Excellent and self-discipline children are accompanied by parents (attached to grades 1-9 companion method)

Studies have found that the family education of high-scoring students in the college entrance examination has these three characteristics:

Parents value their children's education, and help children develop various good habits from an early age.

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Parents praise or urge their children in time to allow their children to carry forward their strengths and make up for their weaknesses.

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Parents give their children a good role model, communicate with their children, and grow together.

No wonder some people lamented: the best education is "fighting father and mother".

The exam is not only a competition on the rolling surface, but also the competition for education.

The protagonist is the parents; the place where the competition is in the family.

Excellent children must be "accompanied" by their parents, and all parents must know.

Five "pit" accompanied by parents

The potential of children is destroying children

A educator said: Excellent children are the results of high -quality education, and problems with children are the product of a problem family.

Parents' wrong ways to accompany them may destroy their children's efforts and potential.

The first pit: too perfunctory, there is no real solution.

Accompanying is not just as simple as accompanying. If parents accompany their children and do their own thing, they are not accompanied.

What the child needs is "seeing", not "accompanied".

The second pit: patience is too bad, without controlling emotions.

Some parents hate iron and steel, and they lose their temper and scold their children.

I only see the difference between the child and the child's goodness. If you lose patience, you will become the "poison" of the child's growth.

The third pit: the response is too little, and the distance is far from the child.

Some parents are very perfunctory. No matter what the children do, a sentence "OK" and "Know" will deal with it.

For children aged 3-12, parents participate in low companionship, which is not conducive to children's growth.

The fourth pit: Too many preaching will make the child disgust.

Preaching is not education, it is just a vent, an irresponsible accusation.

Parents always say that teaching is standing on the opposite side of the child. When parents are armed with authority, their children will protect themselves with emotions.

Fifth pit: I look forward to being too high and put pressure on the child.

Children are not machines. It is not that we have paid love and concern, so we must get the child's feedback to the greatest extent.

Educating children should not have too strong utilitarian heart.

With the child, you must not just get good results.

Accompaniment is a very complicated concept. Parents are accompanied by the child. More importantly, understand what the child is thinking, what, and what is afraid of.

Only in the growth of the child in depth, the company's company is an effective education.

Excellent children are "accompanied"

The five high -quality companions need

Really high -quality companionship is not the length of time, but in the quality of companionship.

The first: accompany it carefully.

Accompanying children should be "intentionally" instead of "hard".

Pay attention to, listen carefully, and help with heart. Only when parents are attentive can they help their children find problems and solve problems.

The second: respect for respect.

Don't fight for children, don't blame them blindly, don't be high, even if you are your own child, you must give you deserve respect and trust. not

Real companionship is to be friends with children. We must lower their gestures, respect each other, and tolerate each other.

Third: patience with.

When communicating with your child, you must pay attention to wording and attitude, explain the truth, and avoid getting angry and labeling to the child.

We all understand some truths, but children may not understand, so spend more patience to educate children.

Fourth type: the company's companion.

Not all children can take 100 points. If you have the first place in the first place, you have to applaud the children on the side of the road.

The grades do not mean everything, and there are many possibilities for children. We need to help children know ourselves correctly and find the most suitable growth path.

Fifth type: Combat for common growth.

Dong Qing said: What kind of person do you want children to be, first of all, what kind of person you want to be.

The process of parenting with the child is to give the child a good role model. For example, preaching and teaching are the best education for our children.

The best parents are constantly improving in the process of accompanying their children to study, trying to keep up with the children's pace, and be a child's leader.

Parents are valid for only ten years!

A good pair of good parents, better than 200 good teachers!

Once, a small note that a boy interacted with his father moved the entire network.

Dad is a high school class teacher. He is very busy at work. He goes out early and returns every day.

So, the son wrote what he wanted to say to his father on the note, and then posted it on the door or the coffee table. On the note, there was both his heart and the mathematical problem he wanted to ask.

When Dad saw it, he would write a reply on the note that although the father and son could not "get along with each other", they could "pass love".

The small note carried the father and son's words, and also recorded the child's growth process.

There are many ways to accompany them. Busy is not the reason for the absence of parents.

I remember a writer said: "Parents" have a validity period, and it is short, only ten years. The child's growth is only once. Education cannot be re -come. Each parent must do it for the child.

