Huang Lei's meal was left out, how many people were stinging: your height determines the level of your circle of friends

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Earlier, I accidentally watched a episode of "The Summer of Zhang Weiguo". The start of the plot made people see the cruel reality in the absurd plot.

In the play, Zhang Weiguo, played by Huang Lei, studied and singing in the drama in the drama group since he was a child. He later went to work in the troupe. However, because of a performance, he could not perform on the stage and only rely on dry grocery to maintain his livelihood.

One day, Zhang Weiguo received an invitation, and some of the brothers of the same family organized a small party in a high -end hotel.

Zhang Weiguo, who is optimistic, rode his bicycle with joy to attend the party.

But it is embarrassing that at the door of the hotel, the security guard immediately stopped him. He wouldn't let him park his bicycle, because the security guard felt that he was not a customer who came to eat.

The two were deadlocked for a long time, until he drove a high -end car to the appointment, the brother who came to the appointment gave him a squeeze, and the security guard squeezed out with a smiley face and welcomed him to enter the hotel.

Unexpectedly, a large embarrassment was waiting for Zhang Weiguo.

After entering the hotel private room, many people were present, but when they saw Zhang Weiguo, everyone's eyes had a little despise, and some even teased that he was a props.

Everyone scrambled to talk about their brothers, and the host of the TV show once.

When the elder brother arrived, a group of people asked him to seat in the main position, surrounded him with all kinds of worship, and rushed to add WeChat to him.

On the other hand, Zhang Weiguo sitting in the corner was left out as if no one remembered him.

Seeing this scene, people can't help feeling: the original level is low, it is likely that a friend does not have.

In fact, the master who was in the C position at the party had already realized this reality.

When I had a drink with Zhang Weiguo later, the elder brother told his experience of his ups and downs in these years, and he said something from the heart:

"In the past, Shi Ge was on Nanguang.com ... The host of the famous show, look down, all the smiles are like a sunflower; when you fall, you will go up. Back, cover the sky ... "

How bright the sunflower was once, how dull the back was.

It is exactly the same as Zhang Weiguo's situation in the hotel. Everyone was sought after at high, and 10,000 people were abandoned at the low position.

The thin and lightness of people can be described as highlighted between the ups and downs.

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A friend of Mr. Yan Xiao was a corporate consultant at a company. In short, he pulled the boss to pay the company to pay the class.

This friend is very attentive to work. He spends a lot of time every day in the client to help fight various small things.

But what surprised him was that half a year passed, and his performance was not ideal.

Later, he gave the list of uncertain customers to the leader, and his face was lost and frustrated.

However, in less than two weeks, he was surprised to find that those who did not get it in took the initiative to sign up for class.

He was very puzzled and ran to ask the leader.

The leader looked at his doubtful face and said:

"Talking about business is not as long as the relationship is good. The most important thing is to allow the other party to get the value of exchange.

For example, the door and window business. I have several real estate developers in my hand. I promise to help him connect with the developer as long as he signed up.

There are more than 10 million projects. What are the tens of thousands of training fees?

I can do it because I have resources to exchange. "

"Minimalism" wrote:

"When you don't reach a higher level, the connections are worthless. Remember, the connections are not pursuing, but attracted.

Only the equivalent exchange can get reasonable help. Although it is cruel, this is the truth. "

In the final analysis, most of the social socialization of adults is reality and cruel.

In this world, it is not important to know who you know, and the important thing is who you are. Your height determines the level of your circle of friends.

When you are excellent enough, there are naturally many excellent people around you; when you are weak and useless, even if you call your brothers and brothers with you on weekdays, you will go away.

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There is a friend snow from the media to pick up the legacy.

Xue has a girlfriend. She gets up very early every day and uses various classic books in the morning time.

In order to improve his English level, the girlfriend also copied the entire TOEFL writing book, and slowly raised his performance from a little bit.

No matter what you do, your girlfriends always work hard and have no slackness.

Once, Xue asked my girlfriend: "Why do you work so hard?"

The girlfriend answered very quickly: "I still want to be a girlfriend with you."

Xue said in surprise: "Aren't we always good girlfriends?"

The girlfriend later said a while to make Xue always remember the new words:

"Things gather together, people are divided into groups, and if I do n’t work hard, I will grow bigger and bigger with you, and there will be a gap between the best friends.

The best way to maintain friendship is common progress.

We have been on the same rhythm to go all the way. "

Writer Lian Yue said, "Don't worry about you have no connections, you must worry about your growth."

The so -called social interaction is really not working hard on others, but to work on yourself.

Professor Chen Guo, a professor at Fudan University, also has a set of "friends' useless theory": "Friends" is not a group of coaxing or coaxing, nor is it a circle that appears.

Those who are keen to socialize and ignore themselves will eventually understand: You are useless, your social network is useless.

Only if you are valuable, someone will really know you.Rona Byan said in "Power":

"Everyone has a magnetic field around. No matter where you are, the magnetic field will follow you, and your magnetic field also attracts people and things with the same magnetic field."

The biggest capital of adults is yourself.

Make yourself valuable is your most powerful capital in adults.

mutual encouragement.

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