Addicted to playing games?Drag?There is a kind of "learning difficulty" by parents

Addicted to playing games? Adolescent rebellion? Drag?

There is a kind of "learning difficulty" by parents

In early August, a Shanghai citizen took a clinic at the Pediatric Hospital of Fudan University and took the call of the "Learning Difficulty" clinic in the waiting area and sent it to Weibo. Bo hot search.

The four words "learning difficulties" have touched the "chicken baby" at home during the summer vacation or the parental nerves who were "tortured" by the baby. The "learning difficulty" clinic suddenly became the "life -saving straw" for some parents. Since August this year, the "Learning Difficulty" clinic of Fudan University Affiliated Pediatric Hospital has experienced one difficulty every Thursday afternoon. A half -day outpatient clinic here is limited to 20 -one consultant may spend 15 to 20 minutes of consultation and examination time at a time, so it is difficult to add numbers.

However, Zhu Daqian, the person in charge of the clinic and the director of the Psychology Department of Fudan University Affiliated to the Pediatric Hospital, told the China Youth News · China Youth.com reporters that in fact, many children's so -called "learning difficulties" are actually only a kind of "parental".

The incidence of "learning difficulties" is about 20%, and it must be different from adolescent rebellion

"Difficulties in learning are a result of poor learning state and poor grades under the action of many factors. The incidence of learning difficulties at home and abroad is about 20%, and there are more boys than girls." Learning difficulties were opened in September 2020 and opened every Thursday afternoon. In the past two years, they have received and helped more than 1,500 children with difficult learning.

On August 20, Zhu Daqian met a parent who claimed to be "learning difficulties" in the psychological department of the morning. But after an objective analysis, Zhu Daqian judged that this was actually a normal "adolescent rebellion" child.

"Some children are considered by parents to be 'learning difficulties', but in fact it is just a normal adolescent manifestation." Zhu Daqian introduced that adolescent rebellion is not a disease. This is often only a kind of difficulty caused by the psychological needs of children's growth and parental breeding model that does not match the parental nursery model. Show.

"There are still many children who have lost their interest in their learning and confront them with adults. They will be considered by parents and teachers to be" adolescent rebellion ', but in fact they really exist' learning difficulties. '学习的科目上存在具体的困难，他觉得自己针对某个具体科目没法集中注意力或理解掌握等各方面的困难。”朱大倩说，现在的一个问题是，孩子觉得自己没啥问题，但家长I feel that children are "difficult to learn." For example, some children spend a lot of energy on their studies, but their academic performance is average, and parents will feel that their children are "learning difficulties."

She introduced that "parents bring their children to see the clinic" itself is an important screening criterion that is serious about whether the "learning difficulties" and whether they need to see a doctor. "Many parents know this outpatient clinic, and some people will tease in the circle of friends in the circle of friends. Do you want to take your child to see the doctor?

The child's attention is not concentrated, parents should reflect first

Zhu Daqian found in the actual outpatient clinic that more people need to improve the education method. Rather than those who are considered "learning difficulties".

For example, a parent of a junior high school boy once brought his child to the doctor. The main problem she reflected was that the child's assignment to the mother did not "make it" as in elementary school. I like to talk to my mother. For this reason, my mother feels uncomfortable.

The psychological department of the Pediatric Hospital of Fudan University has performed a attention test and learning ability test for the children, asking parents to score their children's behavior. Finally, it was found that children's attention and learning ability are in normal categories, but parents have a lower score to their children.

"Is there a problem with the child, or do you think he feels uncomfortable?" Zhu Daqian asked the parent and showed the objective score to the parent. Talking again, Zhu Daqian found that the child's academic performance was at the middle and upper levels of the class, and his personality was outside, there was a lot of words, and a active speech in class. "This is a normal adolescent child, and the teacher also likes him. Question, disobedience. "

The parent also reported to the doctor that the child was not concentrated in doing homework and was suspected to have "polymotidians." The scientific name of the polymorphic disease is "Pay attention to defects and dysfunction", and in the outpatient clinic is the most common situation of "learning difficulties" caused by neurosteopament problems.

