Why didn't the girl who was violent?

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Why didn't she want to get in an ambulance?

Author: Fan Weiwei (Editorial Editor in Specific Lover)

The author of "Deadly Lover", Professor Jane Monckton Smith, is a Forensic Criminology. In the early 1980s, after joining the police team after the "Gender Disclosure Law" was promulgated in 1975, the reason why she was committed to domestic violence and emotional manipulation, tracking harassment, and intimate partner murder cases. It is due to an unforgettable police experience when he first obtained the qualifications of police officers:

She is likely to be less than eighteen years old, sitting on a chair without a word, surrounded by medical staff on the ambulance. She was hit by a hammer that can be broken. Her boyfriend -that is, the attacker -before we arrived, they fled the scene. The girl looked at the floor vigorously, silent, motionless. The blood dripped behind her neck and flowed to the carpet. The medical staff was trying to convince her to go to the hospital with them, but she refused silently and nothing could persuade her.

We can see that she did not plan to help us complain to the one who attacked her. Therefore, we left her there, sitting alone, staring at the blood stains, to deal with our increasingly urgent things. I, sheriff, and medical care, are all powerless and frustrated.

"Why?" I remembered that I asked the sheriff, "Why didn't she want to get on the ambulance? I can't understand it."

"Get habit," the alarm sighed and replied, "They are like this."

What he said is the victim of domestic violence. He is not a cold -hearted person: the behavior of the victims of domestic violence is different from the "normal" person. This view is not due to the lack of compassion, but he really has too many family violence to receive police experience. He was used to seeing the victim's refusal to rescue, too many time and time again. Like many of him before and after, assuming that as an adult woman, she can choose to stand up and leave. He is likely to think that standing up and leaving will be free from domestic violence and violence, so that she can get freedom and safety. So he believes that this person, and other people like her, do not act as any normal person or should do.

That night, I never saw the young girl, but I never forgot her. Why do she refuse to rescue, I want to know the answer to this question. Her behavior, as well as her boyfriend's behavior, is the basis of understanding domestic violence, emotional manipulation, and intimate partner murder cases.

From that night to more than thirty years, Professor Smith actively carried out related work and research to help law enforcement and criminal judicial system better understand domestic violence crimes, and designed methods that can crack down on crimes. Her work is quite diverse, including helping the police and other professionals evaluate threats and risks, conduct a review process for the murderous case for the British Ministry of Political Affairs, assist the police to conduct investigation and traceability cases, and design intervention measures for more effectively curbing the murder cases.

When she wrote a report for forensic doctors, she found that she was still trying to answer questions when she was still in the police. "Why don't she leave directly?" "If she was so bad, would she definitely leave?" "Did she not care about her child?" "Why did she not agree to prosecution?" Why don't you want to get in an ambulance? " When she is trying to explain people's behavior, the starting point of reference is that most people act in the way they think are the most in line with their own interests. So compared to asking, "Why don't she want to get in an ambulance", what should be asked: "Why not on the ambulance is the most favorable to her?" That night, the young girl refused to rescue the rescue, and the attacker who stimulated her The reason why he picked up the heavy hammer and waved to her head was the same. This model is linked to the hundreds of intimate partners she had seen in the past few decades.

Emotional manipulation is often difficult to detect, puzzling or concealed. It may be recognized legal, but this does not make it easy to identify or understand in practice. Professor Smith's work is committed to finding methods, making it easier for individuals, charities, police departments and judicial organs to do this. People often assume that victims and perpetrators are impulsive and lost rational thinking to explain emotional manipulation, domestic violence and murder. The murderer is often regarded as a husband, boyfriend or lover, not a dangerous criminal. There are also assumptions that: either the murder is curbed and will not harm a wider group; it is reasonable to kill to some extent. These two views are wrong in the author of "Deadly Lover". There is a correlation between domestic violence and wider crimes, and domestic violence is also related to other forms of homicide, and more than one partner has been killed in many cases.

So she talked with the police and other professionals, the surviving victims of the murderer, the family of the victims of the murder, and the murderer himself; she read the medical records, investigation files, diaries, SMS, social media, victims, and the victims, and the victims, and the victims, and the victims, and the victims, and the victims. Letters written by the murderer; listening to the call recording of the old woman for help, and watching the picture of the murderer in the CCTV monitoring before and after the crime. By studying more than 400 close partners' murder cases, she constructed the murderer's portrait and their motives they killed their wives, husbands, partners, and even children. Studies have found that the murderers often follow the mode of emotional manipulation. By identifying and identifying these models, you can track the risks of potential victims and how it is gradually upgraded. It can be seen earlier to prevent tragedy. She divided the risk of gradually upgrading into eight stages, called the "murder timeline". The following is the significant feature of each stage:

1

History of manipulation and tracking

It happened before the two met and established the relationship. Understand whether the other party has had a history of manipulating others before, and judging whether the other party is a person with a strong control.

2

Whirlwind promise

When a man with manipulation discovers the object of interaction, they will try to promote the relationship quickly. The manipulator expects to quickly get the other party's commitment to his life.

3

Live in manipulation

The manipulator let his partner live in manipulation through the law of jealousy and loyalty. The law of jealousy is manifested in serious restrictions on the freedom of partner; the law of loyalty requires the partner to refuse the external "adverse effects" and only obey the manipulator.

4

trigger

The trigger phase is that the manipulator feels that what he deserves is changing. The partner's proposal to break up is one of the main reasons for the manipulator to feel the loss of power.

5

upgrade

At this stage, the manipulator will do everything in order to prevent changes: begging, crying, insulting, and even threats to suicide. Tracking harassment is also commonplace.

6

Change of ideas

The manipulator began to believe that the victim must be destroyed to restore his position. They changed from trying to retain their partners to maintain their relationship to prevent their partners from leaving and decided to kill them.

7

plan

Most of the murderers planned the murder, which undoubtedly broke the false myth of "impulse" and "passionate crime". The average time between breakup and killing is more than a month.

8

Murderous

Such homicide is often accompanied by lasting violence. This process was full of anger: there was almost no death, a shot, or a punch, and most of the victims suffered a terrible manipulation and abuse during their lifetime.

The "Murder Time Axis" explained in "Deadly Lover" challenged the debate of "impulse" and "passionate crime" about family murder cases. For decades, such an excuse for decades, even for thousands of years, dominated people's mainstream cognition of such murders. Now we are pleased to see that the idea of ​​this issue is changing. The more questions people have made this, the more discussions are discussed; It is essential to figure out all stages of the timeline: it can promote the discussion of related issues, challenge the deep -rooted concept, and help people support each other.

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The new book "Deadly Lover" of the "Translation Documentary" series focuses on domestic violence · identification emotional manipulation · Breaking the wrong concept

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[British] Jane Monkton Smith, Yin Xiaodong Translation Shanghai Translation Press

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