The 3 -year -old baby can't eat, the old man: go to kindergarten naturally!There is a kind of injury to grow up

Hello everyone, I am a fruit mother ~

Bringing a baby, it is easy to go to two extremes.

One is a variety of "rolls", and I can't wait for children to be more and more than other children.

One is too "let it go". No matter what the child is behind, the parents think that when the child grows up, everything is fine.

This is a question of a mother -in -law fan for help.

Bao Ma Lingling has a 3 -year -old daughter who has not been able to eat by herself. Lingling asked her daughter to eat by himself. The child either grab it with his hands or eat it with a spoon.

It turned out that the children were brought to the grandma before. Each meal, the grandma pressed the child on the stool and fed it. Bao Ma Lingling also realized that the child may miss the sensitive period of eating independently, so she is unwilling to eat by her own.

Lingling also struggled, and changed her daughter to various cute dining plates to make a variety of delicious and stylish meals, but after a few days, she still did not change. Instead, her daughter was thinner because she did not eat well for a few days.

Grandma couldn't stand it anymore, and said, "There are so many tricks, it takes money, and the child can't eat. When you arrive at the kindergarten, the child will naturally eat, and the grandson next door is the grandson."

Lingling is very confused. What should I persist? What if the child is hungry at school, what should I do? I still believe "just get to kindergarten."

When the child said, "Just go to kindergarten", the mother suddenly felt that there were too many words around.

The 2 -year -old baby can't speak yet. Parents feel that noble people are late, just grow up;

Children who go to kindergarten should hug as long as they go out. If they do n’t hug, they do n’t leave. Parents feel that there are not many opportunities in the future, just grow up;

Children go to kindergarten class or even elementary school. They do n’t even wear them and wear shoes by themselves. Parents think that it ’s okay. When they grow up, they will naturally be ...

Including children, they can't eat, and they will be able to exist in kindergarten. Many problems during the growth of children, after they grow up, many can really be resolved.

From the perspective of adults, we see a phenomenon and a result.

However, from the perspective of children's growth and development, some of the process that need to be experienced was missed, so they missed it. Behind the "growing up" is an invisible effect.

On the surface, the child can eat more full, and the desktop can be cleaner. However, for this "full meal", the child lost a lot.

1. The baby who was fed was even worse

What to eat, how to eat, how much eat, what to eat first, what to eat, the speed of eating, etc., these should have been their own business, but "feeding" makes these parents, and children cannot control themselves at all.

Eat quickly, eat more, don't play, don't eat anymore, etc. During the feeding process, you should not hear it! In the face of such urging, children only feel that eating is a very boring thing. You ca n’t even decide on your own, and your child does n’t know how to distinguish whether you want to eat or be hungry, affecting autonomous consciousness.

2. The baby who was fed was even worse

Eating is actually a small number of things that children can continue to focus.

But if you feed, the child will not sit there quietly and wait for being fed, but go to play toys for a while, touch this for a while, take the one, eat a meal, the child can play countless tricks.

At this point, the child's concentration was destroyed.

Now, children can eat while eating, so in the future, children can play assignments while doing homework.

3. The baby who was fed, missed all kinds of sensitive periods

In the life of children, most critical periods and sensitive periods are concentrated in the age of 0-6.

For adults, eating is a moving thing, which is very simple. But for children, eating is a very complicated thing. It requires fine hand movements and coordination of hand -eye brain.

Like Baoma Lingling's daughter, she is 3 years old. She can miss a lot with a spoon, and chopsticks will not take it at all. This is not that the child does not eat well, but the child's fine movements have not been fully exercised.

These sensitive periods are not only the children's eating, but also in the future painting, beads, handicrafts, writing, and so on. After missing the sensitive period, parents want to let their children work hard in the future, and the speed of children's progress cannot be faster. It is really difficult to catch up with others.

4. The baby being fed is more likely to be negatively evaluated

Before going to kindergarten, maybe the child didn't feel it. However, after going to kindergarten, children do not eat and take care of their own ability, and the teacher needs to pay more energy.

The teachers are not saints. They will also have a small word for their children. They will compare which child to eat well. Which child needs more energy to take care of, and even discuss the child's family: "XXX parents are really, The child does not care if you don't eat ... "

In the face of these negative evaluations, it is actually hurting children.

Now that I have missed it, it is not too late to start again at any time. If you want baby to eat incense, parents focus on looking for the right way.

First of all, find the "fundamental" where the baby does not like to eat

There are many reasons why the baby does not like to eat, some are fed by the family, some are eating too much, and they do n’t want to eat light. Some are really unwell and do n’t want to eat. Essence

As parents, we have to observe our children, and then understand the real reason to solve the problem of baby not eating. Second, the right medicine

Find the reason, and then "right medicine".

Like a friend of Guo's mother, her children do not eat well, and they are afraid of baby hungry, so grandma often buy snacks for children to eat. After the friend knew, he interrupted the snacks and cried with the child. After two hungry meals, I started to eat well.

Children do not eat well. We do not need to blame the child, just apply the right medicine.

Finally, if you want the baby to eat well, the family has to cooperate

This is very important. In many families, the elderly are the "blockbuster" of parenting.

Mom said, not feed, the old man either secretly feed or said that being a mother is not distressed. In short, the child is also strong. When the child finds someone to himself, it is fearless.

However, if the whole family is united, the child will quickly surrender.

In the growth of children, as a parent, we cannot help grow up, and we must not be too natural. We still need to follow the objective laws of the child's growth and development, and cultivate a good living habits for the child as soon as possible. This is the best for the child. Love.

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