After 2 years of popularity, "Zhong Meimei" went to the hot search: There are visionary parents who are insisting on these three things

Today is the 3227th day that I am intensive to accompany you for life -long growth

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Remember 2 years ago, did the net red boy "Zhong Meimei" who became popular overnight?

At the age of 15, he was exposed to one of the best high schools in Heilongjiang Province, Harbin No. 3 Middle School International Department.

At the same time, many netizens found him in the movie "Life".

At the age of 15, he was admitted to the ideal school and participated in the large -scale production cinema movie.

Entering the eyes of the public again, Zhong Meimei, who grew up two years old, was very different from two years ago.

Once, I was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy. When an actor was his career ideal, now he no longer defines the future easily.

He said that he likes history, geography, and Chinese, and he likes Southeast Asian culture. He hopes to develop acting into a sub -business. In the future

Young means everything is possible.

The 15 -year -old Zhong Meimei, just like his circle of friends, "Life is fine, the future is expected."

Over the years, we have seen too many child stars that have been wrapped in the adult world because of their age, and slowly took our own roads and narrower.

"Zhong Meimei" did not become popular because of the moment, but from then on the shortcut pursuit of traffic, but insisted on academics, naturally he had his personal choice and thinking.

But I think the impact of family may play a more important role for a minor child.

When Zhong Meimei was the most popular, his account was in three or four days, and fans rose from more than 100,000 to more than one million.

Various temptations followed, and Zhong Meimei broke the news in an interview:

During that time, Ms. Zhong could receive calls from various companies every day, and the phone was lost. Even the company wanted to sign a contract with him and promised to give him a million annual salary.

Zhong Meimei said that she couldn't help it anymore, so she said to her mother, "One million is quite a lot, shouldn't you go and see?"

As a result, Mother Zhong scolded him fiercely: "Give you some money, you will be confused? Can't be fascinated by money."

Mother Zhong once said in the interview: "I'm afraid that he will have too much honor and halo, so she will be impetuous.

The temptation of money is actually quite large, but for such a big child, I don't want him to see the money too heavy. "

Two years later, Zhong Meimei faded away, and looking at Mother Zhong's original attitude and practice, I couldn't help thinking of a line of lines in the TV series "Knowing No":

"Parents' love sons are far -reaching."

Parents' true love for their children has never been satisfied and obedient, and only cares about gains and losses in front of the eyes, but knows how to make long -term plans for the child.

02

I have seen such a story.

Three father often prayed for his son in the temple, and moved the Buddha after many years.

One day, the Buddha invited the three fathers and asked them to choose from the many treasures, and took it back to the son.

The first father, picked a silver bowl full of gems;

The second father, chose a carriage full of gold;

The third father took away a pair of iron arrows.

Since then, the son who got the silver bowl was obsessed with eating and drinking every day; the son of the golden carriage fell in love with the feeling of shaking the city; the son who got the bow and arrow hunted in the forest every day.

Many years later, the three father died.

Children who love to eat and drink are sitting in the mountains, pulling all the gems on the bowl and selling, and finally falling to the street begging.

After using the bottom of the family, you can only scrape some gold from the golden carriage every day to change the food and change the food.

And the son who got the bow and arrow, because of the long years of hunting in the mountains, practiced a good ability, and lived a better life.

Parents who choose the silver bowl and the golden carriage are like parents who only understand their children's best material conditions, but they do not know the way for their children to pave the way.

They thought to give their children a smooth life, but they never thought that their parents could not accompany their children for life.

Really visionary parents should know how to cultivate children's ability to survive independently like the third father who chose bow and arrow.

As Yu Minhong said:

"Growth is far more important than success. Cultivating children is like planting trees. Only nourishing him first on the roots, and then irrigation with the nutrients of morality, the child can grow and leave, closer to the sun."

03

The fate of a person may not be related to family education, but parents have vision, and children can take many detours.

And those parents who are really visionary know how to pave the way for their children's future.

① Quit excessive protection

There is a swan lake under a mountain, a island on the lake, and an old fisherman and his wife lived on the island. Every day, the fisherman shakes the boat to fish, and his wife raises chickens on the island to feed ducks.

One day, a group of swans flew from the north to prepare to go to the south for winter. They took the island as a transit station and stopped.

As a result, the two lonely and kind old people took out the feed feed and the small fish that were fed to the group of beautiful swans.

