Learn to these tricks, you are also a "rigage expert"!

Text ｜ Wuyishan

In August, the American Rodale Books Book Company published a psychototicist David J.Lieberman (David J. Liberman). WHO They Really Are (translated by the author of this article as "readers: what people think, what they want, and who they are new sciences").

The author Lieberman is a high -level phenomenon expert. He has trained for many security institutions such as the Federal Investigation Agency, the Central Intelligence Agency, and the National Security Agency. He has published 11 works, of which Get Anyone to do Anything ("Let anyone Do anything") and NEVER Be Lied to Again ("Never Checked by Lies") have been sold well in the New York Times. Book list. In this latest work, he raised "reading" and "reading" to a brand new level.

We need to read our hearts very much in our lives -reading others' hearts. For example, what does the email sent by the boss mean? Are you distorting the facts for those who help you repair things? Anyway, whether it is chatting and chatting or related to the important negotiations, it is crucial to understand the subtext of a situation.

The new situation of contemporary is that many communication is performed online through email, short message, video chat, etc., so that it is difficult to capture the other's expressions and other clues. In addition, many people now understand what is going on with body language, and consciously cover themselves, making it more difficult to identify the true thoughts and intentions of others.

In this book, the author teaches people to help people better understand the thoughts, motivations and emotions of others. With his psychological background, he told readers how to decode a person's values, mental health, honesty, and hidden emotions.

The examples of the author are the "tasks" that we need to complete in our daily life. The following are listed.

How to discover the meaning behind the description of negative language, personalization or non -personalization, and the details of the description.

The author said that examining people's reactions to challenges can partially reveal their outlook on life. For example, people who say "everything is destroyed" is often poor in mental health, because they are absolutely absolute to see the problem. When they encounter setbacks, they think they have failed completely.

How to judge whether someone's narrative is true or Hu's editor. For example, people who really lose the car often say "my car" and "our car" when reporting the case. car) .

There are also how to judge your new employees, dating objects recommended by dating software, or whether the child who just asked for the child is trustworthy or concealed people who have tightened things.

Lieberman claims that a person's sequence when he talks about others can reveal the true feelings of the arguments. For example, a friend of Libeman showed multiple photos of his dog before showing his two photos of his child. This shows that the relationship between this friend and the child is more complicated and delicate. He doesn't want to talk about this topic.

Libeman discussed in detail how to identify lies. He found that people who want to hide things will unconsciously export their bodies, and they will blame others and accuse them endlessly.

The author provides a little bit of theoretical basis for his various experiences, such as the research results of psychological linguistics and neuropsychological.

Psychological linguistics tells us that people's spoken and written words are buried with some clues. For example, the use of pronouns sometimes reveals whether the speaker wants to pull out and leave a certain situation. A person who sincerely praises the other party often says, "I like your report very much" "I like the point of view you expressed at the meeting." The perfunctory praise person is another expression: "Beautiful report" and "it seems you have done a lot of research" (at this time, the speaker is completely drawn).

It seems that the author uses a lot of space to discuss and identify lies. In fact, the author is exploring humanity. For example, he distinguishes the discussion of "self -esteem" and "self -centered".

The author said that the self -esteem is Yue Na himself, and they do not need to force others to respect their respects to feel their own value. The self -centered people believe that the world is full of hostility and needs to be strictly precautions. At least they will try their best to find a reason to prevent others. The self -centered person is colorful. The author pointed out that "people who lack security will tell us how confident they are -because they don't say that they really don't see that they are confident."

Generally speaking, the author does not do enough research support for his discussion. Fortunately, ordinary readers don't mind this, they still feel that Liberman's straightforward explanation is reasonable and logical.

"China Science News" (2022-09-23 The 3rd edition of the original title "How to" Read the Heart of Others "")

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