Not embarrassed by high places, not embarrassing in the low place

Author: insight allergy

If life does not have you, you have to treat yourself more well.

Someone asked the Zen master, what did the carp do when they did not jump over Longmen?

Zen Master said that he was cultivated in the cold water of Shentan.

Ask again, what about the Longmen?

The Zen master answered that it is difficult for fish to chase in the sky.

That person asked again: What about that?

The Zen master answered that Longxing Yunbuyu, nourishing the world.

The same is true of life.

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People are in height, not being embarrassed to be cultivated. J. K · Rowling said: "A person's true education, don't look at how he treats people with higher identity than himself, depends on how he treats people with lower identity than himself."

The biggest ugliness in human nature is to like to embarrass others, especially after holding power, and people who change the law.

In the early years, I saw a small story in the book.

There was a fleet, the captain was extremely embarrassed and often treated the crew.

He believes that, except for work, the crew did not create value at other times, so even the rest and eating time are not counted as within work hours.

On one occasion, the captain had a good thing, and a banquet of the crew was invited to eat and drink, but only half a pot of wine entertained them.

The crew was very angry, and after a total of half saw the jug.

After knowing that the captain was very annoyed, he was very annoyed and scolded them who did not know how to do it.

The crew said, "You think we have a time to rest and eat, so it is not a working hours. Then there is no wine in the upper part of the jug, isn't it useless? So we saw it."

Old saying, don't be a bitch with your body.

The more cultivating people, when they are in a high position, the more they will not bully others and make it difficult for others.

Wu Chunbo, a professor of the Chinese People's Congress, talked about Ren Zhengfei and had said such a thing.

Once he dinner with Ren Zhengfei.

At that time, the waiter of the restaurant was a new intern. The business was unfamiliar, and the dishes and service reactions were not powerful.

The accompanying executive was very dissatisfied with her service, criticized her on the spot, and the waiter was scared at the time.

When Ren Zhengfei saw this scene, he immediately apologized to the waiter.

And repeatedly said to the accompanying executives:

"Don't be so fierce to the waiter. They are so young, and they are not easy to work in Beijing with such a low salary. It is more friendly to treat them."

After that, he comforted the waiter from time to time and gave a tip.

"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: It is a blessing to make one step high, and it is blessing to treat people.

In life, everyone is embarrassed.

The real strong, never showing his own sense of superiority when he is not in the dilemma of others, but can give birth to a kind of tenderness from the heart.

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Low, not embarrassing is wisdom. There was an unemployed friend who finally received an interview invitation from a company some time ago.

"Why do I talk so much, am I pig?"

"I can't grasp such a good opportunity, I am a waste."

He kept criticizing himself in such words.

Not only he is the same, and when he encounters the same situation in life, many people will only care about blame himself that he does not perform well, but forgets to comfort himself.

Christing said in the book "The Power of Self -care":

"When everyone has messed up, what we need is to treat ourselves well. Being frustrated is an inevitable part of life. In fact, it is still worthy of respect."

The protagonist and Xiaonan of the Japanese drama "Long Holiday" are older young people who are not smooth in their careers and feelings, and their lives are stretched.

Fortunately, they are open -minded. In their opinion, the trough in life is inevitable, and they comfort each other:

"I think, people don't always work hard. Whether they are not doing well, there will always be? Then you might as well treat it as a long holiday. ","

On the road of life, there are few smooth sails, mostly dangerous beaches.

May wish to drop every time as an opportunity to change us; take every low tide as a holiday for our fate.

In 1934, Lao She was forced to "make a professional writer who can't eat meals" and moved from Shanghai to Qingdao.

In the years in Qingdao, the living environment was extremely poor. The car could not afford, and the meal could not afford it.

He couldn't afford the car, so he walked.

He couldn't afford to eat outside, and he did it at home. He also said that although it was not as good as the chef, he was better than fish and shrimp.

The only entertainment is to go outside when he encounters a sunny day, but he is happy: "No need to spend money and get close to nature."

Even if life is distressed, he has an elegant love, watching Ye Er is beautiful, and the flowers are amazing. He also wrote the famous "Camel Xiangzi".

Psychologist Rogers said: "The most important thing in life is to have the ability to create happiness. It comes from three aspects -letting go down, facing reality and enjoying the present."

Therefore, if life is not vertically you, you have to treat yourself more well.

If you are sunny and day, you will enjoy the leisurely clouds;

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Repair the mentality at a low place, and the pattern is repaired at the high place. There is a saying: "People who can run themselves in low places can often reach the high place of life."

The confused people often publicize in the current situation and depressed in adversity;

Those who really have great wisdom know how to cultivate their minds when they are successful.

During the first time Zeng Guofan entered the Hanlin Academy, he did not go to Zhao Yanfu to the banquet.

Later, Zeng Guofan was impeached, and the official position dropped several levels.

Once, Zeng Guofan's tinea of ​​psoriasis was so severe that he could not sit for a long time. He wanted to take a leave at home to rest.

He didn't make a good look at his face. Do you look down on his official? Your fake, I am not sure.

Zeng Guofan had to continue to work with illness.

Usually, as long as Zhao Yan had a chance, he deliberately found him, suppressed him everywhere, and said bad things behind him.

He also torn his documents in front of Zeng Guofan and crushed his documents and rebuked his documents unqualified, so Zeng Guofan copied again.

When other colleagues saw it, they felt angry for Zeng Guofan, but Zeng Guofan was okay, just to do a good job in hand.

In this life, when there is grievances, there is no reliable mountain behind him, and no one can rely on.

At this time, a strong heart was cultivated, and the roots were silent in order to survive the difficult time and wait for the possibility of breaking the soil.

Later, Zeng Guofan stepped up the Hunan Army step by step, set up sweats for the court, and was promoted to the Governor of Liangjiang.

Zhao Yan trembled and thought that Zeng Guofan would take his own opener and come back to revenge, but he didn't want Zeng Guofan to have no embarrassment, and he had always been courteous to him.

In this regard, Zeng Guofan said: If he was entangled with him at the time, maybe I was still his men now.

There is a paragraph that said well:

"If you are in a low place, then you can see it as a large pot. Although it is in the bottom of the pot, no matter which direction we yearn for, it is rising.

If you live in a high place, then you will be compassionate and use our power to help others. "

Treat others well when you go, treat yourself well in adversity, and finally cultivate a wide life like the sea.

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Finally, share with you Mr. Qian Zhongshu:

At a high place, treat others as a person, do not do something; at the low place, treat yourself as a person, and finally do whatever you have.

Like a praise, whether good or bad in life, as long as you can bear it, it is wealth.

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