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I don't know if you feel like this in your life:

I pretended to be in my heart, I wanted to find someone to talk, but I don't know who I can say. Panic.

Some time ago, Weibo suddenly modified a feature: restricting private messages. Send a private message to those who haven't followed you, you can only send one. After the other party responds, you can continue to send a private message to TA.

I guess this may be to prevent users from receiving some harassment information.

But I did not expect that this also made many people "sad".

They said that they sent private messages to their favorite bloggers, celebrities or a special person. Talking to them have become the "life -saving straw" in their own life -"life -saving straw "-

"Private message" is a rare. They can talk, have some trivial matters, and talk about emotions.

For example, the blogger@比 比 比 比 比 比, such as the backstage of Xin Shi Xiang.

Everyone has a desire to talk, and she is looking forward to being responded-

Some social chat software has the function of "read". No matter who sends it, when the private message is marked "read", you will feel that you are heard.

The reply will make people happier.

Friends@朋友 朋友 When I can't persist, I went to@朋友 朋友 朋友 朋友 朋友: "Life is really difficult."

Someone responded to her: If it is difficult, we will rest. It's not too late to rest, and it is not too late to face life.

"That reply is like a warm water bottle when I came to aunt, it is impossible to make you completely recover, but the pain is really reduced."

This is a feeling of "being caught".

It is the heart that troubles you for a long time, and your falling emotions are caught.

Recently, I am chasing a very popular variety show, and "Re -Employment Men's Team" "Happy Starting".

This group of people debuted in the 2007 "Happy Boys" draft. It used to be angry for many years, and "confused" to "find this" in the entertainment industry.

There were some scars in the past. When singing a young song, when talking about life, some people are really sad.

But there are others who are accompanied by others. No matter how sad the sad people are, they will not completely "fall".

There was a scene in the show that made me particularly moved.

At that time, Wang Lixin was not in good condition.

——The he made his debut at the age of 18, married at the age of 26, and had two children. Too young, he hit three major things in his career, marriage and children at the same time.

But now, his career is average, and there is no song that the public knows. The marriage was also broken, and the custody of the two children belonged to the ex -wife.

It feels like he "messed up".

When Wang Lixin and Chen Chusheng discussed the lyrics, they discussed "love".

Chen Chusheng said to him: If one day you fall in love with this world, you will love yourself more.

But Wang Lixin said: The end of love is dark. At this time, he has been divorced for almost 2 years.

Chen Chusheng's expression at the time was like this:

But he didn't say much, he just picked up the guitar, compiled Wang Lixin's feelings into the song, and sang it.

Wang Lixin stopped talking, listening to him singing, and finally said: I like this.

I looked at them and suddenly understood what "accompanying communication":

Some people are willing to listen to you cry and say, but they will not try to comfort you, or make you happy to transfer the topic.

Instead, you will be patient and wait for you to cry, and then listen carefully to what you want to say, discuss your feelings with you, and share some ideas with some ideas.

Help you understand yourself, but do not force you to agree or obey.

Such companionship is very powerful.

Later, Wang Lixin's Weibo content was like this:

He said that he was recording the show, and Lu Hu replied to him with many embarrassment and love expressions.

I believe you have had such a moment. In the trough, it was caught by a companion.

When @When I broke up, I couldn't help saying to everywhere on the campus, "I have been with him here."

My friend didn't speak, and silently accompanied her throughout the campus, and said, "Now more than that man, I have also walked with you.

Next time you come again, what you think of again is me. "

Reader @Sycamore, crying at home after a loved one. My friend called in the middle of the night and did not comfort her. He only talked about the happiness and troubles in his life. He talked about it for 2 hours.

Finally talked to her. The last sentence before the friend hung up is: "You should be able to fall asleep. Good night."

"Companion" cannot solve the real problems in life.

But it can gently wrap a crushed person, so that you will not continue to collapse.

Xu Zhiyuan once said in the show and said a similar point of view:

The intimacy between people is actually very important for social operations.

Not only physical intimacy, but also intelligent intimate. People need to communicate with each other.

Communication allows us to give each other some spiritual support and help you change something.

@Is seriously ill and requires expensive treatment costs. She can only go to part -time to earn living expenses every day.

