Four laws of interpersonal relationships, remember to benefit for life

Meet in heaven and stay with each other.

Author: insight yy

Harvard University had consumed 75 years and did a follow -up study, and found that:

Human happiness is not what most people are pursuing by money and status, but from good interpersonal relationships.

If the interpersonal relationship is not handled well, your life will become a mess.

In fact, the communication between people also has potential laws.

Master the following four laws of interpersonal relationships, you can harvest true feelings and pass the more smooth life.

1

Interpersonal law

Professor Cornell University has done an experiment.

He asked the two assistants to cooperate with two strangers to score dozens of paintings.

At that time, the weather was hot. At the rest of the rest, one of the assistants went to the supermarket to buy two bottles of water and gave him a bottle to his collaborators.

The other assistant only bought a bottle of water, and did not consider his collaborators.

At the end of the scoring, the two assistants asked their respective collaborators to help them.

The first partner did not hesitate, so he agreed, and the second chose to refuse euphemistically.

This is psychological "the law of reciprocity relationships":

You have given me grace, and I am willing to help you.

The Qian Zhongshu family once lived in Shanghai for a while, without income, and had difficulties in life.

After the director Huang Zuo knew, he invested in Yang Yan's comedy without saying a word, and immediately sent the manuscript to the Qian family.

With this funds, the Qian Zhongshu family passed the difficulty.

Later, in 1990, Huang Shulin's daughter Huang Shuqin encountered a bottleneck on the way to the director.

Someone recommended it to her at the time that "Siege" was a very good script.

However, Qian Zhongshu has long declined to say that "the screen is not suitable for the screen", and many well -known directors asked for authorization to eat closed doors.

Huang Shuqin still decided to visit and opened the door of Qian Zhongshu.

Qian Zhongshu learned that it was Huang Zuolin's daughter, and immediately filmed the table to grant the film and television drama adaptation of "Siege", and said:

The niece of Huang Shuqin, don't have pressure, whether it is shot well, we all support you.

The interaction of people is a heart to change my heart.

You pull a fall, and when you are in trouble in the future, he will also think of helping you.

You are in a class for colleagues. When you need it, colleagues are willing to give you convenience.

Emerson said: "One of the most beautiful compensation in life is that people sincerely help others and also get help from others."

Helping others is a kind of good deed, and at the same time, it will also come up with good destiny.

A person with others in his heart will not be bad.

2

Interpersonal similar law

In the book "Social Psychology", a term was proposed: interpersonal similar laws.

If there are similar places between two people, it is easy to make people feel satisfied.

As a result, the similarity between people can increase each other's attractiveness.

Three views are consistent, and those with interested interests can always meet inadvertently.

In the Republic of China, Chen Yinke and Fu Sinian could formed deep friendship because they were similar.

At that time, few people were studying in Berlin, Germany.

Others were chatting and chatting, he was reading a book; his classmates were talking about love, and he never participated in it.

Fu Sinian is a "nerd". No matter where he goes, he will carry a large bag, which contains all the books.

After seeing each other in Berlin, they met and became friends.

At that time, due to the influence of domestic war and chaos, those who studied abroad had broken the economic source, and everyone else was trying a way to live in the system of zero work.

But they didn't care at all. I bought the cheapest bread every morning, and they got into the library with one end. They came out until they closed the library.

The two were soaked in the library all day, and they looked at each other with old bread at the meal.

Later, Fu Sinian, who originally studied physics, was transferred to the linguistic of the other party under the influence of Chen Yinque.

The two attended classes during the day, discussed academics with each other, and even slept at night.

How big the world is and how many international students are, but their meticulous pursuit of academics has allowed them to attract each other in the meditation.

After hearing a word, the same sound corresponding, seeking each other.

What kind of person are you, what kind of person you will attract.

Even across the mountains and the sea, the person similar to you will approach you, get close to you, and nourish you.

So don't worry that you will be lonely.

If you want to be with what kind of person you want to be like that person.

3

Interpersonal Freedom

A class teacher had done an experiment.

He asked the students to write the names of their classmates on the card.

It was found that the students who wrote the most names on the card, his name also appeared the most on other cards.

On the contrary, those who pick and pick them other students have no one who wrote them.

This is psychological "the law of interpersonal love":

If you appreciate others, the other party will appreciate you.

When the former US President Eisenhower was just working, there was a boss who was difficult to deal with.

The boss always faces his face. No matter who made a little mistake, he didn't give his face, but he only lost his temper to Eisenhower and Yan Yue.

Other colleagues were curious about this, and thought that Eisenhower had a background.

Eisenhower explained:

Every time I meet him, I imagine that he was smiling at me, and then I smiled at him. In fact, at the beginning, the boss didn't care about his smile, but Eisenhower didn't mind, and he always smiled every time he met.

Until one day, the boss smiled at him, and then he would say hello from time to time. Later, the two had more and more conversations.

In the end, they became very good friends.

Kanekiki said: "Whether it is a butcher, or a bakery, or even the emperor on the throne, Tongtong likes others to express his kindness to them."

A person with a smile, no matter how serious, will laugh at you.

Lover, people who love each other; respect for people, respect for people.

Only if you convey goodwill to others can others be warm to you.

4

Interpersonal complement law

In 1953, psychologist SUVILLIVAN proposed the "interpersonal complement theory".

Everyone's personality is defective. Only by finding a person who can make up for their defects, life is complete.

I have seen the story of Bill Gates and Ballmer.

Bill Gates is a genius of computer. Under his technical ability, Microsoft has developed smoothly.

But in the face of a larger scale, he began to make trouble.

He is introverted, silent, and does not communicate with others.

Managing employees, going out to talk about business has become his hard -to -override hard bones.

Until he invited a college friend Ballmer.

Ballmer came to be outward, enthusiastic, and spoken very humorous, and liked to deal with people the most.

When he was in college in Harvard, he could serve as managers of four or five community organizations.

Bill Gates has Ballmer, and Microsoft's shortcomings are also supplemented.

They are restrained, one outward; one is cold and serious, and the other is enthusiastic.

They have completely different personalities, but they are similar and complementary.

It is precisely because of this complementarity that Bill Gates can concentrate on making a "technical house", and Ballmer is also happy to operate in the company.

Microsoft's booming, the relationship between the two has become more and more deeper.

Lao Tzu said, "Everything is short and different, the sound is good, the sound is harmonious, and the sound is good."

Each of us looks like a semicircle, all our lives are to find the other half that complement ourselves.

The combination of two complementary semicircular encounters can cultivate a happiness and completeness.

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"Hal's Mobile Castle" wrote:

Meet in the vast sea of ​​people, know each other, and keep each other, no one will be smooth.

Whether it is love or friendship, the establishment of each relationship is actually the blessing of we have worked hard in the last life.

Meet in heaven and stay with each other.

Read these four laws of interpersonal relationships, be grateful for each encounter, and cherish every fate.

Click a praise, I hope you can use a sincerity to exchange for a long -term knowledge.

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