The implementation of family education promotion law, how can parents promote each other and grow together with their children?

China Youth Network, Beijing, June 16 (Reporter Li Huaxi) From January 1 this year, the "Family Education Promotion Law" was officially implemented. Article 17 of the law clearly states: parents of minors or other guardians implement family education, and should pay attention to the development of minors' physiological, psychological, and intellectual development, respect their rights to participate in related family affairs and express opinions, and use the following methods to reasonably use the following methods and methods : (8) Promote each other, and parents and children grow together.

What misunderstandings are in the process of growing up with their children? After the "Family Education Promotion Law" is officially implemented, how can parents promote each other and grow together with their children? China Youth Network reporters interviewed Liu Xiuying, an editor -in -chief of the China Youth Research Center "Children's Research" magazine and executive director of the Chinese Family Education Society.

Parents' wrong role cognition is contrary to the law of family education

Liu Xiuying believes that the "Family Education Promotion Law" emphasizes "mutual promotion, and parents and children grow together" not only to have constructive significance to family education, but also have strong problems. Cognition.

She found in family education research for many years that in the concepts of many people, family education is the education of parents to implement their children. Parents are educators. With your existing knowledge and experience reserves, you can be competent.

"This cognition is contrary to the laws of family education." Liu Xiuying said that from the role of parents as educators, parents cannot grow up well. From the perspective of minors, imitation is an important way for them to learn. Parents are important others in their children's lives, and they are the main imitation objects for children, especially young children. Parents' words and deeds have an important impact on their children.

She believes that from the perspective of her parents, body education is an important way for family education. Psychologist Ban Dura has found that for young children, what parents do are more important than saying, and persuasion can often only affect their oral behavior, and behavior demonstration has a very significant impact on their external behavior. Essence "Parents' own quality is an important factor that affects their children's growth. To play the role of parents, the role of parents requires parents to continuously improve their own quality."

Parents' wrong role cognition is contrary to the original meaning of family education

Liu Xiuying said that his father and mother are independent individuals. Their value is not only reflected in the growth of serving their children. The role of parents is only one of the many characters in their lives. Educational functions are one of the many functions of the family. The performance of educational functions must belong to the direction that allows family members to better "live together". It cannot hinder the performance of other family functions, nor can it be ignored by the interests of other family members.

Nourishing children is not the parents' unidirectional efforts, nor do they harvest as the traditional concept thinks as the traditional concepts. In the process of raising their children, parents have harvested the joy brought by their children's growth and their own growth. Such a parenting concept and practice are more valuable and more in line with the original meaning of family education.

"It is undeniable that it is a challenge for parents to use this cognition to internalize their parents' requirements for themselves." Liu Xiuying said that parent -child relationship is not a completely equivalent interpersonal relationship. Parents of minors are stronger than their children in terms of physiological, psychological development, and economic status.

From the perspective of growth needs, the growth of minors is not only the need for social development, but also the natural law of individual growth, and has inevitability. Parents' learning and growth often is no longer a hard requirement of society and has great choice. This also proves the necessity of advocating the common growth of parents and children.

After the implementation of the "Family Education Promotion Law", how can parents promote each other and grow together with their children?

Liu Xiuying suggested that they grow up with their children, and parents can start from three aspects.

The first is to improve the basic qualities that social members and national citizens should have, including psychological quality, moral quality, cultural literacy, etc. Parents should keep in mind that their children are always looking at themselves, expecting children to become, and they must be such a person first.

Parents can comply with the relevant requirements in the "Outline of the Implementation of the Moral Construction in the New Era" to cultivate personal virtues with the main content of patriotism, obedience, hard work, generosity, and self -discipline as the main content of patriotism, diligence and kindness, generosity and integrity, and self -discipline. As a good builder, be a good member in the family, laying a good foundation for the success of family education.

The second is to improve the quality of education, that is, the ability of family education, establish the correct family education concept, and consciously learn the knowledge of family education. This kind of learning should be continuous and developed, running through the growth process of children.

Parents became parents after giving birth to their children. With the age of children, parents' parents are also growing. Children of different ages have different physiological and psychological characteristics, and their growth tasks and problems are different. Therefore, the education methods need to be adjusted with the growth of their children. If you use the method of educating a 5 -year -old child to educate children 12 years old, the occurrence of "rebellious" is an inevitable. This requires parents to learn and grow uninterruptedly.

The third is to pay attention to the interaction with each other and the overlapping of life, so that parents and children can achieve each other and promote growth. Parents should show their growth to their children, so that they will not only benefit from the improvement of the quality of parents 'education, but also grow from the improvement of their parents' own quality. What kind of projects are recently done, what tests are preparing to take, the year -end unit assessment has been evaluated by the excellent, and the volunteer is proactively declared in the anti -epidemic, which can be shared with the child. Parents can also learn with their children, read a good book, watch a good movie together, and then communicate. Parents should learn from their children to learn from their children, learn to listen to their children, learn to ask their children for help, and the children are more in line with the footsteps of the development of the world today.

Faced with some problems in life, such as the excessive use of electronic products such as mobile phones, parents can discuss with their children and set up rules for use, and to reach a consensus to comply with and supervise each other. Habit.

"Parents and children are at different stages of life, but the role of parents, as the responsibility of the main responsibility of family education, has become a common requirement for parents and children, and it is also an inevitable result of the implementation of family education science." In a sense, children come to this world, so that parents have the opportunity to squat down and re -examine this world that they have become accustomed to, correct some solidified cognition, and find ordinary and daily beauty. Improve itself; in order not to delay the development of the children and strive to learn to become a qualified guide, in the process, the common growth of parents and children can be achieved.

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