[Family Culture] "Giving a woman with fish, it is better to teach women to fish" ‖ Yi Xudong

"Giving a woman with fish, it is better to teach women to fish"

Yi Xudong

On July 1, the party's birthday.

The father of the old party and the old laborers told me in his life: "Work carefully and be innocent."

In the evening, my mother called and asked me, "Son, are you still staying up late?" In the past two years, my mother was afraid of affecting my "thinking". Even if "physical discomfort", I did not call me, which made me survey and write. "Twin Cities" -From "Sanxingdui" to "Sands City".

The daughter who joined the party in her sophomore in her seniority said in the circle of friends: "Don't forget the original intention, keep in mind the mission."

This year, her daughter's birthday completely "dock" with "Father's Day".

Fourteen years ago, in 2008, the daughter who joined the party was a "letter" at the end of the year.

Seven years ago in 2015, her daughter's birthday. In QQ space, I wrote "a letter" and told my daughter: "According to the plan, about 8 years in the future, Dad will give our father and daughter a gift -dad's writing, publishing high -quality books" "Daughter, birthday, birthday hapiness".

In March 2022, the "Park City Under the Chengdu Biography" was published and issued.

Today, I fulfill my commitment to my father, mother, wife and children.

Family style inheritance. From "old party members" to "small party members" ...

—— Write in front

Author Yi Xudong is with his mother (the author's picture)

Life is very slow, and the Japanese characters are full.

Daughter, today is your birthday, reminding my dad 10 years ago.

At that time, you just took the birthday of the college entrance examination ...

Thinking is flying, and the memory is like rain. Miles with Wan Duan.

For 10 years, life is like water, and the passage of years has passed, and there is no trace.

Light and comfortable. Going back, there are no wind and rain or sunny.

"Giving a woman with fish, it is better to teach women to fish." It is the principle of father for more than 20 years.

Daughter, now you have grown up and have your own independent thoughts.

You come all the way, healthy and sunny, you are the greatest gratitude of your dad. I hope you can understand the "ruthlessness" and "habit" of your father at that time.

In recent years, Dad has intentionally reduced the care index of you, reducing the popularity of your love for you. Sometimes, intentionally ignoring your "behavior", it has nothing to do with your "pain", and arbitrarily give you some small "problems". Even "don't make sense" makes you feel that "dad is a little annoying", not Dad's "calcification", nor is it "old", nor is it "deteriorating".

Dad like this, knowing that there is a "night festival" and "self -destructive image", it may also make you feel "incomprehensible" for a time. It is nothing more than to leave the "big time and space" for your "one of him" in the future. "He" fills and replace it with "love". Dad should "retreat to the second line."

The author Yi Xudong took a photo with his wife and daughter (the author's picture)

Dad understands many parents '"excessive attention" of their children's love and marriage, especially many single mothers' "deep affection" and "vowing" when they are "excessively paid attention" to their daughters. I think it is "heavy form" as a mother. The emotional "mother -in -law" is based on maternal love. It is just the difference between the methods and methods, there is no difference in height.

Daughter, this is the good intention of Dad. I want to tell you again through the "physical strength" that "do not do", and I will tell you again: the husband and wife have no blood relationship, but the degree of intimacy exceeds any other family members. In the future, the intimacy of you and your husband exceeds you and dads; similarly, the intimacy of the loved man and dad in the future exceeds dad and you.

This, dad and you must agree, understand, and accept the basic principles.

Now, we have begun to adjust the mentality thoroughly.

People are imperfect and limited animals. When Dad guides you, there are several "nodes abandoning" in the ideal and reality, eternal and present in their lives. Thinking of those "nodes to give up" ashamed, but Dad is not a god or angel, and should not bear the requirements and accusations of being considered "God" and "angel", but Dad is willing to "redeem" himself.

Therefore, in the past 10 years, Dad has made progress with you and grew up together.

In the next 10 years, I am also willing to make progress with you and grow together.

For 10 years, every process and experience you have grown deeply stays in the memory of your father, and has been carefully treasured.

It is full of sweet memories and images in the eyes of Dad, and the happiness and joy of beauty are printed on Dad's heart.

Daughter, thank you for turning my dad into a home man with a strong inner strength, rich spiritual world and deep emotion, cooking and cooking and doing housework.

Author Yi Xudong and daughter together (the author's picture)

After you went to college at the age of 18, Dad slowly changed his understanding of many things. It was your cute smile that resolved his wildness. It was your sunshine sound that melted his male. The world of "bloody journalists" gradually becomes a good father, watching the world with wise eyes, admiring people with gentle eyes, understanding people with a soft mind, and painting the rigid appearance of the father. The delicate lines make Dad have a vast grassland that will never be polluted.

