What should I do if the parent -child relationship encounters a crisis during the epidemic home

China Youth Daily · Zhongqing.com reporter Shen Jiequn

At the same time, the new model of the beast "opened" the new model of the online lesson of the new coronary pneumonia epidemic, and also brought new challenges to parent -child relationships.

Shi Zhenjiang, a psychological counselor of Shanxi 12355 Youth Public Service Platform, and the national second -level psychological counselor, said that the recent platform's epidemic prevention psychological assistance hotline has received a lot of parents' calls: "Children do not go to class at home" "sleeping during the day and night" "Say" "Nothing to listen", "It is difficult to focus on the Internet lesson" ...

In a night shift at a hotline, Shi Zhenjiang received a call from a parent of a junior high school student. The other party said urgently: "My son is in the second year of junior high school this year, and the time of online class is always not correct. As soon as he talked about him, he was like a person, either angry and lost his temper to close the door, or he used what I said as the wind. How to improve this bad parent -child relationship? "

Shi Zhenjiang patiently listened to the parents' complaints and told parents that parent -child relationships in special periods are prone to crisis, but if parents can optimize education methods and methods and improve their ability to improve family education, the crisis may also be a turnaround. Parents should understand the psychological conditions of the child during the epidemic, and the child is likely to have the pressure of preparation for online learning methods -due to the great changes in the environment and form of the class, less interaction, the two -way communication between teachers and students becomes a two -way communication becoming Uniform communication.

"Parents may only see the appearance of the problem, do not understand the real situation of the child's inner heart, ignore the consequences of the child's unsatisfactory emotions behind the behavior, and the call for reality and inner dilemma."

During the very time, the child's life and schedule habits and learning methods have changed dramatically, and the inner anxiety will gradually appear. Facing the uncomfortable children of children, pay attention to observing the children's emotional and psychological changes, try to accept the negative emotions of the child, give the greatest understanding and support, and lay a solid foundation for the establishment of a healthy and stable parent -child relationship.

At the same time as the distance between the epidemic and home, the distance between the family members also put forward high requirements for the "border sense" that gets along with each other, and it is prone to the dilemma of "looking at each other". Shi Zhenjiang proposed that maintaining the border and reserved space, parents do their own work and housework, and do not have to "supervise" the child's every move.

"For adolescent children, parents hate parents to control themselves." Shi Zhenjiang said that in fact, when children study at home, it was just a good opportunity for him to try to practice. Parents must not deprive their children to grow up. Their independence consciousness returns the initiative of growth to children.

In response to common parent -child relationships, Shi Zhenjiang put forward six suggestions.

First, parents should pay attention to observing their children's emotions and psychological changes, try to accept the negative emotions of their children, and give the greatest understanding and support.

Second, the stability of parents' emotions can effectively encourage their children, so that he or her) relies on emotional emotions.

Third, in the case of children's emotional depression and irritability, parents can give support, encouragement, and trust in non -language ways, such as a positive look, a palm of the palm, and a hug to let the children know what happened. Stand firmly with the children and get special companionship in a special period.

Fourth, in addition to learning, parents can arrange some activities and topics to promote parent -child relationships to make shared time become loving, interesting, and effective.

Fifth, in a limited time and space, draw out each other's independent space. Parents know how to "exit" in a timely manner to be happier.

Sixth, the advantages and deficiencies of each other should be seen between parent -child, discover problems in time, and solve difficulties. If the problem exceeds the scope of ability solution, you can seek more professional guidance and support.

According to Lin Hui, the total scheduling and full -time psychological counselor of the Youth Public Service Platform of Shanxi. The operating mechanism of platforms, two services, 3 -level service teams, 5 service personnel, and 5 categories of service "was opened on March 1st this year. In the front line of medical care, police, community and other staff and volunteers, provide online emotional guidance and psychological support services.

The service desk regulated 27 experienced psychological counselors from the "Shanxi Province 12355 Psychological Counseling Volunteer Team", and answered the hotline of the psychological assistance of epidemic prevention online. Especially for the students and parents who are about to participate in the middle and college entrance examinations, the provincial service desk has given special attention to the province to launch the "Middle School Entrance Examination Decpercies Series" in the province. Carefully produced "Micro Class of Psychological Counseling During the epidemic period", and released through the WeChat public account of the Communist Youth League Shanxi 12355, Weibo, video number and other channels; opened a psychological decompression hotline in the middle and college entrance examinations to candidates and candidates and candidates before and after the middle and college entrance examinations. Parents provide positive psychological support; there are "Sister Xiaoxi" AI intelligent interactive robot who provides psychological services 24 hours, providing professional psychological services for the majority of young people and parents, so that the platform's services are not limited by time, region, and environment. There are diversified choices.

Shanxi 12355 Youth Public Service Platform will continue to be opened. While serving the youth in the province, it will also help the national epidemic prevention and control and resistance, and make a new era of Shanxi youth in the work of epidemic prevention and resistance.

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