I tried to maintain my daily life until someone said, "You just pretend to be normal"

Author:Simple psychology Time:2022.09.26

There are too many moments in life, we are all pretending to be.

Because of the fear of being seen through and fear of others to see our fragile side, we hide our weakness, helplessness, anxiety and anxiety, and hide our unstable self, thereby fictional a strong appearance.

If you unload this camouflage, we may not be able to stand the huge anxiety and fear in imagination. So he disguised himself hard until someone saw it.

▷ The Movie "Hedgehog's Elegant"

Many people are gradually seeing all the vulnerability and defense of themselves at the psychological counselor. They have learned a little bit to remove the camouflage and start the healing journey.

Not long ago, the simple psychological readers shared the real consultation experience of the TAs. On the way to seeking spiritual healing and self -growth, we have never been in a hurry.

*The content is authorized by readers, and the nicknames are pseudonym.

You are just pretending that everything is normal

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At that time, I was carrying a secret and took a long time. As if a person trek in a swamp, full of loneliness and darkness.

In the consulting room, I tell my sense of loneliness. After describing that incident, how did I work hard to maintain my daily life.

The consultant listened quietly, looked at me carefully, and said slowly: You are like a little sun, desperately want to let yourself, and hold up.

At that moment, I realized: I traveled all the way before, and I thought I had maintained my daily life, but I was just pretending that everything was normal.

▷ The Japanese drama "Where is my skirt?"

Finally, I feel that I can temporarily remove the heavy burden, in a safe and warm environment. As if my swamp was shining into a beam of light, the consultant carried a lamp, from the depths of the darkness, and stepped to my side step by step.

I cried, I relaxed, at least me, I was no longer alone.

Is there a lot of things in your life?

@ @Q

Because of a little thing, I felt that I was hit, and the whole was broken. I know that this day is finally here for someone who has been consuming himself. I can't rely on myself as before, so I go to the power of consultation.

The consultant said: In your life, isn't many things be allowed?

I cried at the time. I also subconsciously used rationality to interpret my crying behavior. I said that I read a book and wrote: I cried in the consultation that the depressed emotions were released in the past.

The consultant stopped me and said: You can not explain it.

This means that I can cry freely without any explanation.

Ah, isn't this allowed? It turned out that crying was always allowed ...

▷ The movie "Beautiful Soul"

Not shameless

@Start consultation a year ago, it continues until now

Open the consultation because I can't find the strength and goals of learning, and I am depressed and tired every day. There are also various problems such as high -sensitive, appearance anxiety.

I remember the first consultation so far, and I kept crying in front of an outsider for the first time. But crying is a lot. The biggest life motivation every time during that time is to be able to consult.

My consultant is a beautiful big sister. She really can get my point, and every time I encourage me to explore anxiety and find the source of some emotion, it feels really good.

I was anxious, but she said that I looked much better than I thought. She would objectively evaluate me and very specific. She is also very temperamental, and the confident aura has deeply affected me.

▷ British drama "Try"

I will not be so sensitive now, I am more acceptable to myself, and sometimes I don't pay much attention to others' evaluation of myself. As for learning, it is almost the same for me. But in fact, with the improvement of the mentality, the grades have improved.

Parents also came into contact with the consultation, and they also understood me better. I feel happy now.

@Cola

There are some obstacles in interpersonal relationships, seeking consultation help.

I often cry in the consultation, and this is the first time. Sometimes when I talk about it, I feel particularly wronged.

That day, after I cried, I apologized to the consultant: I'm sorry, I always cry. I couldn't control it, this was the case from an early age, a bit ... shame.

He said: Crying is not shameful.

I said: Shame.

He looked at my eyes and said twice again: crying without shame, not shame at all.

▷ Japanese drama "Life Delete Office"

No one never told me that crying was not shameful. Everyone only tells me: crying is useless, and crying means tied to weakness.

Later, I cried again when I communicated with my parents, but I tried to tell them all my heart. While crying silently, I miraculously stabbed my opinion. Back to the room, I never kept crying like before.

From that time, I realized that the consultation was really changing me.

Life is difficult. We came along with various camouflage and defense, hard and sad.

Fortunately, healing when you see it. When a professional consultant sees through everything and reaches the secret corners of our hearts, changes will happen. Those terrible and terrible injuries in all their lives, when they are exposed to the warmth of the sun and humans, they will lose their strength.

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All the moment of anxiety, remorse, and confusion, you should not carry it alone