marry?Why not talk about love for a lifetime?

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Today I want to talk about a very curious topic:

When a woman, her career, beauty, money, and high -quality relationship, sometimes she gets married?

The reason is the recent news:

Korean actress Kong Xiaozhen will marry her 10 -year -old boyfriend.

You may not be familiar with the name Kong Xiaozhen.

In the Korean entertainment industry with beauty as the highest justice, Kong Xiaozhen is not a "beauty", but she is a veritable "male god harvester".

In 22 years of debut, Kong Xiaozhen's awards have been won. The classics of the works of the works, no matter how handsome actors, stand next to her, have a CP feeling.

When not working, Kong Xiaozhen is also recognized as a good relationship. Your favorite male gods are her good friends.

Liu Yaren likes to drink with her.

Zheng Huan in "Please answer 1988" will invite her to visit the exhibition.

Even Mr. Kong Liu, Mr. Kong Liu, also regarded her as a confidant, and couldn't stop when he called.

Sister Sun Yizhen, Lin Yuner, and Li Yanting are also her friends. Drinking and chatting at night is common, and there are no idol baggage sent out.

If it is placed in the context of domestic public opinion, it is the kind of star who does not need to worry about at all: not to engage in people, do not fry CP, and do not pretend to be potential.

But this kind of Kong Xiaozhen announced that she would get married.

The man is a 10 -year -old American Korean singer, Kevin Oh, and has participated in many Korean original music variety shows.

I often feel that the word marriage is a bit heavy, because it always adds something:

Such as paying, requesting, exchanging, etc.

At least, it does not appear in Kong Xiaozhen's light life narrative.

So I was a little curious when I saw the news:

What exactly is the marriage?

What can marriage bring?

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After asking this question, I noticed that it had a prejudice itself:

I look forward to what marriage can bring,

My default marriage is functional,

I saw a statement that made me very angry recently, talked about looking for marriage objects, and looking for that kind.

"Various debris can outsourcing cheaply and simple".

Although most of the situations will not be so extreme, they have to admit that in some cases, marriage can indeed be outsourced.

The most common is the anxiety of some survival.

The six pockets of the two families make it easier to buy a house in first -tier cities.

A comrade -in -arms will be promoted to make monsters together in life, and they can perform their duties and reduce their own pressure.

"My boyfriend and I discussed it when they graduated. He went to a private company to make money. I went to the civil servant to get an account."@@

Marriage can also pack out part of the quality of life.

"Emotional Value", "Happiness of Native Family", and "Family Housework" have become another hard currency in the blind date market. It is not inferior to the highlight blessing brought by "there is a house and a car".

There are even some times that marriage can be contracted with worldly troubles, such as blocking some eloquence.

Marriage has always been the road that people choose the most. It is the simplest, clearest template and operating manual.

So when a person chooses a marriage, it seems to have the confidence declared to the world:

"I am right."

"I am complete."

"I can be supported and understood by the secular society."

You must have heard the story of Princess Diana, UK, and she was responsible for such a "work". Before marrying into the royal family, she had never been in love. Prince Charles proposed after seeing her 13 times:

"She is just right,

The love history is clean,

Become a princess in the future,

No ex -boyfriend will break the news of various scandals,

Young is also suitable for pregnancy. "

Before the former richest man in the world, Bill Gates also listed the good or bad of marriage with a whiteboard. Finally, it was confirmed that "the profit is greater than the disadvantage" before entering the marriage.

This is a marriage sample that people often appreciate,

There are a lot of things in the marriage. It is very heavy and it needs to be cautious.

Marriage is far more than marriage.

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But in Kong Xiao's marriage, I saw some accidents.

Kong Xiaozhen was once asked what kind of boy he likes.

"I like a boy who can get along like a friend."

In the news released by Kevin OH, the most moved sentence was:

"She is the most important friend in my life."

In this case, I also heard another couple say: Zhu Yin and Huang Guanzhong.

You may not know that they are the kind of couple who spent a long time before getting married. After spending two and a half years, he confessed and talked about 13 years before he got married.

The Hong Kong women in the same era as Zhu Yin were married to the wealthy businessmen and lived the life of a wealthy wife.

However, Zhu Yin chose Huang Guanzhong, who had chosen a native family, and worked hard by himself. Someone asked her relationship, Zhu Yin replied:

"He followed me, accompanied me,

Because he is my best friend. "

This marriage often surprised me.

There is no outsourcing, no contract, and the secular criteria for how to marry, they never emphasize.

Here, marriage does not mean anything,

Marriage is just marriage.

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Since marriage can be just a marriage, why should you get married? Why not fall in love all the time?

I have written a lot of divorce questions, especially in the position of women who are today. Sometimes I hear some people say that marriage has brought some unpleasant experiences.

Marriage needs to be cautious, and divorce requires decisive.

But I gradually discovered that we can choose to make marriage less complicated.

It can just be a lifestyle, a lifestyle that can experience deeper, closer, and more reliable binding.

In terms of Kong Xiaozhen, she can indeed always fall in love, and she can also experience love and companionship. And you can also let yourself be unbound at any time and regain freedom at any time.

But the significance of marriage may be to create some "troubles" for you, so that you feel some difficulties when you give up a relationship.

One of my colleagues once said that she did have realized in marriage to deal with deeper conflict.

Because compared to breaking up, the cost of divorce is too high.

When she encountered the same type of conflict in the past, her first reaction was to break up. However, in the face of a series of troublesome things to deal with divorce, she felt that it was easier to actively communicate and resolve conflicts.

Gradually, I solved many problems that I could not solve when they loved before.

Marriage makes the cost of the end of a relationship higher, which makes people "have to" spend more effort to operate and maintain a relationship.

And marriage is to tell the world that I have this courage. I believe I have this ability to do this.

Therefore, if Kong Xiaozhen's marriage brings me the biggest inspiration, "when marriage does not represent anything, marriage is marriage."

And the oath of marriage may also be modified:

I can't guarantee,

I always love you whether we are rich or poor, health or disease.

But I choose to marry you,

Because I am willing to make all my efforts for this.

Writing: Turala

Editor: Ding Ding

Late prayer time:

"Starting from the season of staring at each other,

I have been sitting side by side together.

Watching, listening, smelling the same thing,

Then moved the same thing.

Just continue in this way.

The so -called couple,

It must be such a thing. "

——Curakunoshiko

People choose to get married,

It is because they are willing to work hard.

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