The best mode of getting along with a home: gratitude, saying comfortably, doing physical stickers

A happy home requires every member,

Breeding with love as the material.

Author: LEYLA

Goethe said such a sentence:

Whether it is the king or the farmer, as long as the family is harmonious, he is the happiest person.

If a person can have a happy family, even if the income is only enough enough, he can live a hot life;

However, if the contradictions and disputes in the family are constantly, even if they enter the daily gold, they will toss their lives upside down.

Family management requires methods and wisdom.

The best mode of getting along with a home is: gratitude, speak comfortably, and do things.

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Gratitude

In life, we often make such errors:

For strangers, even if given us a little help, we will be grateful;

As for the people closest to us, they think that everything is reasonable.

In the movie "Trouble Family", his wife Pan Su washed his husband Wen Jinhui to wash his feet with his feet.

He took care of him for a lifetime, but Wen Jinhui had already been accustomed to it.

It wasn't until Pan Su put the divorce agreement in front of Wen Jinhui that he realized that he had never said "thank you" to his wife.

A relationship, the most fearful thing is to see the other party's dedication as "should".

The so -called "loving couple", grace in front, love behind.

For the loved ones around you, you can always be warm and long.

I especially like the story of writer Liang Xiaosheng and his wife Jiao Dan.

The love of the two people has no oaths, but everyone who has seen their stories can realize what is a truly warm marriage.

In July 1981, Liang Xiaosheng and Jiao Dan met under the introduction of friends.

At that time, Liang Xiaosheng was a poor boy who had nothing, his income was not much, and his body was not very good.

When he met for the first time, Liang Xiaosheng told Jiao Dan's situation frankly.

Unexpectedly, Jiao Dan shed tears not only disgusted, but shed tears in distress.

She choked and said, "I didn't expect you to be so difficult. The burden on your shoulder is so heavy, and you need a person to help you share it."

As a result, in the decades after the two married, Jiao Dan took the initiative to assume all the trivial matters in the family.

She raised her son carefully, took care of the parents of both sides, and received the elder brother of Liang Xiaosheng's illness to Beijing life.

At home, she arranged well.

Liang Xiaosheng, who had no worries later, lived deeply, and devoted himself to his creation.

Finally, in 1984, Liang Xiaosheng's mid -novel "There is Storm Snow Tonight" and the short story "Father" won the National Awards.

At the beginning of this year, once the work "The World" was released, it won numerous praise. Liang Xiaosheng's career also ushered in a new spring.

In an interview with reporters, Liang Xiaosheng kept mentioning his gratitude to his wife:

During the decades of writing, my wife's sincere love made me often move, gratitude and feelings, which affects my writing, my life and everything.

Many times, because the husband and wife have been with each other for a long time, seeing each other as the closest to each other will not put the gratitude to their mouths.

In fact, everyone has the need to be recognized.

When we pay, the subconscious hopes to get a positive feedback.

Therefore, thank you, you may make each other's atrium warm.

Let the other party know that you all look at everything I do and understand.

Yang Lan said: In the marriage, in addition to love, there is also the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, and the tacit understanding of abandonment, and the kindness of unforgettable kindness.

Live the two, and learn to be grateful to make the bland life be warm.

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Say comfortable

Douban blogger@Mao Leng stared at the book "Mom Divorce" tells the story of a couple.

Lu Yue and Lao Xu are a couple who have been married for many years, but now they are going to divorce.

The daughter Xiao Wu was very puzzled by this. His parents did not quarrel, did not have the Cold War, and did not derail.

Under her repeated questioning, her mother said two words: grieving.

It turned out that Over the years, Lao Xu's attitude towards his wife was chilling.

Obviously his wife is elegant and beautiful, but he always praises the beauty of other women, and satire his wife is a yellow -faced woman, old and ugly.

Obviously his wife's paintings were excellent, but he pretended to be blind, and from time to time, he was ridiculous.