Under the careful care of the two elderly people, the group of swans did not continue to fly south and insisted on "living".

Winter has arrived, the lake surface has thick ice, the swan can no longer get food, the kind old man opens the house, allows them to enter the house for heating, and give them to eat them.

In this way, this group of swans lived on this small island carefree. When the weather is warm, you can find food in the lake. When the winter comes, he goes to the old couple's house for food. The old couple dedicated their love year after year. Finally, the old couple was old. In spring, they had to leave the island.

In the winter of the year after the old couple left, the group of swans also disappeared. However, they did not fly to the south, but they starved to death during the frost of the lake.

In life, if the parents love their children too much, the child will slowly lose their independence as those who are carefully taken care of.

Some medical studies have shown that as soon as the children undergoing the difficulties under the difficulty, the parents come forward to help, and the child will become more and more dependent on parents, forming a condition to reflect the condition of finding parents when they encounter setbacks.

In the excessive protection of parents, children cannot gain in exploration, and they cannot get a sense of accomplishment.

Parents' protection of children is instinct, but they should learn to restrain, otherwise protection will slowly become a hindrance to the growth of children.

Learn "selfishness" and let go properly to really benefit the future of children.

② Learn positive guidance

Long Yingtai has shared the story of a friend.

My friend's daughter has always liked to draw, and she is also very good at. When I was very young, I could use a few simple strokes to outline the characteristics of the items.

Long Yingtai discovered the talent of the girl, and advised friends to find a teacher for the child to cultivate it.

The friend nodded and agreed at the time, but he did not actually take it in his heart, and let the children be self -flow.

As the child grows up slowly, because there is no correct guidance, the level of her painting is difficult to improve, and she no longer likes to paint.

In adolescence, it is a problem with a headache for parents.

The well -known writer Orerov once said: With talents, talents will definitely decline, and they will be destroyed in chronic decay.

Many times, whether parents know about positive guidance is a key part of whether the child's talent can be stimulated.

The mother of the Internet celebrity "Zhong Meimei" once said a detail in the interview.

Zhong Meimei has been very good at imitating people around him since she was a child. As long as the academic performance does not decrease, the family will never interfere with his hobbies too much.

Instead, they often help children find some characters and recommend to children to learn imitation.

Buffett once said: "The only thing his parents should do for the child is to find his enthusiasm, encourage him to go all out to pursue, and make full use of it."

Respecting, supporting children, and not stopping the child's interest is the positive guidance that ordinary parents can give.

③ Forced TA

Singer Liu Huan was once a loyal supporter of "Happy Education".

When she was a child, her daughter liked music and had a talent for music. She liked playing the piano, but did not like to practice the piano.

Liu Huan wanted to let the child have a carefree happy childhood, so he never forced the child to practice the piano once.

But many years later, Liu Huan showed publicly: I regret it, and it should be forced to be.

The "happy education" that year made her unable to embark on the road of music, and wasting her talent in vain.

In life, many parents have similar experiences, because they want to give their children a happy childhood, so they never "forced" their children.

Children learn the specialty. I have practiced half because they are afraid of suffering and do not want to learn. Parents quickly compromise: "It's okay, to respect the child, the child is not interested, how to practice is useless;

When the child does not want to learn, parents comfort themselves: as long as they are healthy, just happy ...

Indeed, the child has a happy childhood, but your parents have never thought that your heart softness may become a regret in the future.

When I was a kid, I was used to giving up when I encountered difficulties. When I grew up, how can I learn to work hard and persist?

The world has never been able to achieve the achievements, and any results need to be paid.

Just like a sentence in "Tsinghua Xueba Teaching Sutra":

"Parents must understand that when children lack self -control, they are not proactive for learning such as learning.

Really visionary parents know how to force their children properly. This is not to violate the child's wishes to forcibly persecute, but to correctly cultivate children's perseverance, so that children should work hard and not give up easily because they are lazy for a while.

04

Zhou Guoping once said:

The scene of Ledong's life is only temporary. Children will grow up and will enter this complex society alone. Fate will not know, and I will die, and I will no longer see and protect their future.

Life is a marathon. No one can accompany his life forever, but parents are the most powerful assists in the starting stage of their children.

Parents learn to "far -care" for their children, so that children can go more and more smoothly in this journey.

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Author: Yan Yan, I read the main creators, and my life has the end, and I know there is no end.

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