The biggest enemy of education is the bad emotions of parents

A few days ago, some netizens shared a monitoring screen.

In the video, a boy was watching TV. The father on the side seemed to be patient for a long time, and suddenly stood up and walked to the TV.

I saw that he removed the TV from the wall, then smashed the ground hard, and stepped on a fierce step until the screen was completely broken.

This unexpected move stunned the boy and seemed at a loss.

Afterwards, the dad explained to his behavior that because his son always watched TV during the summer vacation, he had said it many times, so he had such an excessive move.

Indeed, when the child repeatedly said, it is normal to be a parent's fire.

But emotional out of control, even the act of excessive excitement is not only useless, but also causes the children to cause an indelible psychological shadow.

As netizens in the comment area said:

"Anyway, this kind of thing will always give children a 'negative emotion' seed ... In other words, cause and effect retribution is everywhere, but it is a matter of time."

Educators Rousseau once said that one of the most useless educational methods in the world is to lose his temper.

The bad emotions that parents broke out every time they will become a "source of pollution" that affect their children's growth.

There was a hot topic on Weibo#微 微 微 微 微 微 微 微 微 微 微 has resonated with countless netizens.

"Other people think that I am very good, I have a good manner, and I am confusing, but only I know, I am just afraid of making mistakes and conflict, so I only nunuo, and I am afraid of the end."

"I just, please please the personality and always please others' feelings."

"Being angry, crying, fear of doing something wrong, but not being able to change for small things but can't change."

After thousands of comments, they are all experiencing, or the hearts of children who have experienced irritability and irritability.

Teacher Li Meijin found through her many years of experience survey and found:

Children who are often scolded by their parents have the greatest chances of having personality defects, 56.5%of children are irritable, 25.7%of their children are inferior and depressed, and 22.1%of children are cold.

How much pain is when parents venting bad moods, how much pain is for children.

Those bad emotions are like a poisonous thorn, deeply rooted in the child's heart, even after adulthood, it is still a nightmare.

Netizens@网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 网 shared their own experience.

She said that her mother was a very irritable person, and her way of educating her was simple and rude.

She has been waiting for a sorry, but she also understands that she will not wait in this life.

So after having her own child, she vowed not to become a person like a mother. But she still failed.

On one occasion, she did not go smoothly when she was trained in toilet for her son. She threw the small toilet in front of her child. At that time, the son was frightened and forgot to cry, and looked at her so stupidly.

Since then, she found that her son was very sensitive to her emotions and was always careful. She would always ask her mother, are you angry?

Even if you walk on the road, you will say it coldly: Mom, don't throw my things anymore.

His son became a very lacking sense of security. Whenever he looked at the child with caution, she seemed to see herself when she was a child.

In the end, she became the most annoying look of her.

"I deeply hate my mother's moody, but I love her more deeply. After watching her for more than ten years, I became her look."

Many parents always want to take it for granted that the children are getting angry and coaxing, what the child can remember.

But in this way of education, they are like a backpack full of bad emotions full of parents. Walking, walking, the backpack will not be alleviated, and they will not disappear. They will only accompany them forever.

The educator Feng Nasky once said: "What the child is like, it depends on his parents."

If parents are emotionally stable, then under their mapping, children will be brave and confident.

The recently broadcast "Juvenile 2", the four teenagers ended their school days and ushered in the moment they entered the society. Entering the society from campus, it is destined to experience different setbacks and cracks.

Among the four people, Jiang Tianhao, who was always talking, was always the most mature person.

He experienced the failure of entrepreneurship in the play, the store was gone, and his savings also settled in, which was equivalent to five or six years of dry dry. This blow was very large.

But the temporary trough did not defeat Jiang Tianhao, and even before the friends around him reacted, he started the road to entrepreneurship again. Although the process is difficult, he has a more frustrated and brave energy.

The reason why Jiang Tianhao is so open -minded and optimistic has no relationship with his parents with stable emotions.

Like Lin Miao Miao said to him: "The most precious place in your parents is emotional stability."

As a former rich second generation, when the home bankruptcy, Jiang Tianhao, who did not know, took over the buying team uniforms, and the news that his home bankruptcy was well known.

At this time, the parents who had already had a lawsuit did not blame him, but calmly let the matter passing.

They did not transfer bad emotions to their children because of their dilemma.

Instead, he used optimistic and stable emotions to influence his son in a subtle way, making him gradually grow into a mature and stable adult.

With a pair of parents with stable emotions, children are more likely to obtain positive positive energy.

And this energy can also help children manage their emotions, have enough confidence and sense of security, try to try, explore, and accept failure. Education does not need much high skills. Parents with stable emotions are the best starting line for children.

As a parent, you have to run around for life every day. The anxiety of education will be out of control. It is normal for bad emotions to be bad.

It is not easy to maintain emotional stability at all times, but it is a thing worthy of our learning and doing.

1) When bad emotions, ask yourself more?

Fan Deng once said:

Parents scolding children 90%of them are angry, and they are angry with their sense of frustration, incompetence, and pressure to their children. When parents' pressure "overload" can make emotions out of control.

Children are the fuse of negative emotions that originally existed, not the source.

Therefore, when we are in a bad mood, give ourselves calmly for a few minutes, and think about whether their behavior is really unbearable, or we are just angry.

2) Take yourself as a child's "same age"

After becoming an adult, we often forget that we are children and have made mistakes.

When you are 4 years old, your mother just refuses to buy you to buy the toys you want. Can you not cry or make trouble? When you are 7 years old, you can keep your homework always concentrated. When you are 16 years old, will you hit your parents because of adolescent anxiety?

If we can't even do it ourselves, can we give the child a more patience? Those we have experienced and children are also experiencing. More tolerance and more acceptance.

3) You can lose your temper, but don't forget to love your child

It is actually difficult to get angry with children.

But the most fearful is to take it for granted, or even don't care.

In fact, children love their parents more than we imagine, and it is easier to forgive parents.

If you accidentally get angry at the child, apologize to the child as soon as possible after calm, explain the reason.

This conveys a signal to the child: parents rush to me, not they don't love me, but because they don't like me to do this.

We often say: deep love, blame.

The blame is to trim branches for children and let them grow up and healthy, instead of using those bad emotions to hurt them in the name of love.

Life, the world outside is difficult, how can we bear the most angry and ugly side of our children?

I hope that every pair of parents should not be affected by emotions, let alone let the children be defeated by our bad emotions.

Author | Kakin

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