If parents can't control themselves, many education is useless

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I often hear parents complaining: Why is it so difficult to control now? It seems that in the teenage adolescent teenagers, to only 3 years old children, the more parental governance, the more resistance the children are; the tighter the parents are, the more rebellious the child is. This can't help but be confusing. What is wrong with it? Perhaps the answer is: To manage your child, parents must first manage themselves.

After reading such a photo: On the subway, a mother read a book, and the child also picked up a book to read; the other mother was playing with her mobile phone, and the child also stared at the mobile phone. On the way to education, parents' words and deeds, children accepted the whole order, and then shown the truth from their parents from their perspective.

Children's problems are often paid. Many psychological or behavioral problems of children are likely to be related to their parents 'behavior and parents' education methods.

Parents' eyes are often only staring at their children, but they do not perceive their mistakes. Jin Du made it to the child, only to cut off the child's problems, just care about the child, but regardless of himself. The easiest result of this is: the parents are getting more and more headache, and the children are getting more and more rebellious.

Therefore, parents are not good at themselves, and many education is useless.

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Some people once said, "Don't make your children in children. If you are fulfilling, happy, responsible, and emotional management ability, your child will imitate you."

Many times, the key to education lies in parents. The parents' words and deeds are the "benchmarks" of their children. What kind of person who wants children to be, parents must first do it.

Parents are not good at their emotions, and children often copy their parents' anger when they are in trouble. Only when parents are in trouble to control their temper can they see the needs behind their children's emotions and guide their children to perceive and manage their emotions. In this way, children can enjoy the empathy of their parents and accept it. Parents take care of their urge to play games, and take care of their desire to play mobile phones, so that their children can learn self -discipline under the influence of their parents' strict discipline.

Some people say, "Family is a school that is used to, and parents are used to teachers." Each child is a natural imitator. It is difficult to cultivate children, but parents do not give up, and children will grow up in the footsteps of their parents.

Teaching is a long way, and only the example is a shortcut.

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There is a question on the Internet: What habits do parents have affected your life?

A netizen replied: "For more than ten years, my father insisted on getting up at 6:30 every day and reading for charging. And my mother, as long as there is time, I will pick up books and read it carefully. After dinner, my parents always meet in the building. Playing down the sky, or running, always happy to communicate with the benefits of exchanging movements after returning home. After many years, I realized that these are the education of my parents' deliberate to do. When I read a book, I was sleepy, and I was lazy as soon as I saw my parents still insisted on it, and I suddenly felt that it was not so painful to get up early. It seemed not so difficult to read books, and the exercise became a daily habit. "

A principal said: "Instead of spending time and energy every day on the child, trying to control the child's growth every second, it is better to do their own things as well as parents."

After having a child, many parents rushed to the child and paid a lot, but the children did not buy it. This is because the parents who abandon their self -growth are difficult to give their children a positive positive impact, and the child lacks upward motivation.

The most likely way for children to grow is to copy their current parents. Education is to teach themselves first, then teach others; Only when we first become a better ourselves can we guide children to become better people.

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Source: People's Daily

Edit: Li Xuemin

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