Companion does not require the "big" time, even if it is only 10 minutes a day, as long as the parents do all of their hearts and let their children feel love and attention, it is a successful companion.

You can read a story with your child;

You can share the interesting things today with your children;

You can overcome the problems in homework with your children;

You can play with your children his favorite toys, games ...

We always want to give our children the best, but we don't know that what children need most are the company's company.

There is a saying good: parents and children have always been a state of complexity.

For the sake of their children, they have made every effort, and in children, we can feel the most complete dependence, trust and love in this world.

Even if we have nothing to do outside, we can return home, we are the parents of our children. "Parents" is the most glorious title of our life.

While the child has not grown up, while we have not changed, accompany, educate with heart, and work hard to achieve the child.

Educating his own children is the most important career in his parents' life, and it is also the glory that cannot surpass any success.

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A well -known school principal said with a lot of words that most of the children in all aspects of the school are accompanied by parents. A outstanding child has nothing to do with school education. Most of them are well done by this child's family education; And a so -called "poor student" is also a problem with family education.

Indeed, companionship is the best education. However, how to accompany it is well -known!

This is a suggestion for the parents of the famous school to accompany the reading. These suggestions, the earlier the effect, the better. After the child is in the senior Grade, both sides will become easier and easier. It's not too late now! Hurry up!

Primary school first and second grades

1. Written integrity

If you do not let your child become a serious writing habit from the beginning, and then correct him when you are in the senior grade, the efficiency of the child's work will decrease directly, which will directly affect the child's learning interest.

2. Main operation speed

Children with obviously lower grades have a common feature, that is, the speed of work is slow.

Therefore, the correct rate is not required at the beginning. As long as it is required, it is strictly forbidden to play while doing homework. Do the homework he is not good at first.

At this stage, do not show the pursuit of grades wrongly as the first place to ask the child, let alone pay attention to the significance and importance of the children's errors to enlarge the results.

Encourage children to pursue "their best performance" and "compete with themselves", so that children to understand the grades are a self -test rather than score and ranking.

In the first and second grades of elementary school, you must also cultivate your children's habit of reading and writing a simple diary every day. In short, you must cultivate your children's learning habits.

Primary school third and fourth grade

The study habits of the third grade of elementary school directly determine the academic performance of the college entrance examination. The number of grades in the third and senior second grades of elementary school is 0.82. Needless to say, it is important to say.

This stage is an important stage for children to learn gradually. At this time, children have their own opinions, so they are an unstable stage. The good habits of children in the first and second grades must be strengthened and cannot be relaxed.

After the third grade, you do n’t have to sit next to the children to accompany your children to do homework. They start to take the initiative to accept new knowledge, but you have to teach your children to make a plan form, organize wrong questions, and take notes.

1. Chinese

Parents can make a reading plan form with their children to record the number of reading words per month. The middle grade is also a critical period for children to write a good composition. Usually, children write diaries to guide him to write more about what happened in life and describe more details.

2. Mathematics

From the third or fourth grade, if the child is easy to learn and likes challenges, you can learn some Olympic, but you must not force it.

The number of learning Olympics must be peaceful with training attitude, but it does not mean to cope with casualness. The most rare thing to learn the Olympics is to persist. First of all, parents must persist and do a good job of emotional guidance. Persist hard and work hard.

3. English

The third or fourth grade English is from the transition period of reading and writing. I usually look at the English picture books and require children to spell words.

In the third and fourth grades, children began to teach children to draw key points, sort out the wrong questions, and make simple notes.

Note and finding the focus are complementary, but let the children write as much as possible, how much can they be written, and do not miss the teacher's lecture content for taking notes.

Primary school fifth and sixth grades

After the senior grade of elementary school, you don't need to ask the details of the academic work. As long as he reminds him when he occasionally committed laziness, he encourages him when he encounters setbacks. Easy?

At this time, the child has his own learning ability and the learning method that is suitable for himself. Is it very impressed that "granting people to fish, is it better to grant people to fish"? In the future, you are also worrying about junior high school.

1. Chinese

Language literacy is a long -term accumulation process. Children who develop good reading habits in elementary schools will not be worse when entering junior high school Chinese. The ancient poems that have been studied or required for elementary schools are best to sort out and read them regularly to read them aloud. not

The accumulation of idioms and classical and classical sentences must be aware of their words, and to experience the sense of language of classical Chinese.

