The truth to the child is unclear, and you understand it when you play with him

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For parents, you must have encountered such embarrassment:

If you want to talk to your child, others cannot touch the privacy parts, but the baby asked why; I want to tell her that some people are not suitable for friends, but they do not explain why they are not clear. I want to emphasize something to emphasize something is dangerous. Native

Many parents were advised by the principles of reasoning, but found that we thought it was simple, but they couldn't understand how they didn't understand. We think it is a question of common sense, but they have been asking why.

This embarrassment is just like "Xiucai encounters soldiers", which is helpless and weak.

In fact, these problems are not in children, but that our adults use the wrong way.

As early as the eighteenth century, the thinker Rousseau repeatedly mentioned that it was the most useless educational method to make sense to the child.

If you want to communicate with your children effective, you must enter the child's world and use the child's language.

The game is the common voice of the children's world.

The reason is not to listen to the child, but to play for the children.

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Why use the game method to educate children

"You can play your homework first!"

"It's dangerous to make trouble on the top of the building!"

"It is wrong to make an appointment with others but not to be at time!"

"It is rude to interrupt others to speak at will!"

When these words are blurted out, no one child can do it immediately, because these do not think it is a language that the child can understand.

However, the truth cannot be said.

How to make sense to let the child understand and execute immediately?

Play and play games.

① Use games to educate children the easiest to accept

"Playing is the nature of children." Games are the main ways of communication of children. Therefore, if some clips of life can be played as playing games, not only children are happy, but they can also get fun in playing, understand life in play, understand the truth in play, form a good personality in playing , Learn more about the world.

② The game is more likely to make children form their own perception

"I have to feel shallow on the paper, and I know that it is necessary to do this. Children's experience that they have received by playing games will always be the most effective, most impressive, and most thorough understanding.

③ The game is the most effective bridge to establish a good parent -child relationship

Parents can participate in the game and interact with their children. It is the parent -child activity that children are most expected. No matter what type of parent -child game, what is not important to play, it is not important to play, what is important is to play with children!

④ The game allows children to decide by themselves, take their own responsibilities, and form an autonomous consciousness

The game is the most permeable educational tool. In the game, children must abide by the rules of the game, make their own decisions, and take their own responsibilities.

In this process, the child turned over and became the master. With certain independent rights, they would perform very dedicated, and their emotions would be very pleasant. Even they would turn their learning process into a game process, and they can actively enjoy their fun. in.

Therefore, when you can't tell your child, you may wish to see "The truth to the child can't tell the child, and you can understand it with him", learn some games, "play for him", so that the reasoning is no longer so difficult , Make parent -child time more pleasant!

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How to clear the truth in the game

In the book "The truth to the child's unclear, you understand it with him", there are a large number of guidelines, showing the magic of the game. The whole book starts from the four dimensions of children's self -protection, enhanced emotional intelligence in dating, falling in love with active learning, and developing good habits. Using 39 interactive games to teach children how to study life safely and happily.

Come and feel the charm of the game with the game together:

Food with bamboo sticks to be eaten sideways!

Ice cream, cheese sticks, lamb skewers, sugar gourds, grilled intestines ... These foods with bamboo sticks, if the child eats erected, eats while walking, or eats while eating, it is very dangerous. How to make a clear potential danger to children?

Using the fruits around you, such as dragon fruit, cut into a similar head, and there is a "big mouth". Then hold the bamboo sticks of the rock sugar gourd sideways into the "big mouth" to let the child judge whether it will hurt the dragon fruit in this way.

Then he took the sign to eat erected, and the dragon fruit was pierced in an instant. The child understands why it is dangerous to eat with bamboo sticks.

He pretended to be my father and forcibly pulled me away!

This is a game of children's self -protection consciousness.

In this game, children and grandma can play to play in the amusement park. After that, the grandma went to the bathroom and disappeared into the child's sight.

Find another person to play "bad uncle". "Children, do you have scattered with your family? Uncle just saw your family, and the uncle now takes you to find it."

At this time, the child's reaction is waiting for the child's response, according to the child's response to the child's plot to the child, and telling the child how to deal with it, the corresponding safety knowledge will be taught to the child.

How to fight back from the rear?

This is also a self -protection game.

Through the demonstration with the children's game, my father pretended to be a bad person, the mother played the child, and the father hugged his mother from the back to simulate the campus bullying.

Then the mother can move down the center of gravity, raising her arms to escape. Dad chased closely, and the mother could wait for the opportunity to squat and trip to each other.

After the demonstration is completed, play with the child again to let the child experience it in person to learn how to counterattack. Why do important things do it first?

Watching cartoons or writing homework first, it has always been the most entangled thing for children. How do I do n’t need to coax roar, let children take the initiative to write homework before watching cartoons?

You can make your child make a decision by themselves. Of course, no accident, the child must choose to watch the cartoon first, the probability is that the homework is not completed, and the teacher is criticized the next day.

At this time, you can use a half cup of rice to an experiment to make the child find a way to put the tomatoes in a cup with a half cup of rice, while ensuring that the tomato does not come out of the cup.

When the child thinks of pouring the rice first, put the tomatoes in the cup first, and then put the rice in a cup with tomatoes, praise the child and ask the child how to think of this good way.

During the answer of the child's answer, it can be extended to the important priority of writing and watching cartoons, and the reason for doing things in order. If the child does not come up, he can demonstrate the child by himself.

There is also:

When a person is at home, someone who comes to knock on the door what to do by the stranger can not drink the distance from the kite line and the kite to be locked in the car. These three methods can be saved. Things should be said .....

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Conclusion

Li Meijin once said: The second -class parents make sense, first -class parents are looking for ways.

To force the child to accept the verbal "truth" from the parents, because the child has not experienced it in person and cannot be connected with the results or the results caused by the actual life or the result, they will think that the "truth" of parents is actually a kind of empty preaching preaching And forced suppression.

If you want your child to understand the truth, you might as well explain the game. Maybe after the game, you will gain:

Mom, I didn't expect the tight kite line to be so terrible ...

Mom, if you meet a bad guy, you have to take me away, what can I fall ...

Mom, usually I like to step on the puddle on rainy days. I didn't expect it to fall in the well ...

Mom, where is the escape switch in our car trunk ...

Mom, when I have contradictions with my classmates in the future, I must tell him clearly ...

Mom, I understand, even if it is a classmate in the class, there are his strengths ...

Mom, I must learn to play before I will play before, otherwise I will doze off in class ...

Mom, I will never hide from you anymore in the future ...

Author: Su Yun, a member of the Reading Club. Time to change the talents, the more we work hard, the more lucky, and not forgetting the original intention.

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