The 37 -year -old Bei University Scholars' Middle -aged Life exposure: Behind the excellent people, there are the same underlying logic

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Previously, a 37 -year -old Peking University female Xueba was poked, which gave me a different view of life.

What do you think of the trajectory of the life of the prestigious school women? Along the way, the middle -aged career is successful, and the family career is arrested?

Although such achievements are too proud for worldly standards, if only that, it seems to have a little taste.

What is exciting is that you can always find something different in good people.

Female Xueba announced recently on social platforms that she was determined to do something even if she thought it was impossible.

She will start an online concert on her 38th birthday.

Yes, because I like it, I don't want to leave any regrets.

Even more than 3 months before the birthday, no preparation, no plan.

For her work and life that is difficult to balance on weekdays, this dream is luxurious, but it is also unique.

In fact, if you look closely at a few important things in the life of women, you will find that there are the same underlying logic behind the excellent people.

On the eve of the final exam of the second year of high school, she told her father, "Faye Wong is going to have a concert in Nanjing, I want to watch it." Dad took her to Nanjing to watch the concert the next day, and accompanied her home after watching it. Essence

After graduating from college, she got a well -known foreign company offer, and later was admitted to the civil servants of the State Customs. In the eyes of the parents of civil servants, girls are very good to be a national civil servant, but she said "I decided to go to a foreign company" and boldly went out.

For the first time, foreign companies sent her to work in the United States. Although the family was worried, she explained that "I cherish the experience of foreign work", and her parents let her go.

After a few years of work, an Internet startup company found her. She took her parents to the company that took one and a half hours to drive one and a half hours from her house, although it was an office building that could not be called in office building. There is no excellent life of foreign companies, but after returning, she told her parents that "I am willing to go to that company half to go to that company, it is a place with dreams." Later, she went as expected.

Although the support of the family is inseparable from the support of the family, you will find that the excellence of the female Xueba is closely related to her experience.

She is too clear that only if she respects her feelings can she live the life she wants.

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Wu Zhihong, a psychological counselor, worked at Guangzhou Daily when he was young. At that time, some leaders read the articles he wrote and always wanted to convince him to make him simple and popular.

Although he has been persuaded by the leader, Wu Zhihong does not want to violate his own feelings.

He talked to the leader such a paragraph:

"I write a psychological column for a month. It is often higher than the reading of the news column, which is very rare in newspapers.

And other colleagues are written according to your suggestions, and what I write is not as good as me, so why should I change it?

What if I changed, what did I fail? "

Because Wu Zhihong always respects his own feelings, writing, and insisting on his style, he has become the first famous person among the ordinary employees of Guangzhou Daily.

He frankly said: When I can say "what I want and what do I want", the experience is really different.

People who are really amazing will never bury their hearts and live in the lives of others.

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Two suggestions to let you find your own feelings and live your life.

1. Cognitive self

The American University Council conducted a large -scale survey of 1 million high school students. As a result, 70%of students rated their leadership ability as "middle and upper."

When being asked to evaluate the level of "ability to get along with people", everyone thinks they are at least at least. in:

60%of their ability to break their ability is 10%of the top.

25%of people attribute themselves as a first -class level.

Only 15%of people's judgments on their ability are medium levels.

Looking at these data, we can see it at a glance.

When people are required to compare themselves with ordinary people, most people give themselves above ordinary people.

This involves self -cognition, that is, a clear understanding of self -understanding and ability.

This willingness and ability, including understanding what we are, and what we are in the eyes of others.

In real life, there are too many people who have a wrong understanding of themselves.

Self -cognition is an individual's perception of themselves. American psychologist Tasha believes that it is one of the most important skills of survival in the 21st century.

Studies have shown that those who have clearer and accurate understanding of themselves can make more wise decisions, have better career development, and be more confident.

In the final analysis, self -cognition is the most basic skill in life in life. Only by fully understanding yourself can you treat yourself more soberly and more sensitively to capture your inner feelings.

2. Put down "should" moderately

Before the neighbor's house, the neighbor was tutoring the child to write.

The neighbor's children are sitting upright, the posture of holding the pen is correct, and the words are also neat. After writing a page, she turned around and said, "I will write this word."

As a result, the neighbor did not believe her daughter's words, and opened a new page to practice paper and said, "How can you write a page? Write another page."

The girl was a little unhappy, and she murmured, "I will write it clearly, why should I write it?"

In our lives, we feel that we are controlled by the people around us like a little girl. They try to impose their will and ideas to us. I hope we can do something according to what they think, orDon't do something.

But in fact, this is to destroy a person's own feeling.

In addition, a person's feeling will be suppressed and it will be difficult to respect his own feelings.

Only when you put down some "should" things in the world, can you start to believe your feelings slowly.

Life is not long. When you live in the shadow of others, you will never feel happy and comfortable. Only if you respect yourself and live yourself, you will not live up to this life.

mutual encouragement.

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