9 methods break through the psychological illusion of "I don't deserve"

Get the long -awaited opportunity, but feel a little unsatisfactory?

The post that has been concerned about a long time was suddenly got by myself. Is it because of luck?

This article will tell you why we sometimes have the subjective feelings of "I'm not worth".

"Congratulations! You are chosen as ..."

"You get this honor."

"Only less than 3%of applicants are admitted."

Have you ever been like this? You have the long -awaited opportunity, but do you have some carefulness?

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"You have just been promoted."

You have been paying attention to this post for a long time, although you feel that you may not be able to do so, in the end, you are still promoted.

But you think it may be your own luck, not really competent ...

Why is this?

01

"Anti -name and replace syndrome"

This feeling is called "analogy -top syndrome".

Those who suffer from "compete replacement syndrome" cannot attribute their success to their own abilities. They firmly believe that their success is to rely on luck or timing, or others mistakenly think that they are strong, smart, and always always think that they are very capable and smart. I am worried that one day others will know their ability.

This feeling was first proposed by psychologist Pauline R Clance and Suzanne A LMES more than 40 years ago. At first, the academic community believed that high achievements and marginal groups, such as women and ethnic minorities, were The impact of the phenomenon is greater. Later studies found that the replacement syndrome is common in the workplace.

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Maybe you know that from rational perspective, this feeling of feeling that you feel insufficient is a common reaction, but from emotional but your body may be considered:

-I I can't compete;

-The honor does not belong to me;

-This is not real;

-This is just luck, not relying on my efforts or talents.

-...

Sometimes, we would rather compose a story to persuade ourselves, and we would not want to accept the reality of "deserve".

02

9 methods

When the name comes with the syndrome, there are some methods here to alleviate these bad feelings and help you regain confidence.

1. Create a "exaggerated wall" for yourself

Including some honors you get, praise and gratitude to you, and your excellent transcripts, and so on.

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2. Be with the right person

With those who know and be good at you, you will receive TA's willingness, objective and positive evaluation and suggestions to stop your thoughts.

3. Try to share this feeling

Studies have shown that almost two -thirds of the workplace people have felt the feeling of replacing syndrome. Therefore, try to tell your concerns and fear, I believe that TA is likely to be the same as you. It won't be long, maybe you will find that there are a few people without such a feeling. Sharing your feelings under the replacement syndrome can help you look at your feelings more objectively.

4. Write your own achievements

Sometimes, we do not know ourselves completely. Listing the achievements you achieved one by one, you will find that we underestimate ourselves, we are far better than we think.

5. Stop comparing with others

Everyone has their own lives, so there is no need to compare the achievements of others on themselves. "Don't be busy chasing what others have."

6. Don't pursue perfection

Perfect is always a difficult thing to be defined accurately, and it is likely that we can never achieve perfection, because they always feel that "it is a little bit". Instead of gaining A+, it is better to be satisfied with A, and there are not many people who can get A after all.

7. Develop a "exaggerated group"

Sometimes, we don't know how powerful we are. Try to build such a circle. The people in this circle will recognize and praise your work results in whether they are colleagues or friends, so you don't need to keep telling yourself how well you have done in your work. Similarly, you also need to express your affirmation and appreciation of the work of TA.

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8. Certainly when it can be achieved

We often work hard for a goal, but ignore what extent to achieve the goal. To overcome this problem, you need to think about what the target has completed.

9. iteration work plan

The one -step plan is destined to fail. The planning and projects at work can be gradually improved. Starting from the original 1.0 version, slowly adjusted and upgraded to 2.0, and finally iterated a more reasonable and efficient version.

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Our mind sometimes teases us and makes us feel "I don't deserve".

The above method is to tell everyone that the feeling of the emergence of the name of the name of the name is the symbol of success, not the fuse of anxiety. It rationally and objectively treats the names of the replacement syndrome, control the situation, work hard, and control the control of control. Essence

I believe that we can get the opportunity to get, deserve the honor we get -we will always be worth it.

The road of everyone's workplace is not smooth sailing. When frustration, they will be discouraged, and they may be plagued by "coming replacement syndrome" in success. However, we must believe that we will always be worthy of any opportunity to come to us. Maybe you have work pressure in the workplace, interpersonal troubles, and many confusion about self -growth, then psychological counseling may be a good way to help you reduce stress and relieve your troubles. If you are also looking for suitable psychological counseling and want to explore ourselves in depth with professional people, our "psychological medical examination" service may help you accurately and efficiently.

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This article compiles, the original link:

https://www.psychologytody.com/intl/blog/optimizing-success/202206/10-ways- organposer-syndrome

Author: Ruth Gotian Ed.d., M.S.

Compilation: huai

Responsible editor: YY, Jane

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