[Zou Lu Family Teaching Lecture Hall] How to bring children to study (1)

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Wanting the son of Jackie Chan and the daughter to become a phoenix is ​​the common voice of each of our parents. So how can children Jackie Chan Chengfeng? In this issue of "The Lecture Hall of the Zou Lu Family", Mr. Wang Xianglei, who was invited to the School of Zoucheng Teachers' Training School for everyone.

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Parenting class

01

Do you still pay for yourself?

There are many problems in the process of educating children, and we often turn our responsibilities on the children. In fact, it is not that children are not good, but parents are too backward: we have problems in education methods, and we have forgotten our growth.

Many parents, especially mothers, give up their pursuit for their children and families. Those parents who try to control their children and want to sacrifice their own conditions for their children's success, they are likely to sacrifice their children.

There is a single mother in Harbin who has been reading his son's postgraduate entrance examination from his son's middle school entrance examination. The child failed twice for the postgraduate entrance examination and twice, for his mother, he wanted to take the test again. But severe depression made him no longer the test. The child was dismissed by the knife, and the mother took the knife to save each other. The mother was originally a cheerful and capable grass -roots women cadre. When she was determined to enter the city to accompany, she was just in the early 40s. She refused to remarry, resigned from work, sold the house, and escorted all her life on her son. As a result, she not only got the failure of the child's exam, but also ruined the child's life.

The "sacrifice" dedication is very common in family relationships now. Sacrifice means pain, which means unfair. As long as there are pain and injustice, you will want to get the cost and compensation. Once you want to get the cost and compensation, you will destroy the relationship between the two people and even the entire family relationship. Therefore, parents cannot try to sacrifice their own growth in exchange for their children's success, but should grow with their children.

02

How do we learn from the game?

When a child repeatedly encountered a crackdown on failure, it became a bad student. The most effective way to make a better student is to do the opposite, that is, let the poor students enjoy the joy of success repeatedly.

We can get inspiration from video games. Video games are only rewarded and not punished, and the goals are refined. They all use encouragement languages: "Almost successful, try it again." Why do children play video games addiction? He can be respected and affirmed in video games, and every progress is appreciated, with a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. In real life and learning, they have always been hit. They get negative evaluations. Children have no sense of accomplishment. What cannot be obtained in real life can only be compensated in the virtual world.

If the child always loses to other people on one project, there will be no motivation to continue. To make children experience a sense of success, it will continue to persist for a long time with the fun of success.

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