Psychological health science 丨 always can't bear to refuse others, what should I do?

Colleagues are looking for you to help, sorry to push off

Friends ask you to do it, I'm sorry to refuse

The word "no" is like 噎 噎 一

Reject once, it is difficult to open up

Why?

Why is this?

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Dongguan Mental Health Center

Intermediate psychotherapist Hu Yanhong

Talk to everyone

Is it really difficult to reject others?

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"No"

In our lives, we often encounter the situation where it is difficult to open up to reject others. Obviously, it is a simple sentence, but everyone always can't say.

Obviously he was unwilling, but he couldn't open his refusal. Once he rejected it, his heart seemed to have committed a crime, turning over the river, and even tossing into sleep.

Why do you reject others, you are so uncomfortable?

This is because you have a belief in your heart: if you refuse to expect, it is bad, disappointing, and wrong.

And when you are very young, you are slowly formed in your closest person, such as the relationship between your parents, and grow up. Affect your words and deeds.

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How to make your rejection is no longer difficult to open up?

Method 1: Find the source. Aware of the past experience, especially the impact of "relationship with the person closest" on you, admit your true feelings. At the same time, seeing its limitations, thinking about whether the past part of the past helps themselves to grow or hinder themselves, whether there is a better way.

Method 2: Learn to be cognitive inspection. Demonstrate your own feelings and ideas, pass real examinations or friends, relatives, and therapists worth trusted around you to check whether there is a problem with the real cognition of reality, and challenge these cognitions, learn how to transform them into a healthier belief Essence

Method 3: Improve self -esteem. Accept yourself, love yourself, don't blame yourself, see your good part, feel what you feel when you are recognized, remember it. You can explore your preferences, take care of and satisfy your feelings, and experience the feeling of these bites of care.

Method 4: Establish a healthy boundary. Clarify your rights in interpersonal relationships and practice social skills, such as practicing "no", learn to express your feelings and needs.

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