The 43 -year -old mother stays in a deep school for her son 5 times for self -study: resigning to accompany her son, ready to write a graduation thesis

Jimu Journey Cao Xuejiao

In the summer of 2022, after the documentary "The Second Life" was broadcast, Huang Meifang, as one of the heroes of the episode of "Li", was well known by netizens. During the seven or eight years when he came to Shenzhen, Huang Meifang, who was overwhelmed, finished his junior college and took his self -study undergraduate. She was busy at 12 o'clock every day, so she was free to sit in front of the table to read books.

On July 10, Huang Meifang told Jimu Journalists that he would graduate from his self -study undergraduate at the beginning of next year. She already has a direction to study land hosting, but she doesn't know how to write. After his son was in junior high school, the family moved to a place closer to the school. In order to accompany his son, he resigned from the factory that he had worked for 6 years, began to take over the factory to work, and opened a micro -shop to sell special products.

Huang Meifang said that there is only one goal, that is, to save points, settle deep households, and let the child stay with him to school.

From "Guan Drifting" to "Deep Drift"

On July 10, Huang Meifang told Jimu Journalists that she was from a small mountain village in Nanning, Guangxi, 43 years old. Even now, she wants to return to her hometown from Shenzhen, and she needs to take the high -speed rail to Nanning first, and then transfer to the subway and bus to toss for a long time to get home. After graduating from high school, in order to repay his father's serious illness, Huang Meifang began to work early. She heard that her classmates said that Guangdong's salary was higher, so she went to the factory in Dongguan to work. During this period, Huang Meifang fell in love with his fellow Tan Xiangli. When she was 30 years old, she had her baby.

Although Huang Meifang's mother persuaded her to leave her child in her hometown and reassured to work in Dongguan to make money, Huang Meifang saw more left -behind children, and did not want to make her son a member of them, so he took him back to Dongguan. I rented a small facade first, and the small business of being wholesale ice cream maintained a living, and her husband continued to work outside.

As the son grows up slowly, more and more places need to spend money, Huang Meifang and her husband discussly open a small restaurant. Neither of them did the experience of catering, and the business of the restaurant has not improved, and they lost 200,000 yuan in front and back. During that time, Huang Meifang and her husband often quarreled.

But the child is going to elementary school right away, leaving the couple to quarrel. "Both of us have no Dongguan hukou. It is difficult for children to enter public study and study, but the conditions of the family do not allow him to go to school privately. If you want to leave the child with him, you have to find a way." Huang Meifang said.

Huang Meifang found the fellow villagers and friends after inquiring that as long as the documents are complete, they can take their children to work in Shenzhen, and children can go to public primary schools. As a result, the family of three changed from "drifting" to "deep drift".

It is difficult to save points than saving money

After coming to Shenzhen, Huang Meifang and her husband discovered that everything was not as easy as they thought.

Their family rented a house of one -bedroom and one -living room. Entering the door was both the child's bedroom and their living room. Yang Suyi, the diversity director of "The Second Life", recalled to Jimu Journalists that because the room was small, when shooting in 2021, except for the necessary photography, recording and director, other staff can only wait outside the door. But even so, Huang Meifang always faces everyone with a smile every time.

In order to allow her son to enter a public school, Huang Meifang found a job of a factory worker and became a assembly line worker again. And Qin Xiangli became a community electrician under the introduction of acquaintances, and his working hours were relatively free and could take care of his young son.

But if you want to keep your child studying in Shenzhen, you still have to settle in points. According to the conditions of the settlement of Shenzhen at that time, 100 points were obtained under 45 years of age.

However, the couple graduated from junior high school and graduated from high school. If they want to get points, they can only slowly save.

How can you save it? "There are 60 points for the diploma, and social security is paid on time every year. The cap can get 30 points, but after 40 years of age, two points will be deducted each year. Equal points are more difficult than saving money." In 2018, she obtained a college diploma through the "Dream Plan" launched by the Shenzhen Federation of Trade Unions. Getting closer.

