Because the wife does not cut the onion, the man kills with a knife: your love "face" reveals your incompetence

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Today is the 3226th day that I am intensive to accompany you for life -long growth

01

A few days ago, I saw a speechless and angry thing.

In Liaocheng, Shandong, a friend invited by a husband to a five -family family came to drink and eat together at home. His wife Zhang Luo had a table of dishes.

The two of them pushed the cup on the wine table and had a good talk. Unconsciously, they had eaten more than two o'clock in the afternoon from noon.

The wife on the side took care of the three young children alone.

At this time, my friend said that he wanted to eat some onions, and the husband said nothing and immediately ordered his wife to cut.

The wife who was busy looking at the three children had no time to separate, and the person who was sitting and drinking was called. She was even more reluctant to be dissatisfied, so she threw it out casually:

"I want to eat myself, don't eat it, I don't wait for you."

The words of the wife made the husband feel that the dignity of being a husband was violated, and his face could not be hung on his face. In particular, he quarreled with his wife in front of his friends.

His noisy, with his wine, he took out a sharp knife from the kitchen and stabbed his wife's back.

In the end, his wife died.

The husband was also sentenced to life imprisonment for intentional injuries and deprived of political rights for life.

Because of the word "face", he broke his wife who raised 3 children with himself, let him face the disaster of prison, and let a family break.

This is really an old saying: "Dead face to face, and be sinful."

Thinking of some people say that people who love face are often because of their weakness and unconfident inner heart.

Therefore, they need to use face to prove themselves, and those who are strong inside do not pay special attention to whether they have lost their faces.

Because I felt ashamed, I was so angry that the behavior of being furious to others exactly showed the unconfident and cowardice of this person.

02

Not long ago, the 36th Hundred Flowers Awards were held, and Li Yan was invited to perform.

Li Yan, known as the queen of the Chinese music scene, can always bring the audience's visual enjoyment to the audience, and her performance has been expected early.

However, there is no 100 % perfection and absolute.

On the awarding stage, everyone found that Li Yan had a phenomenon of singing and running.

For running, the audience is actually tolerant. Because in everyone's opinion, it is normal for the fake singing to sing, and it is already dedicated to singing at the stage scene.

However, Li Yan, who has always been strictly requested on himself, immediately apologized for the end of the performance.

Li Yan said that there was a problem with the ear back in the night of the performance. In addition, the song had hip -hop elements, and the low drum bass was often heavy. She covered her voice. Her ears were in a state of discreditation at the time. She also did her best. Strive to complete the performance.

In this regard, Li Yan bluntly said "ashamed", "sorry" and "regret", sorry to everyone, and said that he must work harder to show the best performance next time.

She dares to face her deficiencies and be brave in self -criticism.

As mentioned earlier, the more fragile people, the more face love.

Because they have to protect their self -esteem through their face, and when they talk about the essence, they are actually lacking strength.

A person with strong strength is often not concerned about the critical voices of the outside world, because they are very determined.

Just like Li Yan, a female singer who is considered to be the heavenly -level level in the Chinese music scene can make such a sincere apology and reflection. One of the reasons is that she is not afraid of being questioned because she has strength.

A sentence that Ren Zhengfei once said:

"Those who criticize themselves can become a big deal. Any cadre who cannot criticize itself cannot be promoted in principle. Only by self -criticism can we wash their minds, make him open, and can stand the criticism of others."

Only those who can withstand criticism can be widened, and will not do irrational behavior because of a little "face".

03

A few years ago, a photo of Li Xiaowen, an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, passed through the Internet.

In the photo, Academician Li Xiaowen pedaling a pair of cloth shoes, beards and black clothes.

It is such an old man who looks like he is sitting in front of the podium of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.

If it is not stated, no one will associate the elderly in the photo in the field of the remote sensing in the photo.

Netizens think that he is like a realistic version of "Sweeping Monk": "A little silent and inconspicuous character has amazing talent and the world."

Academician Li Xiaowen said in an interview that science itself should pursue the principle of simplicity.

"Science itself should pursue the principle of simplicity. The simpler the better, the better.

For example, to prevent sparrows in the crops, pierce a scarecrow, insert two pu fans, and the wind blows when the wind blows, it is enough. This is the simplest. there. If you don't know this truth, you will make mistakes. "

Academician Li Xiaowen's life has always been pursuing simplicity, just like his clothes.

Some people may feel that the dressed in the dignitaries does not meet the identity and loses the "face".

Zhou Runfa once talked about himself in "Art Life":

"I don't like to wear a brand, unless it is necessary, I think clothes are comfortable to wear themselves, not to see it for others."

As a result, he often wore a pair of human characters of 15 yuan and liked to take the subway in a bus.

Whether Li Xiaowen or Zhou Runfa, they would not care if wearing dozens of clothes will lose face because their attention is not here.

Because the higher the level, the person who can be confident in self -esteem, will not follow the waves, and will not lose yourself in the flow of materialism. The more you know how to be down -to -earth.

They will not accumulate the so -called face with various substances, they will only pursue the inner enrichment, but the simpler the better, the better.

The more fulfilling the heart, the naturally becomes larger, the vision will be longer, and naturally you will understand the true meaning of life.

04

Face can be dignity, but it is by no means vanity; it can be proud, but not proud.

Only those who can have face, only those who focus on face will eventually lose.

At the same time, only when you are constantly growing and becoming more and more powerful, can you get a respectable "lito" and no longer afraid of others' criticism.

Therefore, to cultivate your own opinions, it is not shaken by external comments.

The so -called determined opinion is that the parties think that a certain view is reliable and trustworthy, and uses this as a principled decision and action.

To form your own opinions, we must first sink to discover your inner desire, and then practice, develop in practice.

But it is worth noting that we have to discern this desire, really come from ourselves?

Just like the intensive reading of the Grand Tongjia Dictionary "918: Should" say:

One person is to pursue self -improvement and become a better self, but what we need to distinguish is that this better standard comes from the inner opinion or from the external rules?

What we insist is not what others tell us, but what we want to do in our hearts.

Only inner heart can create a more real and beautiful life.

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