That day, she sent a full day of the concert leaflet and was so tired that she was sitting on the roadside bench and dazed.

Suddenly a strange girl sat next to her and asked her: Why does it issue a leaflet? A posture of chatting.

Facing the sudden care, she has finally collapsed. She talked about the misfortune of life and almost cried.

The strange girl listened quietly, and finally said, "You have to believe that you are so good and so sensible that you will live a good life in the future."

"After she left, I watched her back a little bit embarrassed. It seemed that she was a dozen years later, knowing how bad I am now, and come here to give me some power of life." "Open your heart" can give you itself. Unzip. You are willing to show your fragility before others can know what you need--

"I used to hide in the bed almost every day. After she talked to me, I never lost that again."

Before @Nini college entrance examination, the pressure was so stunned. When I couldn't hold it, she sent a message to a brother:

"What to do, I think I will lose."

The other party returned: Who tm said you lost. No one will say that you lose, you are not smart. Then gave her a lot of targeted suggestions.

"It may be this kind of understanding. Thank you very much for scolding me. I returned to a moment of soberness. I thought a lot, and then came out slowly."

You should talk to the people around you.

I have heard such a sentence from many people, as if Hemingway said: "Everyone needs someone to talk openly with him. Although a person can be very heroic, he may also be very lonely."

"Talking" can solve the problem. The bystanders can wake you up, making it easier for you to earn from those things that can't be thoughtful and from those dead knots.

I also want to share with you a record short film "H.A.G.S".

Director Sean Wang is a early boy in his early 20s. One day he turned over the junior high school alumni book and suddenly decided to call the students who had lost contact for a long time.

One by one, some people hurriedly said a few words, and some were willing to talk to him.

Sean unexpectedly found that he had the same confusion as some old classmates--

They are older in their parents, but they are far less than that of their parents who know what they want.

But the old classmates also comforted him: "The struggle we experienced is completely different from their previous generation."

I was touched by this re -established conversation.

Not only because he has the courage to contact people who have not met for more than ten years, but also because they can talk about their current troubles.

This is a harvest: from a chat that will not happen daily, get methods and strength, and then face life.

It's like the most familiar strangers, they re -know each other, facing the trouble brought about by age, and standing together.

American writer Kio Stark is keen to talk to strangers.

She will chat with others when she is on the train, and she will greet passers -by enthusiastically when she goes to the street with her four -year -old daughter.

The daughter is strange: Do we know these people?

And Kio Stark explained this:

"I'm keen to talk to strangers."

"I found some beautiful things from it, almost poetic. These are profound experiences, unexpected joy, sincere emotional connections, and the moment of release of self."

Even when a stranger asked Kio Stark's more private life, she would choose to tell the truth.

For example, her father died when she was a child, and she would not deliberately avoid the answer.

Retrocating a relationship, or establishing a new connection, seemingly insignificant trivial matter, allows you to talk when you want to speak.

Haruki Murakami wrote: "People always dig deep, as long as they are dug, they will be connected with others somewhere."

The establishment relationship is actually very simple. They can do it, you can also try and dig a hole.

In a crumbling life, we always need to talk to others and be caught by others.

I wish you "caught" and the courage to catch others.

There are too many things in the hearts of modern people. I believe you are also eager to have an object that can "talk about" and say those words that are stubborn in your heart. From 8.8-8.14, the 10th anniversary of the launch of Himalayan will talk together. You can find a chat object here to share your voice and emotions.

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This summer, let's chat with Himalayan together. From six perspectives such as living alone and emotion, you invite you to talk about what you are interested in. The event is exclusively named by Tmall. Ideally Life is Tmall. If you want to talk well, come to the Himalayan app to search and chat, and make an appointment to listen to the 6th episode. At 20:00 tonight, we invited singer Mao to not easy to talk to Ma Yi, talk about those things to live alone, and welcome you to chat together. Today, come and talk together.

"Everyone is like a piece of dirt, and connecting together becomes a whole land."

Writing: Sister A

Editor -in -chief: What is the second and third

Source: Mango TV, Nowness now, Bilibili@TEDPUSH speech

Late prayer time:

"Compared to hugging and kissing,

I want to face tears with you even more. "

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