However, at the beginning of 2019, Huang Meifang was 40 years old and was informed by the staff who settled in the window that she was deducted two points, and she was a little farther away from her dream.

And Huang Meifang has five years before the last period of being able to apply for settlement.

In Shenzhen, Huang Meifang made a lot of friends and friends. Everyone was a foreigner who came to Shenzhen to work hard. They talked about children's learning and life together, and they would also study how to take root in Shenzhen. She said that some people could only send their children back to her hometown because they had been not enough to get points, but she didn't want to give up.

After five times the exam, Huang Meifang passed the undergraduate through the "Dream Plan". She was going to continue to improve her qualifications and increase the basic scores. At the same time, she prepared an intermediate qualification certificate for social workers. With this certificate, she could add points to strive for dual guarantees.

"My son is about to go to high school. If he gets a deep household, he can enter the public high school with more than 460 points. If there is no deep household, he will take more than 500 points to study for public schools." Huang Meifang's idea is The effort to stay in Shenzhen to study in Shenzhen is added.

In the relationship with Huang Meifang, one thing impressed Yang Suyi. "Someone asked Sister Huang, can I understand the policy of deducting two points over 40 years old? She stunned, and then reply to 'I try hard to save. I didn't complain, and I was calm. I was thinking that this kind of perseverance may It is the kind of tough source on her. "Yang Suyi said. Resign with your son

But for Huang Meifang, who is over 40 years old, it is not easy to pick up learning again. Over the years, she has been promoted from the front line of the titles of the pipeline, and she has to go to the white class every day. It only takes an hour to rest at noon. After Qin Xiangyi resigned as an electrician, he bought a van to run the goods. But in the past two years, the business of pulling the goods is not dazzling. He often has a long time in the car, and often annoyed because he can't grab the order. He waits for the order every day to wait until late at night.

Huang Meifang said that every day when she has time to sit in front of the table to study, it is often 11 o'clock in the middle of the night. Study to sleep at 1 am, and get up at the factory at 6 am the next morning.

Is it difficult to stay in Shenzhen? When Qin Xiangli went to the night shift, her young son was sick. Huang Meifang could only ride an electric car alone and took the child to the hospital.

So why are you still insisting on staying in Shenzhen? Huang Meifang said that because there are various opportunities in large cities, such as spending 9.9 yuan, he can let his son experience a fencing lesson.

In September 2021, Huang Meifang's son rose to junior high school smoothly. In order to facilitate the children to go to school, their family of three moved away from the rental house living for six years and lived in a closer position from the school.

In this way, Huang Meifang's commute time is longer, and it is later home. Sometimes when she and her husband arrived at home, her son had fallen asleep. Over time, Huang Meifang found that her son became more and more silent at home.

"It's not possible to go on like this." In October 2021, Huang Meifang left the factory for 6 years. After leaving, she took some zero work every day, opened a micro -shop to sell Guangxi specialties, and found a job of selling goat milk. The days were busy and enriched.

Now, her undergraduate study has also entered the stage of writing the paper. She also participated in the professional qualification examination for the intermediate social workers in June this year, and she was going to achieve results in August.

Huang Meifang said that if she did not pass, she would continue the test, as long as there was a chance, she would not give up.

In order to have double insurance in the economy, Qin Xiangyi, in her 50s, also gave up the work of the cargo Lala, learned the driver of container trucks, and became a large truck driver. Although it is necessary to run outside for a long time, the income has increased than before.

In the summer of 2022, after the second time of "Life", many netizens lamented that they were still inspirational and touching for their children in their 40s. Huang Meifang told Jimu Journalists that, in fact, like most ordinary people, she was working hard for her children and living, but her story was written. She hopes that her son can always study in Shenzhen, go to university to be a soldier, and find another job after graduation.

(Picture source: documentary "Life Second")

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