"Look at your circle of friends, you know you haven't seen the world"

"Great Gatsby" once wrote:

"When you want to criticize others, you must know that not everyone, there are those superior conditions you have."

Indeed, this world does not feel the same, and any self -righteous evaluation is either arrogant or stupid.

Do not evaluate a person through the circle of friends, and do not speculate on the lives of others through the surface.

What you see is what others want you to see, but you don't know what kind of way others have gone and what kind of life.

Some time ago, high school classmate Lin Lin asked me to chat and talked about the current situation of a co -classmate Lingzi.

She immediately told me in the tone of discovering the new gossip: "Do you know what I found in her circle of friends? A new LV bag."

And don't forget to make up the previous sentence: "It must be fake."

I asked her: "Why do you say that, why do you see it?"

She replied: "During high school, she was so simple, and she had no money at home. How could they afford such a expensive bag."

I said, "Maybe she makes money now and buy a bag for herself. This is nothing."

She said, "She is not prominent when she goes to school. What good job can I find?"

After speaking, I did not answer anymore, and said to the people who asserted others to assert from others.

What she doesn't know is that the simple appearance of this classmate is actually a real rich second generation, but the tutor is strict and daily.

Although she was not outstanding when she was in school, she went to her company for internships. She started from the grass -roots employees and has been to the position of executives.

She thought others were showing off LV, but in fact it was just the daily life of others.

At the moment when it is worth showing off, Lingzi has never sent out in the circle of friends. Everyone who has been in deep contact with Lingzi all commented on her modesty and politeness.

There are too many such things in life, just by virtue of the display of the display, I deliberately speculate on the lives of others:

Seeing the girl's beautiful and good grade, she must be walking back to the back door with the teacher;

Seeing that others drive a good car at a young age, then she definitely has something wrong;

Seeing others playing HPV, tattoos, and hair dyeing, she must have a chaotic life.

With the appearance shown by others, it has made a one -sided evaluation of the lives of others. In fact, it is exposed to its own superficial.

There is a saying: "Unknown whole picture, no comment."

When you do n’t really understand others, do n’t evaluate others at will. What you think is just what you think, there are more things you do n’t know.

Recently, Olympic champion Yang Qian is advertising for a brand.

Someone sent the photos on the scene to the Internet. In the photo, Yang Qian was wearing a white skirt and was busy at the scene.

Unexpectedly, this group of photos set off controversy on the Internet.

Someone's photo facing Yang Qian is an attack:

"1 meter 5?"

"Where is it beautiful? To be honest, this back is ugly."

"It's so fat, don't go to the mirror."

Please, this is the Olympic champion, not a female Internet celebrity and female celebrities who are open to the beautiful business. They use their appearance to evaluate the champion of honor for the country. How narrow is such a person.

They are even more difficult to understand, a casual comment, how much harm to others bring.

In fact, this is also very common in life.

When you encounter obesity, judge the lives of others at will;

Seeing the embarrassment of others, he is accused of not working hard to live;

Seeing that others work ordinary, they evaluate the mediocre of others without ideals.

In the eyes of these people, beauty, money, success ... are the only evaluation system. They will never appreciate the more noodles of this world, the flashes of character, the charm of wisdom, the goodness of goodness ...

When they use their single values ​​to evaluate this rich world, they are only exposed to their narrowness and ignorance.

People who randomly evaluate others may not be excellent, but when they are ridiculed by others, they have a trace of superiority in their hearts.

Meng Fei once said:

"All sense of superiority comes from appearance, figure, knowledge, family, wealth, status, achievement and rights. It only comes from lack of knowledge and compassion."

Those who have seen the world will never define the outside world with a simple and narrow concept. Their understanding of the world is full and layered.

Zhuangzi told a story in "De Chongfu".

Wei Guowang is a very ugly person named Mourning it.

Although his appearance was abominable, the men and women of Wei Guo were rushing to him.

After a man chatted with him, he was often intoxicated and refused to leave. Women saw him request for his parents. Instead of being someone else's wife, he might as well be a mourning.

Is this grief? Is there a big ability? He not only has no special talents, but also has no wealth that is rich and rich.

So why was he attracted to him and trusted him?

It turns out that no matter with anyone, he has adhered to a principle from beginning to end and does not evaluate.

No matter what others say, he always ends with others and never evaluates the right and wrong of others.

Not only never commented in words, in the conversation and exchanges, you can feel that he respects everyone from the bottom of his heart. This is why everyone is willing to associate with him.

The more people who have seen the world, the higher the acceptance of others.

They will not use their knowledge to show their sense of superiority, nor will they despise others because of the opinions of others. They are wise and transparent, tolerance and easy -going. Cai Kangyong once told his own story.

When he was a child, his mother took him to a rich friend's house.

The master's home is very generous, and the more precious abalone wings are used to entertain guests. Cai Kangyong has also eaten these rare food for the first time.

When he eaten shark fin, he couldn't help but admire: What is this, it's so delicious.

Seeing that he liked him very much, he gave him a bowl and told him: This is a fan. If you like it, eat more.

After a long time, Cai Kangyong knew that what they had eaten that day was shark fin.

But the master's hospitality was impressed in his mind.

After that, when Cai Kangyong had a meal at a meal, when he encountered rare dishes, the host would introduce it.

"This is Kobe beef. When raising cattle, you need to make massage and listen to music. It takes thousands of!"

Cai Kangyong will think of the experience of eating shark fin.

It turned out that a person had a capital that could be boasted, but chose not to say it, taking care of the decentness of others, this is a person who has seen the world.

Yishu wrote in "Yuan Dance": "The more a person shows off something, the more lacking in his heart.

People who have seen the world never preach what cars they drive, where they have been to, and what clothes they have, because they are full of heart and do not need to prove to others.

First of all, they would accept themselves, so they knew how to accept and respect others, gently got along with this world, and overwhelmed others everywhere.

I have seen someone asking, what exactly is the world?

There is an answer deeply:

No one can define the world. You appreciate artworks in the Louvre, that is your world. Putting Niuwa runs on the mountain. It is his world. What really does not see the world is that you accuse Niuwa who do not understand art, but to let Niuwa accusations also accusations also accusations also accused you of making Niuwa accusations. You don't know grazing. How to appear elegantly in the world of others, then it is called to see the world.

People who have seen the world know how to respect rather than arrogance when they meet people who are not as good as themselves; when they meet people above themselves, they know how to appreciate rather than slander.

They will never write the sense of superiority, nor will they show their value on the weakness of others, and they will not label a person by just a word in the circle of friends.

The so -called world is just one side of the world. Our world is noisy and rich, because the existence of different people is colorful.

Respect the three views of others, do not evaluate others at will, have seen the best, can also bear the worst, maintain humility, and always tolerate. Such people will be welcomed by others no matter where they go.

Click [watch], respect and accept the difference between others and yourself, this is what you should have seen in the world.

Author | Su Shanshu, do not make sense, only tells stories.

Picture | Visual China, the Internet (if there is any infringement, please contact and delete)

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