2. Mathematics

Parents at the senior grade of elementary school try to allow their children to learn Olympic. Regardless of whether the child is well learned, it will definitely not let the children learn more and stupid!

After those children who have learned Olympic numbers enter junior high school, their thinking is obviously more active than I have never learned Olympics, and the new knowledge is stronger than they has. The more they learn the more and more vigorously, the test scores slowly opened the distance.

The mathematical examination is also based on the middle school entrance examination, and many questions are the original entrance examination.

All are looking for rules, cycle cycles, graphics numbers, simplicity calculations, defining new operations, quotations, and equations, etc., etc. The law of computing law, especially the allocation law, will be used in turn.

In short, it is best to learn more about primary schools. All geometric knowledge (graphic knowledge) in elementary school must be learned well, and junior high school will not be distressed. Primary school geometry is closely linked with junior high school geometry.

3. English

Although junior high school English starts from the letters, the progress is fast, and the new lesson has not been digested yet. The homework is all extracurricular test papers.

It is recommended to learn English in elementary school, learn more, and learn from junior high school English learning. Primary school English listening, speaking, reading, writing, and back must not be less, otherwise it will become a difficult subject.

Junior high school

From elementary school to middle school, it is a relatively large span for children. In terms of learning habits or learning methods, it is necessary to have a new understanding. In this change, the role of parents is also very important. No matter how busy you are, the following 5 things have to be done.

1. Enhance the consciousness -sit down with the child and talk about junior high school life

In the face of a strange classmate environment, it takes some time to adapt. The length of the adaptation of time has a lot to do with the child's own adaptability.

At this time, parents should prevent the emergence of two extreme mentality:

First, after a long summer vacation, my heart has long been "flying". I also feel that junior high school learning will be as simple as elementary school learning, so I carelessly;

The second is too worried about junior high school learning, for fear that you will fall.

The former requires the parents' "顶 前 前" to emphasize the importance of junior high school learning and certain difficulties. The latter requires parents to give more encouragement and confidence.

2. Establish goals -compare the situation in the middle school entrance examination in recent years, assist children to find their own position.

The scope of the examination and examination policy of the middle school entrance examination, the admission score line of different schools, has some changes every year. As a child's "big rear", parents need to spend some time and energy in these aspects. They can usually pay more attention to some official or educational websites. Essence

With reference to the scores of the high school entrance examination in previous years, it can help children basically determine a direction of hard work and take every step down.

3. Fully understand the school system, basic norms, examination selection, etc. must be made in advance.

Many parents only enter the school's junior high school in order to enable their children to enter the school's high school in the future. Therefore, we must learn about the selection criteria of relevant schools as soon as possible.

What conditions should be met; it is ranked according to the total score; whether there are requirements for the results of the specific discipline; what is the distribution of specific places ... This is a question that parents need to consider in advance.

Early understanding the school's relevant system, creating conditions for children's junior high school learning as much as possible. For avoiding time, he is busy, which affects the children's high school. From now on, there are counts in your heart and randomly strain.

4. Communicate early -convey the basic situation of the child to the teacher.

It should be emphasized that communicating with the teacher is not to "make a small report or" "listen to the children's details" in the future. Parents should correct this attitude and do not leave the child's feeling of being monitored at any time.

Especially for boarding students, most of the time spent in school. Parents must be able to take the child to the child to pass the bridge with the teacher.

The teacher here, in addition to the class teacher and teacher, also have each class teacher. After all, the middle school entrance examination is a comprehensive selection test, communicating with the teacher, mainly to avoid children's excessive partial discipline, understanding the child's mentality changes, and actively cooperating with the teacher.

5. Finding method -how to deal with children who are about to enter adolescence?

At the junior high school stage, the child has his own thoughts, "disobedient" is a commonplace.

At this time, parents can no longer be scolded or practiced as before, and they need to be patient with their children.

Can you educate excellent children? This is a critical period. Parents must not only be children's mirrors, but also continue to expand their knowledge, learn more about excellent parents, and change the simple and rude education method.

For children, junior high school is a new starting point. For parents, it is an important step for the Long March. If you want to play this game, you must take every step.

Children's education is far away. As a parent, we must grow with children.According to the education focus of each stage, help children become talents and adults!(This article is recommended by Teacher Xu Jie, from the primary school Chinese, and the copyright belongs to the original author)

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