The root cause of people's unhappy: not enough wisdom

Writer Wang Zengqi wrote in "Plants on Earth":

"No matter where people go, they have to find some fun and think about a way, always frowning, what!"

Yeah, whether you are happy or unhappy, this minute will pass, instead of gloom, it is better to rise.

Many times, our unhappiness may not come from some specific things, but because of insufficient wisdom, it makes ourselves fall into the pain that is not worth it.

In the movie "Hello Brad", the male protagonist Polard Polard had a very unhappy.

He was lying on the bed and stunned, and his mind flashed the achievements of the same age. In contrast, he became useless.

His classmates were mixed with water, some became Hollywood directors, some people bought the island to retire in advance, and some people became best -selling writers, and they were frequent visits on TV.

In contrast, I have worked in a non -profit organization for many years and cannot give my family a better life.

Brad didn't understand why he was a leader among classmates when he was studying, but he lags behind people step by step after work?

When sending his son to the interview, Brad was sitting in the terminal in love and constantly questioning himself: How can it do this? Is my life incurable?

Until the other party, the other party solved him:

"Do you really know what is poverty? When I went to my hometown, many people had only two dollars a day's expenses. They didn't complain about being ignored at the dining table. They were very happy to have a meal."

Only then did Brad realize that he had a house, a car, a dog and a deposit, and his life was far from being as bad as expected.

The reason why he is so anxious is nothing more than wisdom and insufficient wisdom.

What is the most terrible of a person's life is to fight for self and consume time in the spirit.

Everyone's growth environment and life experience are different. In a single dimension, there is no sense, and it will only add trouble.

As the novel "The Golden Years" wrote:

"Happiness is going to find, few people who are born with happiness."

Human nature is sensitive to negative information, such as 80%of the year is sunny, but people are impressed by 20%of rainy days.

Walking in this road that is anxious, don't ignore real happiness because of the moment of yin.

I don't know when, and happiness has become an increasing thing.

We are accustomed to being filled with work. As soon as we open our eyes, we will run for fame and fortune, but we will get farther and farther from the original heart.

As everyone knows, the true meaning of life is not to be famous, but to make yourself happy.

The painter Huang Yongyu is a self -pleasing person.

When he was young, Huang Yongyu lived in a small room. The house had no windows, and he was dim during the day.

Huang Yongyu did not complain, but painted a spring flower picture on the wall. There was a bright sun on it. The hut suddenly had vitality, and the family's mood was bright.

Another time, Huang Yongyu asked a friend to eat, and after half of it, he found that he didn't bring money.

He drew a sketch, dipped his fingers with soy sauce and wiped it on the painting.

Subsequently, Huang Yongyu called the Sing Tao Daily and asked the other party to pay the manuscript fee, which only paid the money.

Although life is tight, Huang Yongyu never forgets to make fun.

His hobbies are very extensive. He likes music, movies, lotus, cars, tea, and smoke. He has cats, dogs, monkeys, and parrots at home.

Whenever the people around them feel desperate, Huang Yongyu will persuade them: "Book a little, it will never be like this forever."

Huang Yongyu always insisted on being happy. He took a driver's license at the age of 50 and drove a car in a driver. At the age of 70, he went abroad to study and sketch. At the age of 80, he was a magazine model. He opened a single exhibition at the age of 90 and lived more chic than many young people.

It is a ability to coax yourself.

No one's life can always be calm and calm, can gain strength from daily small things, and seek comfort in the predicament, is the most remarkable superpowers in ordinary life.

As in the book "I Love this lively life":

"Life is always like this, we can't make people satisfied everywhere. But we still have to live warmly."

For the rest of our lives, I hope that we can all learn to please ourselves.

Psychology professor Sonia Liu Bomierki proposed: "Among the happiness of human beings, 50%are determined by genetic genes, 10%are determined by the living environment, and 40%are determined by daily thoughts and behaviors."

In other words, we have nearly half of the right to choose.

How to make yourself happy? You can try these 3 methods.

First, use Xinzhi to precipitate yourself

What really makes people really unhappy is not the trivial matters around, but the wrong cognition.

If you always look at the mountain high, even if you have more, you will not be happy;

If you always pay attention to negative feedback, even if you do well, you will be self -blame.

When you notice these errors, you may wish to turn negative ideas into positive ideas and change your perspective of looking at the world.

Over time, you will no longer indulge in self -denial and loss of self -denial.

Second, heal yourself with writing

The world of adults is always full of helplessness.

Occasionally, when we are in a low mood, we are not convenient for sending friends in a circle of friends, nor embarrassed to talk to friends.

At this time, writing is your best partner.

Writing is healing, write down all the unhappy things, and pour the garbage in your heart, and the whole person will become refreshing.

The blogger Ribeika is a person who likes to record very much. In her opinion, when the happy thing is happy, when the things are happy, when you are unhappy, it is better to write. You can take out your computer or paper pen and paper freely. You forget to delete the key when writing. Do not modify or delete it, and do not suppress your true thoughts.

When you record all the troubles, your sorrow will disappear.

Third, restart yourself with sleep

Voltaic said: "God gave us hope and sleep in order to compensate for all troubles on earth."

Sleep is the highest form of relaxation of the body, helping us filter out all pain.

Any unhappy moment, as long as you sleep well, your emotions will be soothing.

Conversely, if you do n’t sleep well at night, you will be tired and irritable when you wake up the next day.

If you are in a bad mood one day, turn off your mobile phone into the quilt, and wake up before going forward.

Once you learn to precipitate yourself with new knowledge, heal yourself, restart yourself with sleep, no matter where your life is reduced, you can still live happily.

Editor Guo Hong wrote in "Long Island":

We Chinese do not seem to be accustomed to pure fun, as well as sports and enjoyment for the purpose of gaming and happiness. Our heart is always squeezed by real pressure. It is easy to take fun as waste and exercise as fitness. Everything seems to be for a purpose, so that legitimate enjoyment also produces psychological guilt.

But if the nerves are always tight, how tired it should be?

We cannot change the past, but we can adjust the state of mind at this moment.

If you are tired, rest, and laugh when you are happy. This is the most deliberate attitude towards life.

Every unhappy day is a disappointment of life.

I hope that after we are crushed by our lives, we can still love frankly and live gently.

Whenever he remembers grinning and smiling.

As long as people laugh, they will not lose.

Author | Yan Xilin

Picture | Visual China

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