People who are really amazing are "anti -sensitive" constitution

Is there such a person around you?

With one sentence of others, TA was particularly attentive, and repeatedly wondering whether the other party had another meaning.

If someone else's inadvertent move, TA will fluctuate emotionally, and the brain supplements countless reasons.

Even a slow news, TA couldn't help thinking about it, did he say something wrong, or where to offend people.

Because it is too sensitive, I always be careful and exhausted myself.

But in fact, others do not have so many thoughts, and many of them are their own excessive interpretations.

Nietzsche also said: "You don't need to keep sensitive at all times, and sometimes sluggish is virtue."

Rather than always sensitive, it is better to be more dull, dull, and less troubles.

Sensitive

In the variety show "E hearty Offer2", Zhao Nanxi, who graduated from Cornell University Law School, made countless netizens boo.

Her achievements in all aspects, and have been praised by the mentors during the interview, she was originally one of the most promising intern.

After joining the lawyer's group, her entire working status began to open high.

It was unable to integrate into the team, frequent mistakes in the debate, and even talked by the tutor.

After the inquiry of the instructor, she said the reason:

"Maybe I'm too sensitive. I care too much about everyone's every move. I feel that I can't integrate into the big collective. Because I have no time to take care of others, I even want to end the show early."

In the process of work, she always watched the every move of the people around her, for fear that she would have a little bit of itself, leaving a bad impression on colleagues or leaders.

Even if her colleague did not bring her coffee as a trivial matter, she had to secretly lose her half -day. Before thinking about whether she was wrong, she would be "hated" by colleagues.

Therefore, the confident Zhao Nanxi disappeared, and only fatigue and fragility were replaced.

As the saying goes: "Those who have the heart are tired, and those who have no intention don't matter."

Excessive sensitivity will only complicate simple things, and even come out of thin air.

Sensitive things, that life is a big deal; slower, the big things can be small and small.

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High -sensitive people like to over -process the information captured and are easily stimulated by small things. The unintentional eyes and jokes of others must be repeatedly figured out in their hearts and interprets all kinds of interpretations.

It is too sensitive to the words and deeds of others. It is like sending emotions to others.

How long people are in this life, if all the fine branches have to be cared and deepened, there will be no moment of peace in the heart.

Live bluntly, so that there will be no burden, but also allow yourself to better fight against the storm in life.

Strong sense of bluntness

Writer Li Xiaoyu has shared such an experience on Douyin.

She used to be a typical "sensitive constitution". If others criticized, she could make her drooping for a long time. When she was questioned, she would desperately explain that over -sensitivity made her very painful.

Until one time, she saw an interview with Huang Bo.

Huang Bo said that when he was not famous, he had played a robber with little drama in a movie.

That day, he arrived on the set and found that there was no one who knew the entire scene at the scene. He only heard the director's question. Has the robbers come?

He quickly got up and answered, but the director just glanced at him with contempt, and said badly:

"Isn't this noisy? Who made you come!"

Huang Bo was very unhappy, but he still asked the director to give him a chance.

Then, I quickly adjusted my mood and devoted himself to shooting. Due to Huang Bo's strong acting skills, the effect of the audition was very good, and one passed.

After the end, he found the director Mao Sui to recommend himself, saying that he had several ways to perform.

Seeing his sincere attitude, the director watched his performance again.

And Huang Bo slowly opened the drama because of this opportunity.

Li Xiaoyu said with emotion: "Only by quitting the sensitivity can it really become excellent."

Indeed, we were born as a person. On the way forward, perhaps we have all suffered the white eyes and blame of others, and we have heard some unpleasant words.

When those negative feelings are coming, they will feel very injured, and they ca n’t wait to escape and never face it again.

But for a while, I couldn't hide it for a while.

With a sensitive and fragile heart, it is destined to not be far away; only by cultivating a "slow" heart can we lightly move on the road of life.

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Just like the sentence in "Dark Sension":

"My evaluation and ridicule of others are not so sensitive, and even a little dull. Others have little impact on my evaluation. I only care about my progress."

Sensitive is a kind of talent, and blunt feeling is a practice.

Darkness is by no means stupid or cheeky, but a kind of ability and toughness that can focus on themselves and block external interference.

Throwing the glass heart and practicing bluntness is the highest self -discipline in the adult world.

The powerful people have anti -sensitive constitutions

Collector Ma Weidu said: "You are in society, sensitive is not important, and blunt feeling is important."

Sensitive people are most likely to be injured, and blunt people often have stronger resistance to frustration.

Writer Watanabe Chunyi once shared his experience when he was a assistant at the medical school.

His professor at the time was a irritable person, and all colleagues avoided it. Only a doctor S was often actively working with the professor. However, professors are still not merciless, and they scold at every turn, and even scold more and harder.

However, Dr. S never kept up, and every time he was scolded, he answered frankly "Yes, yes,", and then asked with an open mind.

Even if he was scolded, he would forget it for a while, either to take a bath, or to continue to talk and laugh with his colleagues.

At that time, everyone did not laugh at Dr. S who liked to eat hard.

Until later, he stood out among everyone, not only became the best surgeon in the Ministry of Medical, but also became the dean of a large hospital in Sapporo.

Watanabe understands that the original professor's scolding criticism, Dr. S did not go to his heart at all, but only absorbed those useful knowledge of himself one by one.

Psychologist Dakovos research found that the most important factor in determining whether a person's success is not IQ, EQ, not connections, and talents, but a person's toughness. This is the anti -sensitive constitution we often say.

In the world of adults, frustration is the norm, and it is an accident.

Some people can go faster, but they quit their sensitivity and let themselves focus on growth.

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If you also want to have an anti -sensitive constitution, try these methods:

1. Learn reasonable attribution.

Studies have found that sensitive people tend to be attributed inward. For example, when others are gloomy, sensitive people are easy to think: Is it what I did wrong?

And the dull person tends to attribute to the outwardness: Did he encounter annoyance, or is he serious?

Many times, when you are constantly looking for a problem from yourself, you may wish to stop thinking about it, maybe all this has nothing to do with yourself.

Reasonable attribution, do not need to pay for the emotions of others; treat yourself well, and take care of your mood at any time.

2. Put more attention on yourself.

There is a "spotlight effect" in psychology. It is said that our attention is like a spotlight. It is clearer to shine where it is, and the greater the impact on people.

People who always take the "spotlight" on others, their emotions will inevitably be affected, thus losing their control of their mood.

Rather than paying attention to others, it is better to pull the spotlight back to yourself.

Reduce external interference and focus on your own pace to take the road under your feet better.

3. Give yourself a positive psychological suggestion.

You don't have to repeat things that are not good, give yourself some positive psychological hints.

Psychologist Pavlov believes that the implication is the simplest conditional reflection:

Positive psychological suggestions can help people resist most of their troubles, and negative psychological cues will make people more frustrated.

A positive and optimistic mentality is a good medicine to cure everything.

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There is a saying good: "Darkness is the means and wisdom we win a better life."

We are running in a fast -frequency life, and we have to face many tedious things every day.

If it is too sensitive, it will only make yourself encounter constant troubles;

Eliminate your heart "blunt", so that the path of life can go wider and wider.

Clicking on "watching", I hope you and I can cultivate a dull heart in the Ukinel, develop a strong anti -sensitive constitution, and make the life more and more comfortable.

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