Daughter, because you are a big father, you inevitably have the male character of your father: "Show people with love, treat people with true, love and hate, respect the old and love the young", deep, cold, warm, chic, love To sex, rigidity. Sometimes you seem to have a little "extensive", a little "straightforward". Therefore, dad wants you to be tender, further cultivation of his unwillingness, and the mind of your valley; from the heart, a ambiguous heart can never support a brilliant face. There must be love, there must be harmony; there is peace, there must be pleasure; if there is pleasure, there must be Wan Rong; if you have Wan Rong, you must have beauty.

Dad hopes that her daughter becomes soft, mood, beautiful, romantic and delicate.

"Do unto others, do not impose on others".

Daughter, you are working in the financial management authority now, and "soak" all day in the official document. Most of the banks around you are the "executives" of the bank. The behavioral model is inevitable, and it is easy to become "bureaucratic" and "administrative". From "sentiment women" and "finished women", they gradually become "file women" and "organ women". "Reading. You may not really understand that you are in the freshman year, and your dad has told you to read the "The Analects" several times.

With a quiet heart, with the poetic meaning in life, there will be less straight and anger, and a flat and deep.

Daughter, dad has completed the indifferent return from news writing to historical culture.

Author Yi Xudong's daughter's work photo (author's picture)

Dad has "tried" writing "The" Soul "of the" Root "Chengdu City" of Chengdu, and completed the first draft of "Wang Anshi: China's" Eastern Method State Capitalism "...

Although Dad is not a historian who learns to be rich, his father has the cultural self -confidence, historical consciousness, and deep uniqueness of Dad's father. Neither he has no intention of joining the controversy of the past "pen to get millions of end", nor does it judge for different conclusions of the different conclusions. Dad discovered with his own eyes, perceived his own heart, judged with his own ability, and expressed with his own pen. I believe that in the future, the publication of "Chengdu Genxun" and "Reading Wang Anshi" will definitely be like the "social perspective" and "big documentary" written by Dad last century.

There is no delusion to write a historian singing, let alone pretending to be high and unpredictable.

Just the feelings of the country, the hero complex, and the feelings of men.

Dad resigned and became "unemployed", and did what Dad liked to do. Just like Ruan Ji, who is "crying in poor way", like Ji Kang, who is "Gu Dun", like Tao Yuanming, who is "not folding for the five buckets of rice", like Lin Yan of "Mei Wife Crane", there is no tranquility in his heart. Pursuit of pursuit and self -cultivation. Unlike them, Dad has your "economic foundation" as a "strong backing". Moreover, Dad will never fail, just like his father turned from a "literary youth" to "journalist".

There is no need to be proud of the world, and you don't need to be decadent. With the elegant elegance outside the transcendence, the high nature of the world is unsatisfactory, the attitude of the cocoa, can be hidden, good, good, or good, and beyond the bond of "there is no forgetful to shrink behind the back, there is no way to look back in front of you", and find life in life. The true meaning of life.

The ancient and quiet affection, the static water is deep.

It is either the utilitarian heart of Dad, or to have a poetic habitat in his later years.

Life comes back, there must be fixed coordinates, constant images.

Daughter, there is a kind of spring, can't wait, this is the spring of life.

Often has nothing to do with age, which is a desire and expectation of physical and mental.

Although his father was traveling at his reading history, it was impossible to look at the peaks and forget the world.

Eternal. Some prosperous and wonderful are destined to belong to others. They do not need to stop. Some lonely insistences are destined to belong to themselves, and they do not need to interpret it. Deeper and deeper, shallower is lighter. Looking forward to the real blind date with the "familiar strange woman", and looking forward to the real life with the "woman".

Sleep with someone, keep one person to old.

On the surface, Dad looked at the elegant elegance and deeply thought. In fact, the blood was still a "love bandit".

Vote the old reading and writing is a instinctual return of Dad's mind.

Following fate, self -cultivation, and self -pleasing humanistic character.

Different from the stealth that is clear and sad, unlike the hard -working but bland frustration, different from the ranger of the light and yin and the game on the game; The sleeping lake surface is quiet and peaceful.

One cannot be changed.

Low -key luxury, resisting the temptation of society.

This process is like the years when my father went to the countryside to the countryside as educated youths and workers.

Based on Shi Yanzhi, concentrate on history. It seems to be leisurely, and it seems to be free and easy. A young old man can resign and go home to become a "unemployed literary and civilians". Is it a young child or an idiot?

