The "balance" in the summer is insufficient.

Starting school ~

are you ready

As soon as the school is, children are about to face changes in learning and living environment, and some children may have a little problem in the adjustment of mentality. So, how to adjust your mentality and let your children welcome school full of vitality?

Let's take a look at the puzzles of the parent below. / /

Recently, a parent of a senior high school student came to consult: During the summer vacation, her daughter's life and study were very good. They also went to my hometown for a while. But as the school approaches, the child is gradually anxious and insomnia at night. Before going to bed, he often said helplessly that he didn't want to start school. One day she didn't sleep, she looked irritable, and kept crying and said, "Mom, I want to sleep ..."

This mother asked anxiously: "Doctor, what's the problem? Is it tight? Can my daughter go to school normally?"

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Parents don't worry about this emotional reaction is not a disease

The balance of the holidays is insufficient. In the face of the upcoming new semester, many students do have a state of anxiety and depression. Most of them are manifested as: as the start time is approaching, they will always say that they do not want to go to school and do not want to start school. Easy to be angry; what does not seem to be focused, some even play games more "crazy"; sleep is lighter, easy to wake up or sleep well.

This state usually disappears with the adaptation of school learning and life with students. It is a type of emotional response caused by clear external events, so it is not a psychological disease. However, for children with excessive response intensity, such as a significant change in living conditions, sleeping for a long time, or a long duration (more than half a month), parents cannot ignore it. In addition, children who have previously existed and even have anxiety or depression should seek medical treatment in time.

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Children's emotional problems, learn to accept and understand

How should parents face this kind of situation? According to various cases I encountered in clinical practice, here I provide parents with some experience in communicating with their children.

For most children, it is normal for the anxiety of school. As a parent, you must allow your child to think about it in front of themselves, that is, to allow the child to fully express his emotions, and to achieve "the same way of listening", restrain your impulse to preach the child, let the child say, and then explain to the child to understand Essence Of course, this understanding is the understanding of the same sense, rather than speaking some polite words.

You know, a person can tell the trouble in itself a release of anxiety. In the process of talking to the child, parents should pay attention to avoid falling into two traps.

The first is "faith and think of truth." When the child is venting, he often says some unreliable words, but if the parents believe it is true, and the child is not letting go, "How can you think so (say that), this is not right!" As a result , Even more aggravated children's negative emotions.

The second is the "post -autumn account". As soon as he heard the child complaining about his homework and complaining about the teacher, he immediately started criticizing education. For example, "I should finish my homework first, and I won't be so crazy now." The result of this saying is to give the child a feeling of falling in the well, so that the child may avoid expressing his true feelings to his parents in the future. , Turn off the channels of communication.

Therefore, parents should show acceptance and understanding when listening. For example, parents can say, "Yes, compared with the holidays, it is necessary to work hard to start school. Think about it is not very happy." You can also follow the child's words and inquire about what kind of support for the child needs. For example, parents can ask: "Then do you need what your parents do to help you?" Such exchanges are to promote children to think and find ways to solve problems, thereby alleviating the child's negative emotions.

Of course, there is no established procedure to communicate with the child, and it will not immediately change the child's state because of a correct sentence. Therefore, communication with children is a repeated process. Parents must have enough patience to avoid excessive disturbance of their emotions. Sometimes, in the face of the emotional problems of children, parents are more anxious than their children. This will not only help the child, but will make the child more complaining about the parents' incomprehension.

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Avoid "one -size -fits -all" management method

The regular schedule is usually very helpful for children to adapt to the new semester. Therefore, in a timely manner, guiding children to sleep, getting up, exercising, learning, etc., can help children adapt to changes faster, thereby relieve anxiety and anxiety and Depression.

During the holidays, children can easily contact mobile phones or games for a long time. Parents should avoid using the "shock" method for children's entertainment time. Children use mobile phones and computers. Parents are also reminded here: there must be a mind preparation of "repeated" of children's behavior and emotions. Even as parents, we understand a lot of truths, but this does not mean that there is a way to educate children once and for all. The real situation is often: back and forth, repeated negotiation, and active compromise. This process sometimes makes parents feel annoyed, but think about it carefully, this is not a process of we facing challenges and increasing intimate feelings with our children.

Of course, for children who have induced psychological diseases due to the arrival of the new semester, especially the past psychology is prone to accidents. Parents are advised to take their children to professional institutions in time, and ask mental health professionals to give evaluation and guidance.Author | National Health Popular Science Expert Library Expert

Institute of Psychological Health Institute of Children and Children of Hangzhou Normal University

Chief Physician Luo Hong

Planning | Fang Tong Tan Jia

Edit | Mu Huanyu

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