Can the child can't put on the phone?Rest up by "Love Key"

The summer vacation, the second day of the second boy, Lin Lin, played a mobile phone at home every day, did not write a word or go out to play. As soon as the mother disciplined, the mother and son had been fighting the liver. This word is less horizontal, and the word is missing, how can I correct it ...

"Entering the summer vacation, the number of parents who help various psychological counseling increased sharply, and the number of consultations increased by about 50%compared to usual. The adolescent psychological counseling case increased by 30%over the same period last year." On July 14, the national second -level psychological counselor, Shanxi people Bi Yanqing, director of the Volunteer Service Center of the Human Psychological Health Consultation Service Center, said that when entering the holiday, the child's psychological health problems cannot be ignored. Parents need help to adjust their moods and let their children have a healthy and happy summer vacation.

Children are addicted to games Parents need to reflect

Linlin, who lives in Taiyuan Xiaodian District, has played online games since grade in fifth grade. He has been in the second year of the second year, and he has not even participated in the final exam last semester. Sometimes, I do n’t say a word to my family all day, let alone associate with others.

"I was particularly anxious to see my son like this, but every time he said him, he must have a mouthful, and we were very unpleasant." Lin Lin's mother, Ms. Zhao, said that the son's emotions were extremely extreme, and he always shouted: "You guys I always look at me not pleasing to the eye, I don't want to live anymore, you will die again! "When the 14 -year -old son hung" dead "on his mouth, Ms. Zhao thought of psychological counseling, but the son was very" consulting ". It was resistant, always using "I'm not sick, I don't go" to refuse. Ms. Zhao can only go for help alone.

After analyzing their parent -child mode of getting along, Bi Yanqing found that Ms. Zhao was busy with work and rarely had time to accompany her children. Her husband also used mobile games to pass time. When the child faced the problem or pressure, he could not find a suitable response method. Naturally, the "game" method was selected.

"Children are addicted to the Internet or games. Parents should first reflect on themselves." Bi Yanqing played "Mom" by her own way of switching, allowing Ms. Zhao to play "Linlin" and simulated their daily interaction. "At this time, I realized that there was a problem with the communication with my child. Talking like this is uncomfortable and conflict." Ms. Zhao said.

Change start with parents. Ms. Zhao changed the way of talking. The child's father did not play with his child in front of the child. "Lin Lin felt my change. He thought it had something to do with psychological counseling and expressed his willingness to follow me to consult." Ms. Zhao said that her son now has this Attitude, it shows that he is willing to change the status quo and develop in a good direction.

In Bi Yanqing's view, there are many reasons for psychological problems in children, and the situation is very complicated. However, one key point is that parents should relax at this moment, do not be too anxious, and not only stay on the surface of the child's behavior. Instead, pay attention to the reasons behind the child's behavior, and guide the child to get out of the predicament with scientific and reasonable methods.

"Change" is one of the causes of children's psychological problems

Usually, children are in the law of school, and a highly intense stress mechanism will promote them to adapt to a fast -paced learning life. Summer vacation means that the high pressure state at school can be suspended or suspended. Without class bells, examinations, homework, etc., the child may be at a loss for a while. "The sudden change of environment and work and rest mode, for children with poor self -regulation and adaptability, it is easy to cause some psychological problems." Bi Yanqing said that this year's summer youth psychological counseling cases increased by 30 % from the same period last year, and handled every week. The quantity is about 15. Among them, more than 60%of academic issues account for more than 60%; the proportion of growth has increased, "this shows that parents pay more and more attention to their children's mental health."

The analysis of the Shanxi Psychological Health Consultation Service Center believes that psychological problems occur in the summer of the summer, mainly in the following reasons:

The rhythm of life and life is disrupted. From too tight to overly loose, some children will remember eating, drinking, playing, and the past learning goals and motivation suddenly become far away or blurred. Sometimes they will be empty and boring. Cause some problems such as depression, anxiety, impulse.

The child's social ability weakened during the summer. Due to the development of the Internet, many children surf the Internet at home all day will produce a sense of loneliness. Some children will be obsessed with the virtual world, disconnect from the real society, unwilling to go out, do not like to be around with them around The people's interaction will also breed social fear.

Too many tuition classes can easily make children feel tired. In the summer vacation, some parents will arrange a variety of interest classes and tuition classes for their children to enter another high -pressure environment and consume psychological energy. Some children will hate learning because of this, which will affect sleep, and even some will even some will. There are some acts that confront parents.

Put a fake for your child's heart

How to maintain children's mental health during the summer vacation? Bi Yanqing suggested that as a parent, you should take a leave to the child's mind in a timely manner, so that the child's body and mind can get rest, better accept their emotions, and build a positive attitude.

First of all, guiding children to make a reasonable arrangement time, they should fully rest and relax, but they must not play and live irregularly. Parents can try to communicate with their children, understand their children's feelings and ideas, and formulate summer plans with their children, such as when do homework, to exercise, and when to ask friends to go out to play.

Second, the master who guides children to be emotional. Everyone will have different emotions such as joy and sorrow. When some negative emotions appear, letting children understand that this is very normal. You must learn to accept these emotions. Appreciate some psychological adjustments such as music, reading books, self -suggestion, etc. to relax your mood to relieve psychological pressure and maintain a positive attitude. Third, actively cultivate children's hobbies. Interests can not only achieve self -improvement, but also become the harbor of the soul. In the long summer vacation, children can be encouraged to regain their hobbies as the adjustment of life.

Fourth, promote the communication between parent -child emotions and strengthen parent -child relationships. For example, you can organize some family activities, often talk to parents and children, increase emotional exchanges, and increase intimacy. At the same time, encourage children to maintain interaction with their friends, and promote emotions and promote friendship through communication and support with their companions.

Bi Yanqing believes that parents can understand the needs of their children's growth, realize the impact of their behavior on their children, and provide children with healthy native families to prevent children's psychological problems.

Shanxi Evening News reporter Wu Jia intern Li Jiarong

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