I want to get an answer from the consultant, but she told me that

Before walking into the consultation room, I was always embarrassed.

We don't know what kind of journey we will set foot on the problems we have pain, to be solved, with curiosity and fear of unknown.

Today, let's take a look at the story of the visitors and psychological counseling.

At the beginning, I was an uncomfortable person in interpersonal relationships.

For example, because I am aware of my differences with my friends, I subconsciously allows myself to adapt to (closer) friends.

Once I told the consultant that after I invited my friends to accompany me to see a doctor, I would ask my friends to have a big meal to express my gratitude. But when my friend invited me to accompany her to see a doctor, my friend only asked me to eat bento.

The consultant responded to me: "It seems to be the meaning of your gratitude for you for dinner, but your friend does not seem to give me the meaning of eating in this regard."

This response surprised me. From that moment, I began to consciously think in the future life that everyone's standards or significance for something may not be the same.

I won't think of the other party because my friends do not follow my expectations, but I will stop and listen to the language that the other person loves.

01

I think the consultant does not pay attention to me

I first met with the consultant for the first time with the last trace of hope.

Because there were many things in my life, and my psychology was overwhelmed. My friends and I talked with my family. I couldn't help me feel better. Psychological counseling is where I can finally have hope.

But after entering the consultation room, when I saw her behavior in the consultation, I felt that she didn't pay much attention to me. Suddenly, she felt frustrated at the time.

So after the consultation, I checked the settings of notes in the consultation. The online version believes that taking notes need to be discussed with the visitor.

I didn't do it anymore, but he hesitated to go to the second consultation. I thought of paying for the money, I don’t know where I came from (because I was embarrassed to express my needs in the past), I Tell her uncomfortable in my first consultation.

Unexpectedly, she actually discussed my feelings and needs with me seriously. Finally, after we reached an understanding, she apologized with me. I burst into tears at the time.

This is our first turning point.

At this moment, I know that I will get the experience I never have in my life here.

02

I hate being consumed by others in interpersonal relationships

The second turning point is that I have been awarded my consultant time on time to remind my consultant time on time.

One day, the consultant and I expressed my anxiety about time. I want to be able to meet the expectations of the outside world, including the perfect image of I asked myself to comply with time.

I asked her what she thought about time: "Every time I am about to come, I can't help but want the card to end, for fear of taking advantage of you. Because I hate being consumed by others in interpersonal relationships."

She first confirmed my feelings with me, did not judge me, nor did she refuse or cater. She just responded gently: "It seems that you are a little uneasy about time. For me, the elasticity of time of 3-5 minutes is okay, because sometimes the topic is not as accurate yet."

I heard her say that, as if she was forgiven.

However, I haven't really believed her. At the end of the later consultation, I tried not to make a reminder time to test the response from the consultant. I did not expect that she was indeed as she said. The end of the consultation is finished.

Since then, I have brought this elastic posture of time into my life.

I will not blindly force myself to move closer to the standards of others. Instead, I will stop and experience my expectations. Do a distinction between others' standards and my own standards, allowing myself to try to express expectations.

03

I always ask myself to be perfect and satisfy others

For example, the editor found me to update and share. In fact, when I took the initiative to apply for sharing, time was sufficient.

But there may be a time difference between the application and contact. When the editor is contacted, I am just busy.

After submitting my sharing for the first time, when the editor hoped that I would add some details the previous two days, I was very tired, and I had no more energy on this matter. So I expressed my desire to get a small gift.

The editor said that the selected content will get a small gift. When I heard it here, I was motivated again, as if there was a reward in front of me waiting for me, and I worked hard for the gift I wanted.

If before changing it, I was used to the forced force of "promised others to be perfect". I would not be embarrassed to express my needs in relationships or scenes, and expressing that I was unable to be decent to me.

I may silently press myself, with conflict, to complete the prestigiousness of others.

But now, I no longer force myself to do their duties at all times. I start to allow myself to be lighter and casual when they are on the matter, and I can give myself and others more space.

04

Where is the key? No one knows better than you

After the 40th consultation, I bid farewell to my consultant. Later, because of insomnia, I felt that the consultant was a safe harbor, so I consulted 3 times, and then officially decided to end here.

Recalling the entire consultation, I really have too many details and feelings. I am very grateful to myself who is brave as a psychological counseling, because if I have not experienced psychological counseling, I won't know that the original psychological counseling can be like this.

The consultant once said to me, "You seem to hope that I can give you an answer. But as if you lost your key, I can only accompany you to recall the clues of the key and find the key together. But where is the key? I can't know more than you. "

From this moment, I started to believe my voice. It turns out that psychological counseling is in this dialogue, penetrating into my heart, bringing me unprecedented comfort and reminder.

Therefore, I am very grateful to myself, thank the consultant's major, and thank you for providing such a platform for simple psychology. I can seek channels on the Internet to help myself.

I am very grateful to this encounter with the consultant.

Thank you for everything in the process.

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