The consultant is like a mother, I seem to have done it back to the child

I am always afraid that others can't see my pain.

Until she said, "Why is there a painful person to prove his pain?"

Bleak

01

"Consultation relationship is like going to the mall to buy shoes, and there will be a fit and disagreement."

Before meeting the current consultant, I experienced two consultants.

I learned about the school's psychological counseling in the university's psychological health class. I have forgotten the first time to make an appointment for psychological counseling, but after the first time, the teacher said that the next time I could renew the same time, so I started the almost uninterrupted consultation for two years.

I also had an experience in high school, but until the university, I really felt on the path of psychological counseling.

Later, the teacher left, and I felt like the patient during the operation was opened with an intestine, and it was too late to suture, but the doctor left. As if a pillar collapsed, my heart was empty, and for a long time, I couldn't adapt to the end of this relationship.

▷ American drama "Unbelievable"

After a while, I started trying to make an appointment for other teachers.

Teacher A is very good, but I always feel that the sense of connection cannot be established. I think in the consultation, what I said drifted away with the wind, and the teacher would not grab them, and we didn't have the opportunity to try to dig some information.

I sometimes think about whether these significances are in the end. Can I say these things with another person who can better explore with me, but I am worried that Teacher A thinks I am too easy to fall off. Later, the teacher said that she felt helpless, so we discussed the consultation relationship.

I am worried that this is the infidelity to the teacher, but the teacher said: "The consultation relationship is like going to the mall to buy shoes, and there will be a kick and disagreement."

Until now, I feel more and more feel that in the consultation I can tell the consultant all the feelings, the expectation of the consultant is that the visitor can solve the problem, instead of leaving the visitor to himself.

02

I found that the conflict in the consultation sometimes promotes the consultation relationship

I tried to find the consultant who could help me, and then I met the current consultant.

For the first consultation, I stood outside the door of the consultation room to secretly look at her, guess what kind of person she would be. I forgot what we all said for the first time, but I remember the teacher said that I hope we can really do something for this. This made me feel that I was saved again.

Turning closer to each other is not a fast process. In the first few consultations, I think something is always separated from the teacher. Once, we were silent for a long time. At first I was thinking, but later I saw that the teacher sometimes lowered his head, and I was worried that she was thinking about other things and didn't want to listen to my speech.

So I felt more and more aggrieved, and I started crying inexplicably, pumping paper one by one, but seeing her pushing the carton lightly to me, this action made me feel very warm.

▷ American drama "Unbelievable"

Later, I asked the teacher again, I felt a lot better, I said more, smoother, and the teacher responded more. The establishment of the relationship seemed to be in a moment. After that consultation, I was very happy, and I had a sense of support and hope.

At that time, I also felt deeply that the conflict in the consultation sometimes promoted the consultation relationship.

Although I will still worry about negative emotions hurting her, afraid she doesn't like me, it seems that in the consultation, I can't fully realize it, but I believe that this relationship can tolerate my dissatisfaction and attack. I found that sometimes the conflict does not necessarily consume a relationship. As long as the conflict and attack are discussed and handled together, the relationship may be closer.

Every time I think it is not so harmonious since the consultation, it makes me feel nervous, worried about our relationship, and the teacher's view and the way of treating me. Real and stronger. When I express my feelings, we will explore that the teacher will understand or even reflect on it. This feeling is a very good experience for me.

03

"Why is a painful person prove your pain?"

The teacher looked at my diagnosis in high school and said that the diagnosis showed that I was forced. I feel very aggrieved, as if the "forced state" is talking about my problem, but I do feel very painful and fearful every day. The instructions can never stop.

The sensitivity and fear of dirty things made me feel very painful and desperate. I always think of dirty things, there is always a feeling of being punished and difficult to be punished. I feel very nervous every second. I opened my eyes every day and thought of spending a day in nervousness and fear.

And these do not seem to be seen.

But the teacher said that the word "forced state" was not denying my pain, which made me feel relieved, and the teacher suggested that I go to the diagnosis again. I went to the hospital once again in the junior winter vacation. The SCL-90 prompted forced and anxious, depression, horror, and paranoia. I felt happy to see the results of the evaluation-the pain of pain is invisible, but these are tangible. But the diagnosis is still forced.

▷ Movie "Waterfall"

I cried during the consultation after that, and I felt as if all my pain was denied, as if I was lying. I am also worried that the teacher will rest assured that I will rest assured that I will not be so serious when I know my diagnosis. But she said that the diagnosis was to see what we should do in the future, and why is there a painful person to prove her pain? Who needs such a certificate?

Until now, the teacher gave me a great sense of support. She was like a mother, making me feel warm and practical. When the teacher and I said that she felt like a mother, the teacher allowed and could understand my feelings. When I expressed concerns about her departure and even more worried about her death, our relationship disappeared forever, and the teacher would not mind and discussed this issue frankly. When it comes to my sensitive fear of filth, I am worried that she will feel uncomfortable, but the teacher hopes that I will say more detail.

