Get rid of "loneliness" and rebuild "social force" (above)

Ms. Shen's letter: Since there is a smartphone, the two old people in my family have become "mobile phone fans". As soon as they have time, they have started to "brush" WeChat circle of friends. After reading, they must "like". Recently, they also learned to read articles in the public account and leave a message to the author. When the message is adopted, they will be excited like children, which will become more happy. Want to ask the experts, why do the elderly have such a performance?

【Psychological Evaluation】

The two elderly people became "mobile phone fans" and showed the behavior of "reading must be praised", which may be related to the "loneliness" of the elderly. People are social animals. Each social relationship is an emotional link between people and others. However, due to the recession of the physiological function, the social relationship will become more and more single, and social activities will become less and less. At the same time, due to the high pressure and fast pace of modern society, family members, especially their children, have reduced their care and care of the elderly, which further exacerbates the loneliness of the elderly.

When the old man's message is adopted, it will be "excited like a child", which may be related to its "sense of value". People will gain self -improvement, identity, and self -esteem in socialization. Among them, self -esteem is a senior need for human beings. When self -esteem needs to be satisfied, people will feel that they are valuable and powerful; on the contrary, they will feel incompetent and weak, generate inferiority, and lose self -confidence. Before entering the elderly, self -esteem can be satisfied by diversified social relations; after entering the elderly, as the emotional links with society are disconnected one by one, the channels for satisfying self -esteem will become fewer and narrower.

Psychology believes that people are profitable and avoiding harm. When the old people feel lonely and self -esteem, they will generally not wait for all the loss of social relationships and self -esteem. Instead, they will actively rebuild links or find new relationships to satisfy self -esteem. This process generally follows the principle of "from the inside out, first supplement and then built". For example, at the New Year, children far away from other places will always receive call greetings from their hometown elderly people. This is the link between the elderly to repair the family members in the "inside"; This is the link to the "foreign" reconstruction of social relations; the two elderly people mentioned in the letter, "brush" the circle of friends, follow the public account, and like it, and leave a message. In each section of the social relations that restart or rebuild, slowly regain the sense of social belonging and self -esteem.

In addition, after entering the elderly, people's perception, memory and intelligence usually degenerate to a certain degree. When learning new knowledge, it often takes longer and more energy. Therefore, for the elderly, with the help of the Internet and intelligent electronic devices, their own voice and have a healthy interaction with other individuals means to break their existing social habits and accept and adapt to the new social environment. Metaphor. Even so, the elderly are "not tired of this". This spirit of being brave to break through is worthy of encouragement. (National three -level psychological counselor, family education instructor (senior) Dai Yu)

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