Facing the cold words of her husband, Lu Yue was not shocked on the surface, and in fact, his heart had collapsed into mud.

Two people are together, the most taboo is not to speak well.

No matter how concerned and love in your heart, once the words in your mouth change, no matter how deep your feelings are, the other party will not perceive.

If you talk more, the happiness between the family will be more intense and mellow.

Among the couples of the Republic of China, Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu have always been a unique category.

Every other culture everyone, because of following the new culture movement, when the wife who abandoned the chant, only Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu arranged by his parents spent a lifetime.

Jiang Dongxiu is not beautiful, her face is round, but Hu Shi said: "She is virtuous and good at handling housework."

Jiang Dongxiu had no knowledge, and he didn't know a few characters, but Hu Shi said: "She culture is low, but she loves to learn."

Jiang Dongxiu especially likes to play mahjong, but Hu Shi said, "She is kind and knows how to fight for wealth."

For his wife, Hu Shi wrote a famous saying: "Two generations first, and at the beginning of this. Whoever merits, my woman Dongxiu." Jiang Dongxiu can live in a new and old society, living out his complete life, and have to live in his successful life. Said, it has a lot to do with Hu Shi.

Because Hu Shi never praised his wife, the two could be able to hold their hands and spend their white heads together.

Lin Qingxuan once said: The best way to express love is joy, rewards and appreciation.

In life, look at your family with more appreciation, and use comfortable words to comfort each other.

You will find that many trivial frictions will be resolved invisible.

More importantly, a gentle speech spoke, not only the eyebrows of the family's eyes will smile, but the family atmosphere will become harmonious and warm.

Between family members, often saying comfortable words, a family will definitely be better.

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Post

There is a saying: The best marriage is that you are considerate of my hard work, and I know that it is not easy.

For each other, even if it is hard to suffer.

The writer has told such a story.

A husband was unemployed. He did not tell his wife, but instead quietly worked as a short worker in a cement plant.

Every morning, he went out with a official document, and every evening, he returned home with a smile.

The cement plant has a lot of dust. After working one day, the original guy turned into a "mud bodhisattva".

So after get off work, he would find a place to take a bath first, then put on a suit, pretending to go home without any matter.

At dinner, his wife asked as usual: "Is work smooth?"

He teased: "Successful, the new female college students are pleasing to the eye."

The wife was angry, but gave the man a chopstick fungus.

One night, his wife asked him:

"Do you want to change places to work? Some company is recruiting. I ask inquiries and ask you to meet. Try it tomorrow?"

The husband's heart was ecstatic, but he said, "Why should you change it?"

The wife said, "Because this treatment is very good."

Husband went to apply for application and was successfully admitted. Three years later, it was successfully promoted to the company's deputy president.

On that day, his wife celebrated him to him, "I have been working in the cement plant before, I always know."

The husband widened his eyes and was incredible.

The wife said, "I make a plate of fungus scrambled eggs every day, and sometimes forcing you to eat two spoons of pear cream, you just want to clear your lungs."

After listening to this, the husband couldn't help crying.

We often say that family is a warm harbor.

In fact, the meaning of family members is to warm each other.

Some people understand during the difficulties that some people are concerned during adversity, and some people understand during despair.

In the final analysis, the bond of marriage is the distress and care of each other.

When it is helpless, there is TA as your crutch. When it is fragile, TA has straightened your backbone.

As long as the family can be considerate of each other, no matter how much fatigue, it will be taken care of, no matter how big the problem will be successfully resolved, the days will naturally be sweeter.

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Lin Yutang said:

Happiness is nothing more than four things: one is to sleep on his own bed; the other is to eat dishes made by parents; the third is to listen to lovers and talk about love; the fourth is to play games with children.

A happy home, like a pot of old wine, requires every member to make love as the material and brew it with heart.

Operating a good family is the most important cause of each of us in our lives.

Like a praise. May everyone in the family be grateful, speak comfortably, and do things.

Make the family more harmonious, make the relationship more softer, and make life shine.

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