A group of photos of the well -known male star party was exposed, how many people pierced: Don't let the pseudo socialization drag you down

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After watching a new episode of "Stepping Things", a group of photos of the well -known male star Zhang Zhenyue at the party can be described as revealing the real social truth.

When the brothers gathered together, Zhang Zhenyue performed awkward when he saw everyone's first reaction. While grinning, he kept saying, "Wait for a chat, wait for the chat ..."

In an interview, Zhang Zhenyue admitted: "In fact, I don't want to shake hands at the moment. Is it embarrassing, don't hold it anymore. Just in person, just say hello, just nod."

Faced with the enthusiastic hugs of the male stars present, Zhang Zhenyue's body was honest enough, and the whole person was only in the state of being forced to be social.

If you think such a person only likes silence in the crowd, then you are probably wrong.

When another male star Du Dewei entered the party, Zhang Zhenyue was attracted and even took the initiative to come forward to talk.

"I saw that piano at first glance, the piano you brought ..."

Because of a guitar, the friendship of the two brothers was upgraded quickly, and it seemed that there were endless chats, and they were not like the first meeting.

Facing the doubts of everyone, Zhang Zhenyue bluntly said: "The frequency of people is a very important thing. There is a frequency between people and people that will attract each other and will be harmonious."

I have to say that the social interaction of middle -aged people is often the frequency between people.

The frequency is not right, and it is also uncomfortable to work together; the frequency is right, and it will be comfortable and comfortable to be together.

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Remember Huang Lei's "indifferent face" in "The Life"?

In the first episode, the mushroom house ushered in a group of new faces of the draft. Despite its own traffic, Huang Lei did not know it.

As the owner of the mushroom house, Huang Lei can do his polite smile, and then do his own thing.

There are not too much greetings, and there are not too much enthusiasm.

Later, at the dinner table, Huang Lei faced the crowd to reveal his voice:

"I said sincerity, you are here, because I am not familiar with you, and I don't have to talk to the unfamiliar people, so you come in to say hello to me, I am not so enthusiastic."

Because of this frank truth, many people are controversial about Huang Lei, thinking that he lacks humanity.

But in fact, in the entertainment industry, Huang Lei's high emotional quotient is well known.

Some netizens compared the pictures of Huang Lei to see the old friend and old wolf, and the joy from the heart was overflowing.

In the final analysis, seeing a person, or to meet someone, what kind of attitude often depends on the frequency of each other.

This frequency can be understood as if you know each other, or it can also be understood as the same aspirations, even the same interest.

Only when the frequency of each other is similar, each other will be willing to approach, listen, and deepen their understanding.

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2 suggestions to help you examine your social circle and let you find friends in the same frequency in the crowd.

1. Understand social needs

Mr. Fengxu divides social networks into two categories: "empathy social" and "utilitarian social".

What do you mean?

"Compassional Social" refers to social behavior that is an emotional connection and emotional experience, or due to common interests.

Social affairs and interests have nothing to do, most of them only need to provide emotional support.

For example, the social interaction between us and childhood partners belongs to empathy and social.

"Utilitarian social" is completely different from "empathy social".

"Utilitarian social" refers to social behavior that is to achieve a certain purpose, or to obtain benefits from the other party.

This kind of social network is based on exchanging value. Therefore, the purpose of utilitarian socialization is to "effective exchange".

Most of the social networks of adults belong to "utilitarian social".

At this time, the higher the value you have, the more your friends will, and the help you get will naturally become more.

It is undeniable that if a person can provide emotional value and exchange value at the same time, it is undoubtedly the best friend.

But most of the time, everyone will choose the society that suits them according to their needs.

When you choose empathy social, what you need is to provide emotional support for each other; when you choose a utilitarian society, what you see is the value that the other party provides you.

Fully understanding yourself can make you take a choice in adult social middle schools and make a choice that suits you.

2. Respect your own feelings

Everyone knows this word, and is not rusty. What is feeling?

Psychologist Wu Zhihong has cited simple examples:

For example, pick up a cup containing hot water and experience the texture, temperature, etc. of the cup. These feelings are the product of the establishment of a relationship with the cup;

For another example, everyone who likes to play knows that no matter what ball it is, you must have the feel to play a good ball;

And people who love to play music are clear that they often need a sense of music to make music well.

Similarly, we will feel a similar feeling as human social.

For example, after the family introduces the object, after you understand, you will know if the two can come together;

For another example, a friend who knows a new knowledge on a friend's dinner, after three patrols, you will also know whether the other party and yourself are co -produced.

This is the feeling.

I remember a saying good: there is only one kind of success in life, that is, you live this life according to your own wishes.

Learn to respect your own feelings, follow the feeling of life, and rely on your feelings to make friends, you will easily find someone who is the same as you.There can be a lot of friends in your life, but there may be only three or two friends who can really make you comfortable.

It is the best life to run three or two confidants with care.

Don't let the pseudo -social friendship down you and encourage them.

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