In the summer vacation, doing these five things with your children can mostly enhance parent -child feelings | Special attention
Author:China Education News Time:2022.08.04
During the summer vacation, the time of parents and children increased, and various problems followed. Many children's models of getting along with their parents have gone through the process of "mother -in -law and filial piety" to "watching each other." And this process only takes two or two weeks from the summer vacation.
Some psychologists reminded that by the end of August, the parent -child relationship will fluctuate for a period of time, that is, for a period of time to start school.
Parents, do you know how to open the correct way to open the parent -child relationship during the holiday?
Parents should understand that the function of summer vacation is resting
In the summer vacation, there are generally two reasons for parent -child relationships: on the one hand, many parents have to go to work, and children can only look at the elderly. The elderly take care of the children. After a long time at home, there may be some loose state that let parents crazy, such as do not like to do homework, do not like sports, addicted games or TV.
Let the children have a meaningful and happy summer vacation. Parents need to understand what summer vacation is used. It is necessary to understand the meaning of setting up summer vacation. It has reasonable expectations. In this way, there will be no fierce contradictions in the process of accompanying the child's summer vacation.
The most fundamental function of the summer vacation is to rest, and it is a holiday for children to relax physically and mentally. For most students, the usual learning tasks are relatively heavy, the rhythm of campus life is fixed and compact, and summer vacation is a rest time. If parents can take their children to travel with their children during the holidays, and do some casual activities, they can help their children relax and promote parent -child relationships.
It is more than a month in the summer vacation. If there is no plan and arrangement during this period, the child must be loose, chaotic, and boring; "Lonely".
Parents can first ask their children's expectations for summer vacation, make a rough summer plan, arrange what the child wants to do, and then put forward some restrictions and requirements, such as the time and conditions of entertainment and leisure every day, daily How much homework is completed.
After reaching an agreement with the child, you can hold a family meeting to announce the arrangement of the holidays, let the elderly know the requirements of their parents, and let the elderly help some assistance.
The older the younger children, the more specific help, and even the need to draw these agents and stick it in a conspicuous place. For students after adolescence, do not stare at the child's execution process, grasp the large and small, put forward basic requirements to explain the bottom line.
Do these five things with your children best to enhance happiness
Children's happiness is simple, it is hidden in every little thing in life.
During the holidays, to do these five things with your child, the child's happiness is best to improve the child's happiness.
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Play games with children
For children, nothing is more happier than playing.
Although the game is often misunderstood by many adults as the boring movement of time, playing is an important activity for everyone in childhood. It is an important way for children to explore and learn. Children who can play often learn.
As a parent, you must not only support your children to play, but also realize that playing with your children is also important. When playing, put down your mobile phone and work, and join the children's games wholeheartedly. Not only can you establish a good parent -child relationship, you can also educate and guide children during playing.
It is the luck of a child who can accompany himself to play with him.
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Eat more with your children
It is also a big deal to accompany the child to eat.
Today, the dining tables of many families have missing a hint of fireworks. Young parents, some are busy with work, rarely sit down with their children to eat; some are lazy to cook and often order takeaway. Others like to take care of them; others like to take care of them. Watching TV and playing mobile phones to eat, there is silence on the dining table ...
It has become the little thing that many parents do not cherish. However, the deserted family of the dining table is difficult to raise a happy child.
Children's initial memory of the family often lies in this small table. During the summer vacation, the child has a lot of time at home. Parents should have more time to eat with their children. The warmth of ground gas.
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Occasionally give children some sense of ritual
The sense of ritual looks very superficial, but it can also bring people happiness.
On holidays, birthdays, anniversary ... Before receiving blessings, we are always full of expectations. Children show more obvious performance, cheer, and even light in our eyes.
In the usual days, the sense of ritual is not complicated. The hug before going out in the morning, a good night before going to bed, the family went out for a walk after meals. These trivial matters reflected the enthusiasm for life.
Living in a family with a strong sense of ritual, seeing parents treat ordinary days with a serious attitude, children can also be affected and learn to treat life more seriously.
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Participate in some activities together
Parents can accompany their children to participate in some activities, such as outdoor sports, visiting museums, participating in community activities, and so on.
However, parents need to pay attention to that "companionship" is to emphasize the child's dominant position. Parents need to spend time to accompany their children to do what he wants to do, not what parents want their children to do.
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Have a good interaction with children
There are often some parents complaining that their children do not like to take the initiative to talk to themselves. This result appears, which is largely because adults have interrupted and scolded their children. Over time, the child's heart is full of loneliness. Children often measure their parents' love with their own feelings, especially children of adolescence. They do not like to be preached and do not like to talk. After all, for them, they all understand many truths. Parents must give up their authoritative roles and equally Communicate with children,
When children say their inner feelings, what adults need to do most are actively responding, which is the foundation of a good parent -child interaction. Every child hopes that parents can see and understand their troubles. During the listening process, parents will also make their children feel respect, and then they are willing to continue to open their hearts to their parents and make their parent -child relationship closer.
There must be a holiday -like state during the holidays. Children need safe independence, quality companionship, understanding of understanding, and target choices.
Let the holidays become the stations, harbor, and gas stations that they grow in their inside!
The article comprehensive self -| Qian Zhiliang Studio (ID: QZLGZS) "The 5th things that are most likely to make children feel happy, how many can you do? ", Huajiadi Experimental Primary School" How to improve parent -child relationships during the summer vacation? "
Some content comes from the modern education newspaper "Peace" does not exceed two weeks? Intersection How to maintain a summer harmonious parent -child relationship? Come to the focus, author Zheng Lu, is a psychological teacher of Chaoyang School affiliated to Renmin University of China.
Editor in charge | Du Runnan
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