Children suffering from "pay attention to defects and dysfunction" are difficult to concentrate on their own attention due to the imperfect nerve development, causing easy distraction, daze, and difficulty when learning, which affects academic performance. Although the child is normal, it is difficult to maintain the distribution and self -control ability, which will affect the corresponding subject scores.

According to reports, the diagnosis of "multi -dynamic disease" is to meet more than 6 of the symptoms of the symptoms group; the other is to appear in "more than two occasions", not only limited to home or classrooms; third, the symptoms last for more than 6 months or more for more than 6 months or more ; Even if it meets all the above 4 conditions, the diagnosis is needed to exclude other psychological obstacles such as anxiety and depression.

And the "multi -dynamic disease" in the eyes of this parent is -a junior high school child always holds an item that is not related to learning when doing homework. "Parents feel that they can't get something else in their hands. But she recalled that even if she took things in their hands, she did not have much impact on learning." Zhu Daqian said, so the parents and teachers are on the child Observation needs to have an overall view, not just staring at the child's hand movement, but to observe what impact these actions have on the current learning. Parents' additional homework, children find "playing while playing", more cost -effective

The outpatient clinic of "learning difficulties" has been seen, and Zhu Daqian is almost becoming half of the "educational expert". She told reporters that in recent years, she often encounters parents who have tucked children who are doing their homework, lacking attention, and indulging in the game, but in fact, after communicating with their children, she finds "other hidden feelings."

Taking "Drag of the homework" as an example, parents often ask the doctor for help, saying that their children "have obstacles to study." Every time I do my homework, I go to the toilet for a while, go to the living room for a while, and find the rubber for a while.

However, after chatting with the child alone, the doctor will find that this is actually the "slow schedule" adopted by the child. "The child found that if he quickly finished the homework arranged by the school, then the mother usually comes with the 'several mathematical problems. They summarized it by themselves, and they were most cost -effective while doing homework." The correct method of force is -the better and faster the homework is, the more you should reduce the amount of homework, and give your child full affirmation and encouragement in words.

In this regard, Wang Yuefen, deputy director of the Teaching and Research Office of the Shanghai Municipal Education Commission, also experienced it. Wang Yuefen has been engaged in homework research for more than 10 years, and she told reporters that in fact, as early as 2013 they investigated the current status of students' homework, they found that the school's arrangement of homework and parental arrangement were "this eliminates the same long". Parents, when you see the school's arrangement, you don't have a lot of homework, so you hurry up to add some more. This has caused many children to develop the situation of deliberate delaying time to complete the school operation. "

From another perspective, Wang Yuefen believes that parents must learn to keep their promises. For example, if they promise that children can play after completing their homework, or they can do what they like, parents must abide by the pre -agreed with their children. Increasing the amount of work in promise, unless this is the consensus reached by both parties in advance.

Wang Yuefen said that teachers and parents must fully recognize that the concentration of children at different ages at different ages is different. "Parents cannot blindly ask a child of a primary school to continue reading or buried in the low -year child as an adult. In an hour, this does not comply with children's cognitive laws. "

In Zhu Daqian, those parents who spit out their children's attention have some obvious problems in their education methods. "Children do homework. Some parents have said that he hasn't raised his head, and said that he hadn't straightened his back, and gave him some food for a while. At this time, parents should "move their hands", gently click on the child's back, lift the child's chin, etc. "In short, don't talk to disturb him. Especially don't correct the emotions of criticism."

As for the "addicted game", Zhu Daqian suggested that parents compare their time with their mobile phones every day with their children playing games. Help him scientifically manage time. "

China Youth Daily · Zhongqing.com reporter Wang Yijie Source: China Youth Daily

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