[Time Fanghua] Wang Haixia, I hope that every child will be born to the sun

The happiness of the sun is to give people light; the happiness of the moon is to give people warmth; the happiness of children's psychological counselors is that every child can grow to the sun and grow happily. This is the beautiful life vision of psychological counselor Wang Haixia, and she is also the original intention of her psychological counseling.

Become a professional spiritual guardian

Wang Haixia is gentle and gentle, giving a sense of intimacy. After graduating from high school, she was admitted to the psychology major of Anhui Normal University and went to Suzhou after reading the Master of Psychology.

In 2016, Wang Haixia founded a psychological counseling firm. "Teacher Wang, please come over, a student wants to jump off the building ..." One day in April 2018, Wang Haixia received a call from a primary school in Suzhou. It turned out that when the third grade students were on the toilet, they stepped on the windowbar to jump down. I happened to be a physical education teacher in the eyes and grabbing him, otherwise the consequences were unimaginable. "This child reported to the toilet in class, and did not expect him ..." The teacher in the lecture was frightened and told Wang Haixia in panic. Wang Haixia found that Liang Liang wrote "I don't want to drag my parents anymore." According to years of experience, she judged that Liang Liang's suicide must have something to do with parents. When the head teacher contacted the parents, the parents refused to believe anything. "My son can't commit suicide, what he knows so little!" After seeing the child's suicide, they believed that the child's psychology was really wrong.

Wang Haixia uses professional methods to relax from body to spirit. Gradually, the bright body from stiff to soft, and finally crying. "Why did they give birth to me, but they disliked me? I'm also afraid of death ..." Wang Haixia listened to his cry seriously. It turned out that bright parents often quarreled. When they quarreled, the mother always loved, "If it wasn't for the child, I would not have passed with you." He thought that he could live a happy life if he died.

Wang Haixia knows that it is difficult to persuade Liang just by reason. She adopted the role -playing method to let him stand at the perspective of his parents. Feeling that his parents were just talking at the time, he did not sincerely hope that he had no him. Then she asked her parents and son to speak in her heart. "You are dead, your mother will not live ..." Mom cried. "You're wrong, Dad is wrong, no matter how, we can't lose you ..." Dad who has always been silent also shed tears. Liang Liang really felt that parents care about themselves.

Parents who need to grow behind the problem

"Parents often only see the appearance. In fact, the parents must stand behind each problem that the parents must stand behind. Only by finding the crux can the problem be fundamentally solved." Wang Haixia deeply understood this.

One day in May 2019, a mother took her daughter to find Wang Haixia. "Teacher Wang, I can't take her ..." She was angry and helpless to tell her daughter's "crime". It turned out that the girl Tingting has never wanted to go to school for a day or two since she was in junior high school. She was indifferent to letting her parents teach and scold.

After further understanding, Wang Haixia sees a particularly serious family of men and women. Tingting's parents have been working in Suzhou. She lived in her hometown with her grandmother since she was a child. Only her parents had a few days of reunion with her during the New Year. Tingting, who lacks the care of her parents, believes that she can return to her parents as long as she works hard, so she has always achieved good grades in elementary school. What she didn't expect was that after returning to her parents in junior high school, all the beautiful fantasies about her parents were broken. Parents love their younger brother more, and her brother has a separate room, and she can only sleep in the living room. "I hope they scold me, although I am uncomfortable, but I will feel a little relaxed!" Tingting talked about the grievances in his heart. Wang Haixia was very distressed. She was asking her parents to ask her parents in a resistance, but her parents did not know this.

The most distressed thing is that Tingting was able to go to school normally through psychological counseling for a period of time, but later because of her father's blows, she returned to the origin and had to drop out of school to work in the supermarket. "It is easy for us to change children, but it is difficult to change parents. If the environment where the child is located has not changed, then his psychological problems are likely to be repeated." Wang Haixia was helpless.

"Many people have a cognitive misunderstanding of psychological counseling, thinking that it is good to consult one or twice. In fact, psychological counseling is not as simple as talking, chatting and chatting, and it is not done overnight. It takes at least three months of counseling." Wang Haixia is very important Passionate public welfare, she applied her professional to the place where the society needs, and set up a professional team to provide decompression and psychological counseling services. As the head of the "Chengxin+Minor Health Growth Guidance Center" in Xiangcheng District, Suzhou City, she is responsible for the psychological health of minors 3 to 18 years old in the district; Visit and assist with the women's federation at all levels; as the person in charge of the work of the district court "Guardian Flower Care", and to provide psychological support for the parties with the judges; Guarding children's mental health.

Guard the child's health and protect the family's happiness

Some people say that the psychological counselor is equivalent to the "emotional trash can" of others. Wang Haixia once felt suffering and tired, but more was to feel the happiness and happiness of helping others. Once, she went to a high school for training. After the training, a group of students gathered around. "Teacher Wang, do you remember me?" A girl asked excitedly. "You are ..." Wang Haixia tried his best to search in his mind. "I suffered from depression at that time, because I had your help, I slowly got better ..." The girl did not taboo. "You are all in high school ..." Wang Haixia was particularly happy to see the children who had taught them happily. After the outbreak of the new crown pneumonia in 2020, Wang Haixia began to work with seven national second -level psychological counselors to form a psychological hotline volunteer team in the second day of the year. Groups, first -tier social staff, medical staff, isolated personnel, etc. provide decompression and psychological guidance services.

"The general public has similar emotions such as anxiety, irritability, panic, etc., but it cannot be left without any. If these negative emotions are not resolved in time, it is easy to cause psychological diseases. After replying to WeChat, I was invited to teach psychological adjustment tips for re -work enterprises, communities, and schools in the form of "micro -class" to relieve depression and enhance confidence in fighting against the epidemic.

As of now, Wang Haixia has carried out more than 8,000 cases of psychological counseling, group counseling, and held more than 2,000 activities such as psychological health lectures, parent reading clubs, and more than 500 people in the psychological crisis. She also adheres to the popularization of psychological health knowledge for the public every week, raised the awareness of the whole people's psychological health, and serves more than 800,000 people online.

Do a focus on professionalism and warm the public with the love of great love. Numerous affirmation and praise made Wang Haixia more firm. She said: "I will do my best to help more children and protect more family happiness."

Source: Provincial Women's Federation New Media Center

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