The smaller the pattern, the less unhappy

A long time ago, a king encountered such a problem:

A thin line on the wall is required to make this line a bit thinner without touching this line?

The king was puzzled, and he had a lot of money to reward, but the day passed day by day. Although the passers -by came and went, they finally shook their heads and gave up.

Until one day, a monk came, and he drew a thick line next to the thin line and left. It turns out that under the reflection of the "thick line", the "thin line" will appear thinner.

Isn't this the same in life? The thick line represents your pattern, and the thin line represents the many trivial things you encounter.

If you are always anxious, emotionally out of control, and you can't feel happy, because your pattern is not big enough.

When your pattern is large, you can tolerate all things, calm your heart, and look long in the long run, not trapped by the moment. Here are three suggestions for improving the pattern.

1 to hold emotions

The reason why people feel painful and unable to control their temper is often because the pattern is too small.

The ancients said:

The foolish people were angry, and the smart man was angry.

Everyone has seven emotions and six desires, but people who really have wisdom know how to control their emotions and restrain their anger.

One day, Zeng Guofan sat in front of the window and read the "Zuo Zhuan" aloud in the light outside the window.

Suddenly I heard someone shouted: "Zeng Guofan, you blocked the light of the windows. What do I read? I don't hurry away!" Zeng Guofan looked sideways, Yang Furui, who was opposite to himself.

At this time, Yang Furui did not read it. His bed leaned against the other side of the window and did not completely cover the light.

Zeng Guofan was very angry and wanted to theory with him, but he still pressed the anger, moved the stool to his bed, and read it again.

Soon after, Zeng Guofan raised it, and his classmates congratulated him.

But Yang Furui was furious, and yelled at Zeng Guofan: "The Feng Shui in this house was originally mine, and you took it away."

Everyone accused Yang Furui, while Zeng Guofan persuaded everyone not to be angry for this little thing.

In life, we often encounter some uncomfortable people and uncomfortable things, and it is inevitable that they will be grievances.

But angry just punish yourself with other people's mistakes.

A close person does not need to be angry; unrelated people are not worthwhile.

In life, you must learn to control your temper and look at the disturbances of the world with your normal heart.

2

People often say that "pattern" is personality, and the situation is the mind.

People with a pattern can often be seen and not disturbed by the moment.

I have read such a sentence:

For a person with a wide heart, his heart is like a big lake. If you throw it in a torch, it will go out soon;

If you throw a pack of salt, it will soon be diluted. In turn, if you pour a pack of salt into a glass of water, can this glass of water swallow?

This is why some people have repeated emotions and unable to get rid of bad things. The pattern is too small.

The magnificence becomes larger, the complaints become less; the heart and chest become wider, and the incident becomes smaller; the pattern becomes larger, the problem becomes smaller.

A generation of Confucian Confucianism, Wang Yangming, was bumpy in his life, although he was tortured by fate.

However, even if the dragon field that is exiled everywhere can still be kept open, and at this most difficult time, it is the famous "Dragon City Wu Dao".

Later, he said: For two years in the dragon field, he encountered poison, and his followers were poisoned, but I was safe and sound, because of my open mind.

As he wrote the poem:

Hungry to eat and sleep, just practice Xuan Xuan.

He said that he didn't believe it with the world, but found the gods from outside.

It's a bit open -minded, life is so beautiful, and it is not worthwhile to waste feelings and moods in the wrong person and the past.

When you can support the boat in your belly, everyone you meet is your ferryman.

3

The pattern is to be able to sink, not complaining, not trapped at the moment.

From ancient times to the present, those who have become big things can hold their breath and stabilize God when facing suffering.

Only when you do n’t complain, do n’t worry, and keep full of your wings, can you accumulate thickly.

The suffering in life is a kind of wealth and a test, depending on what kind of mentality you face.

As said in the Analects:

Don't complain about the sky, not especially, and go to school.

In the face of suffering, people who complain often are often increasingly not smooth.

If you are able to hold your breath, you can get it. Complaints cannot solve any problems. Only by actively facing can we come to the direction of life.

When your pattern is big, your mood is good, your temper is small, and happiness will follow.

Source | Insight, reading 369, there is a book; the picture is from the Internet

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