No matter what I say, the teacher allows and tolerance.

When I don't know what to say or is difficult to open her teeth, she will wait patiently and will not urge. When I talked about some bad things, the teacher would say "talk about it." Sometimes when I am embarrassed or not knowing what to say, she will smile and say "I guess". When she tried her best to understand me, she would watch me seriously ask me, "Is this true? Do you understand you? ? "

At that time, I felt that I was seen, understood, and treated with my heart, as if I was precious. When I feel weak and don't want to do anything, she said "take care of myself first"; when I am afraid of entering the society, I am afraid that there is no sense of insecurity without a "wall". In the face of future things, there is another protection. I can rest here, take a break, and continue to walk. The teacher smiled gently to say "You are safe" to me. Wrap it tightly.

▷ Japanese drama "Quartet Play"

In the consultation, I seemed to be able to say anything at ease, even the dissatisfaction, and the teacher would take it seriously and be sure to nod, as if he was saying "very good, you said your feelings."

She will not judge, nor will she justify, but will start from my perspective, understand my feelings, and encourage me to express emotions. She seemed to be able to take on any emotions of me, even terrible emotions.

Once I said to my teacher, my safety zone was getting smaller and smaller. I was afraid that I couldn't hold it. I couldn't see a little hope, and I would do extreme things. The teacher asked me, what does extreme things mean? I am afraid that she thinks I do a big question and exaggerate. I dare not say anymore, but the teacher will still ask me what I just said. I didn't really want to hurt myself, I haven't reached that level, but I really feel desperate.

When I was very nervous, I didn't know how to describe that feeling. I really felt that the surroundings were full of being unsafe. They were as dark as they were out of breath, and I felt about to die. At that time, I said my despair and worried about insisting on the future. She seriously asked me what the extreme things were referring to, as if it had forced me to say something terrible. This makes me feel very warm, and it feels like we are picking a pustule.

I think although I study and live like someone else, but there is a different thing that there is such a person behind me.

Like a street lamp in the dark, although the lights are weak, they can light up the road a little, so that people have a little courage and hope, so that I have a good feeling of being taken care of.

▷ Japanese drama "Quartet Play"

It is like a child's schoolbag containing the assignments signed by the mother and the breakfast prepared by the mother, and TA walked out of the house with love and power. Because of being loved so, it is more willing to love others in the same way. This is the power of the mother and the power of the consultant. When I think of the teacher, my daughter, wife, and mother, I feel warm and beautiful.

When I first consulted my 21st birthday, she accompanied me to spend the whole 21 years old. From winter to summer to winter, we will return from down jacket to short sleeves. Watching the reservation record is getting longer and longer, I am really grateful and cherished this companion. Thank you the teacher for giving me the time in these lives. We are not family members or friends, but we can get along with each other because of this relationship.

I asked the teacher, "If we are not consulting from the beginning, are you willing to be friends with me?" I was waiting nervously for her answer, and I don't know how she would answer. The teacher's answer made me feel warm at any time. She said, "Why not?" This made me feel that consulting is not just a rule settings. It is flexible and temperature.

Because of my true expression, the teacher said that I am particularly great. She said that every time I express her real feelings, she cheered in her heart. I just express it true, and I can be praised by the teacher, as if the child learns to sit and go to get the praise and joy of the family. At that time, I was full of warmth and was really moved.

04

Psychological counseling gave me a pass to my heart

The consulting room is a warm place. Every time I see the paper pumping on the table, waiting for the visitor to pump one by one, I feel very warm -crying here is normal, allowed, and the institute What should be.

Looking back at my psychological counseling in college for several years, it really gains a lot. I can think more in my heart, think about it to explore and see. Psychological counseling seems to give me a pass to my heart. I can see myself and the deep feelings of myself and others, and try my best to understand empathy and thinking. Essence For a while, my state was getting worse and worse, and I felt like a candle that was slowly burning. I want to apply for human organs donation, which makes me feel relieved, but because the mobile phone number cannot apply, the epidemic makes me unable to handle it immediately. The only thing that makes me feel good but I can't do it. I feel more weak.

▷ The movie "Wall Flower Boy"

The teacher left immediately. At that time, we had a question about the interruption of consultation. The teacher and I talked about this. I forgot what we said. I feel like we are soaked in tears. However, she is grateful for what I express and what state I show, and she allows, and she still accepts me.

I went to the diagnosis again, and the result was obsessive -compulsive disorder and anxiety depression. I felt a little relaxed in my heart, and my pain was finally named and recognized. I also started taking medicine this time. It was unknown to make people nervous, but it also brought a little hope. I want to tell her these.

I think the relationship between us is like a small seedling together, and I am worried that it will die after the consultation is over. She said that the seedlings would not die, and it would continue to grow in my heart.

I think the song of the Mike Study Rock Orchestra seems to be written to a consultant. In my heart, the TAs are kind and warm angels and warriors, and they regard other people's complaints as gifts. If you are tired, take a break and take care of yourself.

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Author: Ke Song

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