+Sound | Become such a dad, the child is grateful for you all his life!

There is a "+sound" in the south, and every weekend at 10 pm meets you on time.

Seeing such a scene is really enviable:

Three children, three desks, and walls on the wall.

The three children were sitting in front of the desk to write their own homework, focusing on and serious.

Dad sat behind the children and read a book. Four father and son made the whole room a loving classroom.

What's even more rare is that this dad squeezed out time to taught three children to do homework almost every day.

(Picture source: Douyin, Southeast Morning Post)

Netizens couldn't help feeling: "No wonder his family has a wall full of walls."

Yale University in the United States has launched a 12 -year study and found that:

If the father participates in the child's growth process, the child's IQ is higher, the grades are better, and the society is more successful.

However, in reality, there are very few dads who accompany their children to grow, and there are few dads participating in their children's lives.

"The Status Status of Chinese Family Education" shows: "Families leading education in less than 20 %."

Many dads think that educating children is a mother's business, and they only need to make money to support their families.

As everyone knows, the responsibility and impact of the father's role are irreplaceable.

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The absence of the father -in -law, let the boy "calcium deficiency" in his life, the girl lacks love

Sun Yunxiao, a researcher at the China Youth Research Center, once said such a case.

A young man with a tiger back always shrank.

As soon as the teacher criticized him, he burst into tears. As soon as he encountered difficulties, he retreated.

When he was in elementary and middle school, he was often bullied and dared not fight back.

After growing up to work, his suspicion was very heavy. Seeing others whispering, he felt that he was talking about himself, and there was a restlessness, which led to constant unemployment.

Through exchanges, Sun Yunxiao discovered that the root cause of his timid, cowardly, inferiority, and sensitive personality was precisely because of the lack of father -in -law.

In the process of his growth, his father was too protective and doting.

Boys often take their father as the role model for their future development.

Compared with the mother's delicate and gentle and carefully protected, the roughness, courage and majesty of the father's body is an indispensable nutrient in a boy's growth.

Similarly, the father also had a huge impact during the growth of girls.

There is a problem on Zhihu:

Girls who lack father -in -law since childhood, what will have the effects of love and gender when growing up?

Netizens' answers are thought -provoking:

"Inferiority, suffering from losses, it is easy to be a little tight for others, it is easy to fall into emotional dilemma. I always want to achieve redemption through love and make up for the lack of love and security."

Linda Nelson, a professor of psychology who studied father -daughter relationship for decades, said: "

"If a woman can be affirmed and recognized from her father from an early age, she will not desperately want to get these things from other men because she already has it."

The lack of fatherly love is like a deep pit buried in advance, and it has been buried on the way to their future marriage.

Therefore, dad must participate in the child's growth education.

The absence of the father's education will make the boy "calcium deficiency" in his life, and the girl is lacking in love throughout her life.

Only by injecting more "male power" to the growth of the boy can the boy become independent, brave and responsible.

Only by letting girls feel love from her father can girls have enough sense of security and learn how to love and love others.

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Dad must do these 6 things well

Dad's companionship is hiding the future of the child.

Doing the following small things below can not only strengthen the relationship with children, but also allow children to experience the power of their father.

1. Play some irritating and confrontation games with your children.

Dad often takes children with some irritating and confrontation games, such as running, playing, boxing, climbing mountains ...

Children will be more aggressive and adventurous.

2. Come and travel with your children alone.

A father took his son to ride 2,200 kilometers of the Sichuan Tibet Line 318 24 days during the summer vacation.

Although the journey was rough and hard, the child persisted.

The child said, "Dad is with me, Dad can do it, and I can do it too."

Take a child travel alone is the best opportunity to contact your child intimately to realize the deep link of the soul.

Children will become more resolute and brave.

3. Be sure to pick up children often, chat with children on the road.

No matter how busy his father is, he has to take the time to pick up more children, talk about a day of life with the child, and discuss the vision on the road with the child.

Dad will accompany him wholeheartedly, even if a smile, a hug, and a praise can make the child feel the love and attention of his father.

4. When the child is in the heart, he acts as a child's "knowledge brother".

Dad put down the shelf, communicated with the child in an equal identity, listened to the inner voice of the child, and made suggestions for the child like a friend to pass it to children's love, trust and security.

5. Cerelerate children.

Children always worship Dad unconsciously and take Dad as an example.

Dad's affirmation, identity, and praise will make children more valuable and confident.

6. Do not lose trust in children.

Dad is a symbol of authority in the eyes of the child. The child's trust in Dad is the highest.

If the father said without faith, it is not only disappointed with the child, the parent -child relationship is at stake, but even the family education will be in trouble.Therefore, pay attention to each agreement with the child, and the example of the family can be successful and effective.

In fact, Dad's love and companionship are far more important than we imagine.

Because no matter boys and girls, they need a very strong, powerful and authoritative love.

There is an unsuccessful father, the biggest luck in the child's life.

Today's "+sound" is over, thank you for listening.

Source | Daughter School

Author | Summer

Anchor | Rui Kangfan

Recording | Huang Zewei

Edit | Zhuo Peiyi

School counterpart | Chen Diam

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