It is true that the child is scolding and stupid!

The children are at the beginning

Parents have to "top" for counseling

Can't help but roar children a meal

I believe many parents have done it

It is said that "the more stupid the child is, the more stupid"

Really?

Have you roared by your parents? Everyone has something to say about a survey between elementary school students.

"Roar, but do not often, roar when you do something wrong."

"Sometimes I really don’t understand, my mother will yell at me."

"I want to write homework within the specified time. When I did not complete, the parents would yell at me."

"The exam is poor, and my mother will roar me. I scolded me and didn't take the exam. Why was it wrong?

Parent's roar

What are the consequences?

"I will be afraid, come up with a cold sweat, obediently listen to the things they say."

"I feel I want to drill underground. Because my mother's voice is born, I can hear the whole building."

"I will be more aggrieved. Because I work hard to change my grades, but I am still scolded."

"They just say, do you not study well, do you worthy of us? I was very aggrieved at the time, I did nothing wrong, they just talked about me."

Some parents said, "I regret it after that, and the practice has proved that it has no effect. He would be afraid of it when he was a kid, and he would act immediately. When he was big, the effect was very poor, and it was better not to roar."

Dr. Yang Yuankui is the person in charge of the Emotional Research Office of the Children's Emotional Research Office of Southeast University's School of Biological Science and Medical Engineering, Children's Development and Learning of the Ministry of Science and Education. The emotional development and stress management of adolescents. His many years of research shows that children may really "scold the more stupid".

Yang Yuankui, head of the Children's Emotional Research Office of the School of Biology and Medical Engineering, Southeast University:

"The human brain has prepared a very important control system for us, that is, this one on the forehead, which is also called the forehead from the anatomical structure of the brain, especially the frontal lobe, which is called the control center of the human brain. For children, it constitutes fear and stimulus. In the case where emotional changes are very large or stimulated, the foreigners will close myself for self -protection and avoid stronger emotional stimuli. "

Yang Yuankui explained that in the face of fear and stimuli, in addition to "war" and "escape", there are also the third reaction: "stay". Strict blame and criticism, especially roar, triggers the child's fear of reactions. The child's frontal lobe is temporarily "crashing" and a "dull" reaction will appear.

In addition, excessive pressure will also make children stupid, such as the various "grabbing" in learning, which violates the child's physical and mental development law, will cause the child to be too stressful. The names of "love" and "good for you" inadvertently formed spiritual control of children.

Yang Yuankui, head of the Children's Emotional Research Office of the School of Biology and Medical Engineering, Southeast University:

"Once I say to the child, I am all for your good". To be honest, the child is really speechless. It is difficult to argue again. I don't want to debate with parents. This is often called love in the name of love. Sometimes we also say that this is a kidnapping behavior. "

Related studies have shown that when the body is under great physical and mental stress, a large amount of cortisol will be delivered to the brain. Excessive levels of cortisol in the brain will invade the brain and hippocampus, leading to abnormal development of the brain and hippocampus, which will affect the development of children's memory and future learning.

How to communicate effectively with children?

How should parents communicate with their children?

The children think so:

"A little roar a little, when the parents are calm and speaking, they can listen to a little bit"

"I think it's more appropriate, because there are too many encouragement, the children will feel that they are really powerful, it is not real, and the criticism will have a lot of negative emotions. Some children, like a bad temper, will deliberately not deliberately not. Do what you should do. "The new semester began, and Yang Yuankui suggested that parents correctly understand and understand their children's various so -called" problems "and do" growth "parents.

Yang Yuankui, head of the Children's Emotional Research Office of the School of Biology and Medical Engineering, Southeast University:

"At least one week to two weeks to give children about the adaptation period. During this adaptation period, do not make too much requirements for the quality of the child's homework. As far as possible, let the child adapt to the rhythm of the new semester. In the process, even if the academic pressure is large, it is necessary to keep the child a certain hobby as much as possible, because hobbies are very important to relieve stress for everyone. In your own time, give your child a good role model, and on the other hand, you must also help your child, do good time management, and tasks and goals. "

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