Before the age of 60, it was the most difficult period of Dad. Unprecedented suffering and loneliness, even loneliness.

After the age of 60, Dad will gradually "reproduce the rivers and lakes." It is no longer a career, nor does it need to be proved, that is, publishing a few high -quality books to be a respected "young old man". Several years later, my father arrived in another world, and you saw the book as a dad: Hi, this, my "old man" was written, and now the bookstore and online stores are still selling ... This, Dad's self -summary of his life is not only the self -summary of his life, not only the self -summary of his life is not only the self -summary of his life, but also the self -summary of his life. For society, it is also the cultural heritage for you and your child.

A "old age" attitude of self -examination, reflection, and pride.

The deceased is like that. Life is like water, which is caused by the shape, if the water is good.

Walking around and Xiao Se, there is no loneliness between memories and expectations, not alienation in transformation, and obtaining the freedom of soul in the retreating reading and writing. The rest is the understanding of the classical Chinese. Autumn rain spring light, summer wind and winter snow.

I still told you in the past- "Father and daughter's feelings can be forgotten to the rivers and lakes calmly, you can silently love, silently understand, silently filled the blessings in your heart, waved his hand, let the spring grass rolling, the redness became red, and the red became red. Formation. There are many love and affection, the wind and rain are from the sky, the golden wind and jade dew, but the world is countless.

Dad is still a father 10 years ago.

Daughter, your birthday is adjacent to "Father's Day" every year.

According to the plan, about eight years in the future, Dad will give our father and daughter a gift -Dad writes and publishes high -quality books.

"Chengdu Biography: Park City Under Snow Mountain" (up and down), Yi Xudong, published in the Press of Southwest University of Finance and Economics in March 2022

In this regard, Dad wish Dad's father -your grandfather, father wish Dad -your father: Happy Father's Day.

Daughter, happy birthday!

June 18, 2015 in Chengdu

Extended reading

The way I choose

Is the road that I need to be in

Does anyone know how I want to calm down now. But once I went back to the bedroom, there was little time to turn over. It was either a simple bread, so I went to the meeting, or began to coordinate other things such as the student union, the Youth League Committee.

Does anyone know that the light that was turned on to the early morning was mine. Only at that time, can I write homework quietly without being harassed by work.

So how many times I want to give up.

My real dream is not here, and my real pursuit needs me to spend a lot of time to achieve.

I have always insisted, because of responsibility, and because of human feelings.

But now, I have more important things to do.

I was eager to seek knowledge. I want to study hard and have enough time to learn. In terms of learning finance, I have some disadvantages. I have to work harder to make myself excellent. I did n’t want to choose for the road that Dad had conceived and designed for me, not because it was not suitable for me, but because I wanted to make money faster. I need to make money by my own ability and do a lot of things.

Dad has been smoking for many years, and the lungs may have been damaged. I want to take my dad to treat; my father's cervical spine may now be compressed to the nerves and cause headaches. I also have to let my dad treat ... I want to give my father a worry -free. Dad's last day, I felt heartache for a day. I know it must be uncomfortable to sit in that cervical spine. Sometimes when I got home, my dad lay on the sofa, and the look of exhaustion made me heartache. When I have an independent financial ability, I will not let my dad work again, even if I do n’t have extra money to buy clothes and fall in love ... I have to let my dad rest well.

So I want to come out early to work, and the road I chose I chose to me can not have a certain amount of wealth until they are in their 30s. Can I wait until that time? I can't wait. I decided to give up graduate students and doctoral students. I went to work when I graduated from college. I don't want Dad to be tired for a day.

I hope there can be something around the age of 26, and the hidden dangers of my dad can be solved.

If I get tired of my dad, I'm afraid, I'm afraid, I'm afraid I will lose what I cherish the most.

I can lose everything and can't lose my dad.

I can do nothing, I must be healthy. So I want to give up those things. I have to study carefully, and we must shape myself into professional talents earlier. I know this is difficult for me, just like I am studying decisions and models now, I won't do questions, but I take every question seriously. I know, I won't know this question, but I understand a little, and I understand one more ... as long as I keep working hard and insist on doing things that I can’t do at present What I want.

I want to make myself strong.

Finally, I want to say to my dad: Dad, you are the most tender part of my life, you are, I am. The way I choose is the way that Dad is.

(Editor's Note: This is an article written by the daughter of the author Yi Xudong on December 15, 2008)

Source: Sichuan Provincial Local House Work Office

Author: Yi Xudong

Picture: Fang Zhi Sichuan

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