Your mentality is your destiny

The TED speech once introduced an experiment.

Italian scholars have studied a group of patients who have undergone thoracic surgery surgery. Chest surgery is an invasive surgery. Patients will cut their mouths on both sides of his front chest or back muscle in anesthesia. Enter the heart or lungs.

After the effect of losing the anesthetic, the patient began to feel pain, and at this time, he relieved pain to relieve pain.

Scholars performed a comparison. Half of patients were injected by the doctor in the injection of painkillers; the other half was injected into the vein through the pre -set pump.

The results showed that patients who injected drugs by doctors felt painful to relieve the pain, and the other group was very effective.

The same test is also amazing in the treatment of other diseases. The same medicine and dose can clearly feel that the patients who are being treated are better than those who do not know that they have been injected with drugs.

There is a phenomenon called "placebo effect". When the patient "believes" the treatment is effective and "expected" to recover, even if it is not effective, the symptoms will be relieved.

The place where the placebo effect is present is the magical power of the mentality.

A person's expectations for cure affects our weight, blood pressure, body fat, and anything in life.

What is the role of mentality?

"Mental Mind Determine Everything" mentioned that human thinking is a target computer system. The subconscious lingering in people's minds is like a computer program, which directly affects the results of the computer operation.

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If you think that you are a failed person in the subconscious, you will continue to see a desperate and difficult self on your "screen" in your heart; constantly hear that "I don't grow up and have no interest" Negative words.

Then feel frustration, inferiority, helplessness, and incompetence, and you will "be destined" in real life.

On the contrary, if you think that you are a successful person in the subconscious, you will continue to see a sense of rustic and refreshing self on your "screen" in your heart; hear you "you do well, but you will you will Incentive words such as doing better ".

Then feel joy, self -esteem, comfort and excellence, and you will be "doomed" in real life.

There is a story in "Mental Mental Decision Everything". A young woman went to the river to commit suicide and was rescued by the old man who was rowing in the river.

年 艄 asked: "Look at you at a young age, why do you want to see yourself?"

The young woman cried: "You don't know. For two years when I got married, my husband abandoned me, and then the child died unfortunately. What is the meaning of my life?"

Gong Gong asked again: "How did you live in those two years ago?"

The young woman said, "At that time, I was free and carefree."

"Do you have a husband and child two years ago?"

"No."

"So, you are just sent back to the ship of fate two years ago. Now you are free and carefree."

After listening to the words of Gonggong, the young woman suddenly shocked the day and gave up the idea of ​​seeking shortness.

A person's life will always encounter such difficulties and unexpected trauma, but when you face the mentality of life, you determine your way of action and determine what the future you have.

A positive person is always positive and optimistic and rarely complained; even at the most difficult moment, he can encourage himself.

They never set their own limits, so they can inspire their own infinite potential; they try to make their positive emotions infect the surrounding companions, most of the time they live in positive emotions, enjoying the fun of life.

At the time of difficulties, they believe that there are always many ways than difficulties, so they can actively seek solutions to re -ignite their fire.

There is a famous "cat -kick effect" in psychology.

A company chairman once promised employees that he would go to the company very early.

One day, he was fascinated by reading newspapers at home and forgot time. In order not to be late, he drove over speed and was issued a ticket by the police, but he was late.

At the company, he called the sales manager to the office in order to transfer the attention of the employee. After the sales manager was trained, she was naturally not good, and she called the secretary again and was picky about her.

The secretary was trained for no reason and was also angry, so he deliberately found the customer service. The customer service helplessly returned home, and saw his son who did not know his homework, and sent a temper to him.

The child felt inexplicable, and he had nowhere to vent, and he kicked the cat fiercely.

Our anxiety, dissatisfaction, and resentment will delay the level of strength and be passed to the weakest side, so that they can bear unreasonable criticism and accusations.

In this emotional food chain, as long as one person can change his mindset, you can avoid the infection of bad emotions.

If the chairman can accept being late, he will apologize to the employees frankly; if the secretary can understand the original intention of the prince to vent his emotions, he will no longer blame innocent customer service ...

10 % in life are composed of what happened to you, and the other 90 % is determined by what you maintain to what you happen.

The book also gives 5 methods to establish a positive attitude:

The first is to use great and positive self -awareness, especially self -evaluation.

Writer Lulishe Hai proposed that the easiest way to love himself is to say affirmative sentences to himself every day: "You are good", "You are great", "I love you so much" ... the so -called so -called Self -confidence is to have a positive self -evaluation of yourself and believe in yourself from the heart.

The second is to describe your feelings using great, positive and pleasant sentences.

If someone asks you, "How do you think today?" If you answered "I'm tired" and "not so good", your conversation will become a negative emotional vent.

If you answer: "Very good, the weather is so great, so many interesting things ..."

The other party will feel your happiness, and people prefer to chat with you.

The third is to describe others with bright, happy, and favorable words.

No matter what you describe, you are in front of you, or are not present. Avoid using destructive words to describe him, such as "really stupid", "very annoying" ...

The fourth is to encourage others in positive words.

Everyone is eager to be praised, and sincere praise is the best tool for deepening the relationship. The better the use, the closer the relationship is.

The fifth is to state your plan to others in positive words.

When people hear "whether we like or not, we have to do this work", their hearts will feel dull and bored, and their actions will be affected.

On the contrary, when people hear "we encounter excellent opportunities", their hearts will rise.

The world is objective and subjective.

We may not be able to change our lives, but we can at least change the outlook on life;

We may not be able to change the wind direction, but we can at least adjust the sails;

We may not be able to control things, but we can at least adjust our mood.

Active people can always find positive explanations about things, and then seek positive solutions, and eventually get positive results.

The positive results will be strengthened to strengthen his positive emotions, so that he will become more active people.

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