There are reasons for children \"lying\". Do not lying to criticize, scold and scold

Every parent and mother want their children to be sensible and honest. However, in real life, many children's lying examples often make their parents sad. As soon as the child lies, some parents are anxious, criticize, scold, punish, and even hit the child! However, those who can't hit the integrity of the stick will only be counterproductive to punish education, so that children will lie more and more.

In fact, if you treat your child, you don't have to panic when you grow up.

Have you ever thought about the reason behind it?

What can parents do in the face of their children lying?

The first trick: Children lying passive, parents should understand the facts

Adults are extremely majestic in the minds of their children. Adult's affirmation. Facing the tips of adults, children are easy to do. For example, grandparents love their children, stealing buying ice cream to eat and telling the child not to let your mother know. In this case, when the mother asked, the child would tell my mother that I did not eat ice cream.

You can do this: In the face of this situation, parents should not rush to criticize their children. First of all, distinguish between Lai Long, and tell the children grandparents who love you. Then tell your child to have such a thing in the future, you can tell your mother that your mother will not criticize you.

Children are in a period of consciousness and ignorance, and the concepts such as a lot of time, space, and quantity are relatively vague. They may go to grandma's house as a grandma's house. Such a lie is completely unaware.

You can do this: When the child is ignorant and lying, parents do not have to take care of it too seriously. Since the child is unconscious, parents should not blame the child, otherwise the child will feel particularly wronged. Instead, parents can tell their children to tell these concepts.

The third trick: Children are interested in lying. Parents should give moderate education

Parents are the children's most dependent ones, and some children deliberately lie to avoid parents' punishment. Keep your good image in the minds of parents. They want to be affirmed and unwilling to take on their fault.

You can do this: Usually, parents should not punish the child if they make a small mistake. Otherwise, the child will be afraid to face when you make a mistake, so you lie. In addition, when the child intentionally lie, parents can give moderate education to encourage their children to tell the truth.

The fourth trick: Children's inferiority psychology lying, parents should increase their children's confidence

Many children lie because there is no sufficient confidence, hoping to use lies to increase others' attention. In fact, there is in lifeMany such examples, when the children see other children sing and dance, but when they are not, they will tell the teacher that I will sing and dance.

You can do this: Parents should notice that such lies are a manifestation of children's lack of confidence, and it is also the voice of children who want to learn to sing and dance. Therefore, parents can bring their children to learn more skills, and often encourage praise children to make their children more confident.

Remember, how the child thinks of lying is the root of the parents

We have always been a bit rigid to lying when we are educating our children. Parents are anxious to correct their children's bad habits. Lying, we can understand that \"deliberately saying that it is not in line with the facts.\" Thinking about it, each adult can be called \"lying\". For example, someone invites us Saying \"unwilling\", but saying \"unfortunately, no time\", sometimes to take care of the other party's emotions, and exaggerate to say \"too regrettable, next time\", in fact, I want to rest at home, and I don’t want to have any lower. once. Also, when we have the heart, let others discover whether it is uncomfortable, and we do n’t want to say something, we often say, “It's okay, it’ s good ”, and then squeeze out the unpredictable smile ...

There are too many such things, and adults are inevitable, how can children guarantee completely honesty?

Imagine that if a stranger knocks on the door, do you want the child to tell the other person truthfully that he is alone at home, or do you want the child to lie \"Dad watch TV in the living room\"? If Grandma made meals for everyone, it is very inconsistent with everyone's usual taste. Do you want the child to thank Grandma, or shout \"too unpleasant\"? Even if the child tells the truth, this kind of honesty may not be satisfied with the parents, because they find that the child is really \"honest\" and too \"real\", so they are worried that the child will \"die with heart\". In the future, they will be in the future. It's not easy to integrate into society.

In fact, the problem is not to not lie, but under what circumstances, \"lying\" and how to \"lie\". This is what we should think about and teach children. Sometimes we need lies in our lives, which is the so -called \"good faith lies\", but when we need to lie from good intentions, we must make it clear to our children. Filial piety and so on, such a lie contains love and care. To teach children to distinguish the nature of lying, some lying for personal safety, such as lying to a stranger who knocked on the door, saying that the adults at home are here; some lying is a kind of change or euphemism, such as the time to refuse a date you don’t want to participate in the dating you don’t want to participate. ; Some lying is a kind of goodwill and comfort, such as saying to grandma, I like the meal you make. We also have to tell our children to hurt others for our own interests, fabricate the incident out of thin air, causing others to pay attention to it, for funA lie without consequences cannot be said.

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