Song Dandan's "embarrassing 9 minutes", will you refuse things you don't want to do?

Help! Song Dandan's "embarrassing 9 minutes" is too embarrassing! Xiaobian's toes are all out of three rooms and one living room!

The first phase of the fifty miles of Taohuawu caused heated discussion among netizens. The reason was that Wang Chuanjun rejected Song Dandan's bonfire party and arranged his performance show in this episode. This scene was called "embarrassing 9 minutes" by netizens.

In these 9 minutes, everyone thought that the bonfire party was boring and wanted a new situation, but in the end, they were rejected by the predecessor Song Dandan and forced to change to the bonfire party. Not only that, the predecessors also arranged for everyone to perform the show. Although everyone is not willing, they choose to obey under the pressure of the predecessors.

Only Wang Chuanjun said: I don't want to. When the predecessors responded "you can not act", you also bluntly said: I will not play.

This incident has caused a lot of controversy on the Internet. Some people say that he bravely and directly express his thoughts and feelings. Some people say that he is too high, and some people say envy and admire him to refuse.

What would you do if it was you? Do you choose to obey with others, or do you do it like him?

01

If you are forced to obey, do you feel wronged?

In fact, in the show or in life, most of us will choose to follow the collective choice. For example, a friend's dinner party is eaten with everyone's taste and does not want to eat food; at home, he will watch the programs you want to watch with the elderly and children; at the company, you will participate in the weekend group building that is unwilling to participate with everyone.

Why do we do what we do not want to do obediently? In addition to being afraid of offending people, they are more afraid of the bad impression and evaluation left among the crowd, so they are labeled with "unsuccessful" labels.

But when did this start?

It may be that when we were young, we hated the fat in the bowl, and wanted to pick them out directly, but was drank by the elders. "Everyone is eating, you are engaged in special picky eaters." Finally Unparalleled food.

It may be that when you grow up, you will go out to play after class. Only you have rejected the invitation of your classmates to play together. When you study in a seat, you are ridiculed by your classmates. Later, as long as your classmates come to call you, you will go, but leave your love to learn late at night.

It may also be that you who are new to the workplace and start your internship career. You are notified to work overtime by the leader. You are strangely asked: My work is completed, why should I work overtime? The leader reprimanded you, "Everyone is working overtime, do you think it's right now?" At the time of you, even if you don't have a job, you will be dragged until late at night.

02

I don’t want to do something that I can't agree with in my heart, I don’t want to do it

In this incident of Taohuawu, whether he was afraid of being labeled with "disrespectful elders", or for fear of showing bad pictures, most people eventually chose to obey.

At the beginning, Li Xueqin expressed his dissatisfaction, but after being refuted, he chose the default; Wang Suzhen stopped talking a few times, but finally chose to compromise; Guo Qilin has been in the round field. Although the emotional quotient is high, he did not refuse.

Only Wang Chuanjun chose to refuse in the face of what he didn't want to do. Although his rejection is not clever and very stiff and uncomfortable, his understanding of rejection and adherence to his heart is still envied by everyone.

Nakano Shouwa wrote in "Surprising Living in the Memorial Nature": I don't want to do things that I can't agree with in my heart. How do others think of me is their business and have nothing to do with me. That's how I do my own personality.

Some people may worry that if the other party is a boss or a predecessor, once he says something wrong, it may leave a bad impression on the other party, so he would rather choose to be silent. But since he was young, he rarely had such concerns. Because he has always felt that his predecessors are a few years old, and their ideas do not have a lot.

This may be the "anti -bone spirit". Nakano Shou has always been this attitude since childhood, and has never changed.

In the fifth grade of his elementary school, he finally participated in a baseball game.

At that time, the scores of the two sides had been opened, and we were in a disadvantage and one person was out. The coach issued an instruction to me who was standing on the table -hitting the ball.

"Ah? Can't you win?" Nakano Shou thought, so he waved the stick.

The coach called him over and said, "Have you read the wrong instruction? Let you hit the ball."

Nakano Shoushou replied: "Isn't that strange?"

"Don't talk nonsense, just do what I said."

This sentence of the coach was regarded as a wind on his ears. I waved my best, but it turned out to be empty.

After I went back, I was slapped by the coach. Since then, he has no longer allowed Nakano Toshihisa to come on.

But Nakano Sae did not regret it.

03

You don't need to cooperate with the surroundings, holding the heart is the most important

Nakano Sanshou also said in this book: If you have the idea of ​​"I don't think so" in your heart, I hope you can pay attention to this distinctiveness.

"Must be consistent with others" is very dangerous for collectivism and companions. If you care too much about others, when you are really dangerous, you will not be able to draw in time according to your judgment, and even cause the entire team to fail.

In our lives, we will encounter people and things of large and small. When you have a life that really wants to do things and really likes, don't waste time on unimportant people and things. You know, no matter how you cater to please, no matter how you go together, there is no great value and significance.

It is not your obligation to satisfy and please others, and nothing but you should help and agree with anything. He cares too much about the views of others on yourself. In the end, it is only yourself.

If you did n’t eat the fat when you were young, you will still not lose the love of your elders later.

If you go to school, you do not agree with the request of your classmates, and then you will not go up late to stay up all night in order to make up for the lack of time during the day.

If you did not promise the leader to let you work overtime at that time, you can not only prove your work ability to the leader, but also develop the sideline at get off work.

In fact, when you show your attitude and principles, although there will be questioning, you are still yourself, you don't have to be wronged in everything.

You have to understand that you don't need to cooperate with the surroundings, the most important thing to keep the heart.

After all, life to the end is the most ideal state.

Nakano Shanshou's "Hollying in the Moment of Nature" revealed the "better living law in the present era". This is the secret of his chic life.

If you feel that life is tired, you can get a set of "relaxed life" principles of life.

If you are tortured by work, you can get a set of "free work" work philosophy.

If you suffer from leadership decisions, you can get a set of leadership philosophy of "changing the dynasty and decisive letting go".

This book allows you to not suffer from being unswerving, exhausting, confused, confidently, and boldly to make a better thing in the face of massive choices, ultra -fast -paced life and work. Life choice.

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