"Daughter, please divorce boldly!" A letter from Dad, brushed the circle of friends

Dear daughter:

Last night, you played a video for your mother.

You said, you are not doing well in your in -laws. No matter what you do, your in -laws have to pick three.

The meals do not make your appetite, saying that you are too stupid;

Let your son -in -law work a little, scold you too lazy;

The son -in -law asked you to be warm, and he thought you were too delicate;

Can't give birth to a boy, blame you without the ability ...

Obviously you have worked hard to do everything, but they are not satisfied.

After listening to you, Dad is particularly distressed.

From small to large, you are always sunny and optimistic.

This time, you must have suffered a lot of grievances, otherwise you will not complain to your parents.

Dad blame himself, and blame himself to check for you.

One night, my father was unhappy, so I wrote this letter to you.

Dad reads a word online:

"My daughter -in -law marrys my mother -in -law's house, I want to serve my in -laws."

I don't know who said this, but Dad didn't agree with it at all.

Whose daughter did not grew up in the palm of her hand. Before marriage, she had never had a meal of my in -laws and had a sip of my in -laws.

If you do not do well, you may even carry the infamous "filial piety".

Girl, dad knows that because of fear of gossip, you have been trying to play the role of a good daughter -in -law.

In order not to embarrass your husband, many grievances swallow your belly yourself.

Dad couldn't help but think of the recent TV series "Welcome". There was a scene in it, and Dad was particularly impressed.

Faced with the troubles of her mother -in -law, she had been wronged, and said such a thing:

Mom, I know you are not satisfied with me. I respect you as an elder and do n’t want to argue with you. I think that people ’s hearts are long. As long as I use sincerity, even if it is a stone, I can cover it. But I now find that you have not regarded me as a family at all. Since no one speaks in this home, I can only speak for myself.

Her stiff attitude finally made her mother -in -law realize her mistake.

Girl, from a young age, my dad has taught you that you must calm down and learn to endure.

This tolerance is not a blind forbearance and compromise, but a degree.

If you exceed this degree, don't endure it anymore.

You never owe your in -laws, you don't need to be wronged, you must know how to speak for yourself.

You must understand that the comprehensive marriage cannot be changed.

When you turn the grievance yourself into a habit, in the end, you will slowly lose yourself in this habit.

Living is not to satisfy the expectations of others.

If you become a good daughter, a good wife, and a good daughter -in -law, you need you to be wronged, then your father is willing to not be such "good".

In just dozens of years in life, Dad hopes that you can do what you want to do and become the person you want to be.

Don't be full, don't deliberately please, as long as you have a clear conscience, just!

Dad tells you a story first.

An old lady, a child and a daughter.

When I was in my daughter's house, I saw the son -in -law always actively doing housework. I didn't need my daughter to do anything. She took care of her daughter well. She was very happy;

But when she was a son's house, when she saw that her daughter -in -law did not do housework, she was almost all of her son, and she was particularly angry and thought that her daughter -in -law was not sensible.

Girl, did you find that daughter and daughter -in -law, and mother -in -law really treat them.

Although you call your in -laws "parents", it does not mean that they will treat you like their biological daughters.

Parents can condon your willfulness and tolerate your bad temper, but the in -laws will not be because they are not obliged to get used to you and spoil you.

You can just make a joke with your parents, but if you are joking with your in -laws, you must be careful;

In your mother's house, you can lie in bed and wait for your parents to cook and eat, but in your mother -in -law, you need to go to the kitchen.

As a baby's baby, you can be yourself.

But as a daughter -in -law, you must always keep in mind your identity and be good at the right to speak in front of the in -laws.

Although, this is a bit unfair to you.

After all, the identity of the daughter -in -law will eventually make you more restraint and less freedom.

And this is something that Dad is unable to change.

In my mother -in -law, you are wronged because you feel that your dedication will not get your due return.

You want to integrate into that new home so hard. In the end, you live like an outsider, not even as an outsider.

This is often because your expectations for your in -laws are too high.

Dad really can't bear to see you like this. If you can, Dad wants to bear it all of this for you.

Writer Made has such a sentence:

I slowly understand why I am not happy because I always look forward to a result.

Girl, dad hopes, you can let go of your parents' expectations, spend more time, and sort out your mood.

If you are in a good mood, you can see a lot of things.

If you don't compare, you will not be more accountable; if you don't look forward to it, you will not be disappointed.

Dad believes that if you can do this, your marriage will be another scenery.

Girl, do you remember?

When you give birth to Niuniu, the son -in -law always takes care of you busy, and he is more nervous than anyone else.

Later, Niuniu lived in a newborn ward because of jaundice, and your eyes were swollen.

He is obviously uncomfortable with his son -in -law, but he still tries to coax you.

At that time, Dad felt that he would definitely give you happiness like this. I just did not expect that in the past year, you fell into pain because of your mother -in -law.

Some people say that the root of the contradiction between mother -in -law is a man.

Because of him, you have a connection with your in -laws.

If he can't adjust the relationship with you and his in -laws well, in the end, all of you may be hurt.

Dad dare not imagine what you hurt. If he can't even protect it, how can Dad rest assured to give you to him!

As a person who came, Dad knew clearly:

A few years before marriage, he converted from a son to a husband and a father.

On the one hand, his parents, on the other hand, he is his lover, no matter where he stands, it will inevitably hurt the other side.

At this time, you must not force him to stand in line, force him to make a choice, and you have to give him time to guide him to solve the problem.

If he can actively cooperate with you to solve the problem with a positive attitude, he believes that no matter what kind of mother -in -law problem, he can solve it.

In addition, Dad hopes that you can also try to plan for him from the perspective of "onlookers".

Many times, jumping out of the problem itself will make the problem better solve.

However, if he always faces with a negative attitude, he even stands on his in -laws regardless of the blue and red soap, and choose to hurt you.

Dad advises you to stop loss in time.

Even if you are desperate, Dad will take you away from him.

Dad is afraid that you are injured, and you are more afraid of your painful life in the wrong marriage.

You know, marriage has never been a must -have for life.

Unfortunate marriage, don't.

With Dad, as long as you are happy, your dad will not work.

There is such a line in the TV series "Heart Live":

"You have to be strong, others are good to you, you can live; others are not good to you, you have to live. This is the ability."

This is what a father said to the daughter after being angry with her in -laws.

In fact, this is also the voice of Dad.

Girl, parents are not by your side, no matter how baby you, you are distressed, you can't solve all the problems in your marriage for you.

More often, you need to face it alone.

Dad hopes, you can be brave.

It is said that marriage is a practice.

If you can cultivate a positive result with your son -in -law, your dad will be happy to the end.

If you can't go hand in hand, go back to your parents.

Whenever, parents will always be your warmest harbor.

Well, just say so much, I don't know what's going on. Since you get married, Dad has become more and more nagging.

In the end, I only wish my baby to get happiness in marriage; you can achieve a better self in marriage!

——Fain your father forever

Author | Cake, Pen Ink Paper Paper, Chai Mei Yanyan, first -hand text, one -handed life.

Picture | Visual China

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