relationship to become a better herself. But these need her to experience, everyone will go these roads, or early or late.

I saw such a sentence in an article: The word "good girl" is like a shackles, which not only locks her body, but also locks her soul. Don't dare to open up, dare not try everything.

1. Too good children have no opinion

A friend I knew, married at the age of 24, and divorced at the age of 30. When we met again at the age of 33, she told me, "It's really stupid before, the family says you should get married, the boy is good, I will get married; the family says You have to have a child as soon as possible, and I have a baby.

In the years when a woman was youth, I was listening to my family, and I was married step by step. At the age of 30, I found that the other party did not choose to divorce after entrusting the life. I first learned to be the master for myself because I was a mother. Now think about it at that time. "

She is a typical good child who was educated by her family. She was the main parents since she was a child. Before the age of 30, she never thought about what she did for herself. If it wasn't for it to stop it in time, I don't know how much grievances will be suffered in the future.

2. Too good children are easily bullied

Ma Sichun was educated as a good girl since she was a child. When she met a bullying person, the parents informed the forbearance, regardless of the comparison. As a result, the friendly treatment of those classmates was not exchanged, but instead intensified.

Professor Li Meijin said: "Many parents cultivate their children in the direction of everyone's ladies, but they are beautiful girls. Once they meet rogues, they have no ability to protect themselves at all."

3. Too good children are not happy

The label of being "good -child" does not mean that they really like this label, but they will definitely be wronged for this label and work hard to achieve their expectations for themselves. This is not a good thing for children. They will lose a lot of happiness because of this label!

A netizen said: I used to educate my daughter to talk polite, humble, easy -going, and understanding, because this was also what my parents once educated me like this. Slowly discover that this education is not suitable for the current environment. Children must be sensible and polite, but they must also have their own principles and bottom lines. This is what we cannot protect my daughter for a lifetime as parents. In the process of accompanying my sister's growth, I always warned her seven words. It was also seven words that Professor Harvard had expected to his child.

1. No matter who talks to who you must be loud, you should look at others bravely;

2. You must learn to refuse things that you don’t want to do, even if the other party is your teacher;

3. Don't care too much about the feelings of others;

4. When others want you, if you do n’t want to do n’t dare to refuse, ask him a question, what do you exchange with me?

5. If a classmate scolds you, you can bravely scold back;

6. Don't pay too much attention to the teacher's view;

7. When you feel wronged, you must tell your parents as soon as possible that parents are your strong backing.

As a mother, I think the last point is very important, and the previous points are based on the last certain basis. As a parent, while educating children, we must also let the children understand that there is a parent behind him. This is to give the children the courage to dare to face the world and dare to be our own!

Broken thoughts:

I never want my daughter to be a defined "good girl", but to keep her of her personality. While educating her to treat others well, she also hopes to learn to protect herself first!

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