Children who are not filial when they grow up have these three characteristics when they were young.

For thousands of years, in the traditional Chinese universal values, the biggest look at the family is whether the children of this family are interesting and the children who are prosperous are filial.

"Hundreds of filial piety first" is not only the respect and gratitude of the parents who give their lives to their lives, but also cherish and gratitude to everything they have.

The greatest happiness of a family may not be in Qionglou Yuyu, not drinking Qiongju Jade, not to sit in BMW Mercedes, but to cultivate children who can grow up when they grow up.

However, raising children is not always as expected. In the real world, many children are not filial when they grow up, and these children who are not filial when they grow up have these three obvious characteristics.

I have seen such a group in a forum discussion group- "parents are all disaster."

Some people complain that their parents are not working hard enough, and they have not created a material condition that can not worry about eating, worrying about wearing, and buying famous brands and casual flowers, causing his struggle

Some people complain that their parents have a thin knowledge, and they often make jokes when they bring them out, so that when he can always be integrated into the upper society, he is beaten back to the original shape.

Other people, even after the parents gave tens of thousands of living expenses every month, they complained that their parents took care of him and asked him to eat healthy food and drink less milk tea ...

In their eyes, the parents seemed to be the one who had done many wrong things but did not know.

However, these people were so shameless and blame and complained, but it made me shudder.

I don't know when the parents have become unjust, and the children attribute everything to life to their parents.

I think that the parents are not good enough, so I am not good enough, but I never think about it. For them, the parents have made the greatest efforts.

I have seen such a news:

In the subway station, the girl plunged her hands with her hands, and the mother who was pushing the suitcase and holding a large bag of small bags fiercely. Her attitude was extremely fierce. If she didn't know, she thought they had hatred.

But the mother did not educate her, but was coaxing the girl: "Don't be angry, don't be angry, it's okay."

People familiar with the matter understood the reason that the child's punches and kicks of his mother were just because the mother went wrong.

Parents who love their children can tolerate all the shortcomings and problems of the children. They do everything to provide the children with the city where the wind and rain are covered, but they do not want to, which may not be able to exchange the filial piety of the children.

Because some children are particularly good at trampled on their parents 'love, they are too chilling because they complain about their parents who have no ability and ability, and even directly attack their parents' personality dignity.

In fact, as parents, we don't have to hold everything to the children, and teach them "lover, people who are constant love".

Let them understand that "gifted people roses, leaving incense in their hands" instead of "getting inch into the ruler, complaining of the sky", nor is they scolding their parents at every turn, without the meaning of respecting relatives.

Many parents think that as long as they give their children more love, they can make their children grow better. However, children who grow up in only love and rules often lose gratitude and awe.

Only love, families without rules, and unable to raise filial piety; behind every sensible and filial child, there must be a pair of parents who can "regulate".

I heard a friend who had taught in a private kindergarten to tell such a story:

That year, their kindergarten came with a very naughty little boy, which seemed to be more unconventional than other children.

He often cried and made trouble because he was unsatisfactory, bullying other children, and sometimes the teacher couldn't help him.

In a school -organized parent -child activity, he saw the rich and interesting cars, rockets, aircraft carriers, and robots in the kindergarten yard, and he had a big deal. Evaluate works.

Even if he was fun, he was not fun, so he destroyed other people's works.

His every move angered many parents present. Everyone felt that we must educate this immature child. However, his parents sent their parents, saying, "The child is still young, and he is not sensible. Please don't blame him."

Seeing someone holding back, the child became more domineering, and there was no heavenly after that.

Later, because he was too horizontal in the kindergarten, he was jointly asked the kindergarten to reject the kindergarten. Children could only be forced to change to other kindergartens to go to school.

At the beginning of people, sex is good. When each child comes to this world, it was originally just a piece of white paper. What line do you draw on him, he will show what.

If the child is a kite intentionally flying, then the rules are that line.

Parents need to grab the line firmly before the children understand the rules, so that it can tighten and straight, avoid the children from deviating from the direction, and walk around.

And when the children can understand the rules, the parents can let go with peace of mind, and the sky is high.

After all, the children who can keep the rules can practice the real gentleman personality, be able to treat themselves well, and respect the teacher.

In education, there is such a law:

When you spoil your children blindly, the more you give, the more you pay, the less gratitude you will gain.

Children will ask more until you take your dedication as a matter of course, and eventually cause their indifference.

This is the "Berbal Law".

Many parents don't understand why they just ca n’t satisfy the children's obedience for a while, and everything has become sin. You know, parents' compromises and concessions to children's obtained by children are the root cause of the children.

Faced with the child's request, star Qi Wei's approach is praised:

Qi Wei's daughter Lucky is very cute. She likes small skirts and lipsticks. Her parents have always implemented the concept of "rich" daughter, making the child carefree.

On one occasion, Qi Wei wore a very beautiful skirt. Lucky liked it when she saw it, and quarreled with her mother for this skirt. But Qi Wei told her: "This skirt is mine, I want to be beautiful too."

Qi Wei said, "This thing is mine. You have no reason because you are young, you can turn other people's things into your own. This bad problem cannot be used to it."

Even if it is a three -year -old child, she claims what should not be requested, and my mother will told her toughly that this is my thing, and you can't ask at will.

This kind of just right rejection can make children understand what "should" and what is "not", which will prevent them from becoming a "giant baby" that is unpredictable, and it will also avoid that they will become the so -called "old people" in the future. Vampire on parents.

It is simple to raise a child, that is, to satisfy the child's granting, so that he will become a giant baby who blindly obedient, unknown gratitude, and only enjoy it.

It is not difficult to raise a child, just let him know how to fight by himself, step by step, and move forward solidly.

The relationship between parents and children should be like a lighthouse and a ship. I illuminate your travel and return road at the pier. You go to work hard for the full load; instead of only the parents' resentment, only the child's grant.

Just like one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul wakes the other soul. Family education is essentially awakening, lighting, and comfort.

Parents and children, compared to the external Vanity Field, make people feel warm is the atmosphere of love and degree flowing between each other;

Parents and children are just nourishing each other. I punish you with virtue, training you with ruler, and teaching you to love.

In a loving environment, give children a degree of education, educating people, and children will not disappoint their hope, they must grow well and healthy.

Light [Look at], I hope you and your children can gain warm love.

Author | Ji Fangyu, the post -90s Xiangnan girl, wrote the heart painting sound to see the world.

Picture | Visual China

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