Don't take someone else's ruler, measure your life

Author: Insight · Annabe Su

Living like yourself is the best gift for life.

Behind the apartment of the aestheticist Zhu Guangqian, there is a small river. He goes to the river every night, walks along the east bank, cross the bridge and then return along the west bank.

He said: "When I walked on the East Coast, I felt that the scenery on the west coast was more beautiful than the east bank; when I walked on the west coast, I felt that the scenery on the east bank was more beautiful."

People are often like this, always looking up at the scenery elsewhere, but forgetting that they are standing in the scenery.

In this world, everyone has their own way to go. Instead of looking up at others, it is better to follow their inner rhythm.

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The so -called envy is just unknown. I have seen a question on the Internet: "Why are people always envy others?"

A high praise replied: "Because people always only like to chase the light, they ignore the shadow behind the light."

We often only notice the halo in others, and the suffering he has suffered alone cannot feel the same.

In Yishu's novel "The First Half of Life", the Zijun of the housewife has always been envious of Tang Jing, a girlfriend who is like a fish in the workplace.

In her impression, Tang Jing was independent and strong, wearing a brand -name suit, wearing Rolex, driving an imported car to get off work, and her life was comfortable.

Therefore, every time she heard Tang Jing complaining about the problems in her work, she never cared about when she was in love.

It wasn't until one day that Zijun's husband proposed a divorce, and Zijun was forced to enter the society from a young staff to understand that Tang Jing was not easy.

It turns out that there are so many problems at work: customers' difficulties, boss's accusations, overloaded work ...

Mr. Ji Xianlin once said, "Everyone has a difficult scripture, and the incomplete one is life."

Life is alive, each with its own suffering. Any kind of glorious life requires a great price to maintain.

Behind the achievements of others, there may be the bitterness you can't swallow;

Before other people have, maybe they have suffered countless losses.

When you understand the truth under the gloriousness, you will no longer easily envy the applause and attention of others.

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Blind comparison will only increase trouble. In the past, the two were walking together and felt thirsty on the way, so they went to drink water together.

After finding the water source, one of them took out the gold cup and the other took out the bamboo tube.

People who took the bamboo tube to see the glittering cup of others and felt inferior, and the steps later became heavier.

He may have forgotten that what he originally needed was water, not a cup, and his goal was to rush the road, not follow the footsteps of others.

In our lives, why aren't we people holding a bamboo tube?

I often fall into the strange circle of comparison, but I forgot what I set off for.

I have a friend who is talented and intelligent. I went to a well -known college in Beijing from a small town school all the way.

It stands to say that he should have a happy life.

But he became depressed and felt that he was not as good as others everywhere.

He provided a small two -bedroom room in the suburbs with his ability, but envy the scenery of the small houses in the three rings of others;

He ate the exquisite package downstairs in the company, and always felt that those who often went in and out of high -end restaurants were higher than one than himself.

He obviously owns "Starbucks Freedom", and he will still be jealous of others to buy expensive imported coffee machines ...

Friends did not realize that they had no background. With their hard work, it was not easy to take root in big cities.

The root of his pain is that he always uses the standards of others to ask himself.

Writer Liu Na said that the reason why comparison is the source of all evils is because we are not compared with yesterday, but always people who always take different starting points to humiliate ourselves.

People will always have the difference between intelligence, environment, and luck.

In this world, there are always people who run faster than you, and there are always people who run farther than you.

Instead of chasing the footsteps of others, it is better to sail yourself and send yourself a voyage.

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Don't take someone else's ruler and measure your life. Comicist Cai Zhizhong wrote a story.

Di Zi envied Xiao, and wanted to worship flute as a teacher.

Xiao agreed, it said: "On the age, seniority, and experience, I am higher than you. I do have many places worth your learning."

But the flute is the flute, and the flute is always flute.

No matter how hard the flute studies, he always does not learn the tunes of the sinking and beautiful, but even forgot his own tone.

Everyone lives in the world, and everyone has their own exclusive position, as well as their own fixed beats.

In the 19th century, a young man graduated from Harvard University.

In that economy with rapid economic development, many people around them took the express train of the times and made a lot of money.

And he has been a teaching craftsman, a newspaper reporter, and a land surveyor.

When others saw him nothing, he advised him to learn some experience with the successful people around him, but he said:

"I would rather sit on a pumpkin, and I am not willing to squeeze with you in a velvet chair."

He never envy those glorious and achievements, and he was unwilling to be wrapped forward by the lives of others.

In 1845, he avoided the hustle and bustle and went to Lake Walden alone, where he built a hut, made the sunrise, and at the sunset.

Here, without you chasing me, and there is no obsessed light.

He listened to the sound of the wind passing through the bamboo forest, bathed in the moonlight Qinghui, and finally found the freedom he longed for.

This young man later wrote the world -renowned "Lake Waldon" and was known as the "founder of the natural essay" Henry David Suloro. Looking back at his experience, he told the world in the book:

"A person can only succeed in the direction of his dream guidance and strive to live he wants to live."

In this world, there is no exactly the same life, and everyone's definition of success is different.

The wisdom of life is to measure your life without using the ruler of others.

As there is a paragraph:

"You don't have to grow into a rose. If you are happy, you can make jasmine, light chrysanthemum, an unknown flower, and make millions.

Living like yourself is the best gift for life. "

Life is a feast that belongs to its own. If you know what you want and go down firmly, you can live up to his life.

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San Mao once said, "The road is composed of feet and each, and the foot indicates that the road comes out of the feet, and each means that each person has the road."

Other people's ruler can't measure your life; other people's street signs cannot be a beacon that guides you.

Like a praise, live for the rest of your life, live your own life, no longer compare, no longer envy.

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