"Don't help your daughter to bring a baby again", a "tearful advice" of a grandma, helpless but real

The normal social state today is to bring a baby.

After having a child in the light generation, the elders in the family became the main force of the baby. On the one hand, because young people need to continue to make money to support their families, they could not stop because they had children.

On the other hand, it is also a manifestation of young people's "old". The elderly have both experience to reassure themselves, and do not need to spend money to hire people by themselves.

Is it helpless? Still conspired?

It's helple

Since ancient times, the way of getting along with mother -in -law has always been a problem. Whether it is good -tempered or highly emotional intelligence, when talking about my mother -in -law, I will feel a headache. I just want to escape as soon as possible. I can't wait to suffer from such troubles. Essence

Indeed, the existence of her mother -in -law was originally opposed. Because the two men were tied to the same man, they also scrambled to fight for this man. They all wanted to monopolize this man. It was not normal to have a contradiction after encountering problems.

When women are confinement, the uncle will take the initiative to take the responsibility of serving the confinement, for fear that the weak daughter will suffer from illness because of a little thing. Even if you can't protect your daughter forever, at least you can't have problems at this critical time.

I can really think about Bao Ma

During pregnancy, the pregnant mother had a few months of happiness. The whole family, including the mother -in -law, must follow her. Whether it is unreasonable or daily life, it will take care of the mood of pregnant women. Baby send.

But the good times did not last long. After the child was born, the good days came. First of all, the mother -in -law's family would be placed on the child. The mother is just the child's nanny or the "cafeteria". The attitude of the gas is also on the face of the child.

But this embarrassment will not appear on the uncle. In the eyes of the uncle, the child is cute, and it is more important than her daughter. The feeling of the daughter is the most important thing. Is an outsider.

"Don't help your daughter to bring a baby", a "tearful advice"

Thinking for her daughter, but it has encouraged her to enjoy her bad habits

When her mother comes to take care of her daily living, her daughter will have a sense of familiarity and practicality. After all, with her mother for decades, my mother knows her living habits and eating habits. No friction.

It is precisely because of this sense of familiarity that it will make her daughter feel that they have given up their own life. It should be treated as a nanny. There is no problem and illness. Sometimes it is unobstructed.

This little thing about this will be a huge problem that plagues the mother. Is it a machine that does not need to rest? There is no reward every day, and no one will endure it! What's more, take care of the two surnames at the same time!

There are son -in -law at home, there are many inconvenient places in the family, there are many inconveniences

The emotions between the mother -in -law and the son -in -law are very subtle. There is not such a sentence: the mother -in -law looks at the son -in -law, the more you look at it, the more pleasing to the eye. This is not groundless, but the mother -in -law consciously pleases the son -in -law, and wants the son -in -law to make the son -in -law better to his daughter.

Therefore, in daily interaction, the relationship between mother -in -law and son -in -law is very harmonious, but no matter how to suppress her emotions, the mother -in -law and son -in -law are two people. The gap and distance between each other are real.

Especially on the problem of dressing in daily life, because of the existence of each other, both the uncle and the son -in -law must have some scruples. They can't change clothes at home at all, making it as restrained as outside.

In addition, there are any uncomfortable places for the son -in -law, and they cannot directly explain it. The twisted look will make the uncle feel more uncomfortable and comfortable. Although it is where my daughter lives, there are outsiders in the case of outsiders, and it is difficult to overcome. The etiquette in life is uncomfortable, which is more fatal than other aspects.

Summary today:

Who is your confinement? Is it mother -in -law or her mother? Welcome to share your thoughts with us!

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