Get rid of "loneliness" and rebuild "social force" (below)

【Psychological Suggestions】

In the last issue, we mentioned that the elderly still have social needs. Playing mobile phones and playing WeChat is a kind of attempt to link with the outside world. So, in order to rebuild the "social force" of the elderly, what are the attention? Let's analyze from two angles.

For elderly friends: First, all changes in the elderly are the stages of life. The elderly need to have both the courage to face, and to prepare for the new stage of life.

Second, although the elderly lost the social link in the workplace due to retirement, they also made time and space for the development of new "friends circle". Therefore, the elderly must grasp this rare "window period" and expand their social relationships and "deep operations." For example, through the elderly university, the elderly can harvest classmates; by making friends on the way, the elderly can establish a "companion relationship"; through cultural and sports activities, the elderly can find a partner with similar interests.

Third, compared with young people, the learning ability of the elderly has weakened, but it cannot stop. Faced with the rapid Internet waves, the elderly should get rid of fear, ask shamelessly, dare to try, and welcome more social ecology with an open mind.

In addition, whether in social activities or in family life, elderly friends must make full use of their advantages and do their best to reflect their own value, rather than passively waiting for being followed and respected. For example, you can accept retirement, as an expert adviser, help take care of his grandchildren, serve as community volunteers, etc.

For children: The loneliness of the elderly is generally in family relations. The elderly desire and pursue the joy of heaven, and a good family relationship is their spiritual sustenance. If the children care about them more, they often take out time to communicate with them, so that the elderly can appreciate less loneliness.

In the end, I want to talk about what attitude should the children adhere to the old people when they see the old people in touch with new things? In fact, whether the old people are "touching the net" or exposed to other new things. As children, we should first encourage and support. With the increase of age, the ability and desire of the elderly will become increasingly decreased. Therefore, we must cherish the urge to learn each parents and continue to enlarge their desire to knowledge with our encouragement.

Of course, the current Internet world is complicated, and there are even some negative content. In order to avoid unnecessary risks, we can play the "learning partners" of parents and share "learning experience" with them to help them avoid possible "network traps". (National three -level psychological counselor, family education instructor (senior) Dai Yu)

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