Feng Tang: The most advanced way of living after 40

Author: Insight on onetong

Take a bite at a time, and go step by step.

Writer Feng Tang was invited to share experience in Xiehe Medical University.

He carefully recalled the experience of the first half of his life and said:

"In my short -term career, a considerable number of people, because the pressure is too strong, it is difficult to digest, and suffer from cancer. In this life, people may wish to live slower and live easily."

At the end of the speech, he gave the "nine -character motto" away from the disease: not in a hurry, not afraid, shameless.

If you think about it, this is not only the secret of health, but also the attitude of people to middle age.

01

Not in a hurry

Zhou Rong in the Qing Dynasty recorded a story in "Chunhan Hall Collection".

In the winter, he wanted to enter the county town from nearby Hegang, and the book boy tied up a large book with a wooden clip to follow him.

When there are about two miles away from the county seat, the sun is about to go down.

Zhou Rong asked the ferryer by the river: "Is it too late before the city gate is closed?"

The Ferryman looked at the book boy carefully and replied: "Go slowly, it's okay; hurrying, it's too late."

Zhou Rong heard that the ferryman was playing with them, so he moved forward with the book boy.

However, not long after walking, the book boy fell down, the rope that bundled the book was broken, and the book was scattered. When the book was tied and tied, the gate in front of him had been closed.

As the so -called, the speed of desire is not reached.

On the road of life, he can be relieved to become a large instrument.

Feng Tang was a doctor at Beijing Union Hospital. After witnessing too much power in the ward, he chose to resign and study abroad to study MBA (a master's degree in management). At that time, he was 30 years old.

When the classmates glow and heat up in the medical field and build a tree, he was sitting in the classroom on the other side of the ocean.

The library is the place where he goes most often. When you sit, it is a day, or holding a piece of white paper, the calculation account is flat; or review the question.

After two years of study, he was patient and took six financial courses.

After graduating, he entered the world's top consulting company, McKinsey, and became a grass -roots employee.

When colleagues shuttled around the world, when he sought cooperation intention, he shrank in the corner of the company and was surrounded by high -rise data documents.

From the most basic financial knowledge, to the overall business structure, he fulfilled his knowledge.

Finally, he was able to counterattack into a global partner of McKinsey from a small staff member.

Sony founder Sheng Tian Zhaofu once said: "None of the beautiful things we have done can be done quickly."

The cicada was in the summer, but it was dormant for several seasons; a short -lived, but waiting for countless days.

Many things are like aged wines. Only after the time of time can it be beautiful.

When people are middle -aged, they should understand that good things are grinding, eating a bite, and walking step by step.

You just calm down and move forward in one direction, and life will not live up to everyone who grows up.

02

not afraid

Feng Tang once mentioned a point in "Success".

Life is like a casino.

Betting with tiles will be very relaxed in your heart; if you use jade to bet, you will be very worried; if you use gold, you will be panicked and restless.

The greater the bet, the heavier the psychological burden.

Only by looking at light gains and losses and not being trapped by the results can we go more stable and farther.

After entering McKinsey, Feng Tang worked for more than a year and worked for 90 hours a week.

But when the list of promoters was announced, there was no name on it. He was very frustrated for this and even began to worry about his future.

Gradually, he found that his work efficiency was getting lower and lower, and the assessment was at stake.

Only then did he realize that the more afraid of losing, the easier it was to fall into anxiety and even stagnated.

Fearless of life can do something.

Jing Yidan, a well -known host of CCTV, entered the radio station of his hometown after graduating from college and became a broadcaster.

The excellent work and the familiar environment are the living conditions of many people's dreaming.

But this leisurely day is too long, Jing Yidan feels a little bit boring, and she has the idea of ​​studying the postgraduate entrance examination.

The family and friends felt that she was blindly tossing, gave up the iron rice bowl, and competed with thousands of people to compete for a promising quota.

But she strengthened her thoughts and didn't want to be in that small studio for a lifetime.

On the road of postgraduate entrance examination, she was not smooth sailing. The first time she failed and the second time she failed.

For the third time, she was as expected to be admitted to her favorite school. At this time, she was 28 years old.

Many people feel that it is not worth it, but it is this choice that completely changes her life.

After graduating from graduate school, she successfully entered CCTV and became a gold medal host.

The god of basketball Jordan said in an interview:

"I have lost 300 games. I failed one after another in my life, but this is why I can succeed.

I have never been afraid of failure, I can accept failure, but I can't accept that I don't try. "

In this life, if he is afraid of seeing the withering of the flowers and refuses to plant flowers, he will only miss more flowers.

The growing age is the wisdom given to us by the years, and we should not be an excuse for us to be afraid to take a step forward.

Whenever, people must have a strong force.

If you have a better job, you can pursue it. If you have unrealized dreams, you will try it. Fate will always favors the brave who dare to let go and not be afraid of failure. 03

shameless

Feng Tang said in such a paragraph in the "Strange Conference":

There are a lot of things in the world. In the final analysis, there are two things, one is "close my fart", and the other is "close your fart".

At that time, Feng Tang across the border was the host. After the show was broadcast, he scolded online.

He scolded him greasy, saying that he was too famous, and even rose to his personal attack, but Feng Tang never cared.

When he translated and published "Bird Collection", he attracted group mockery, and his works had to be removed, but Feng Tang was still self -care.

"Why do I care about these people boasting me or scolding me? Continue to be self -free, more important."

The sound of the unexpected world is as if he punched the air, and he couldn't hurt others, but he was tired.

Learn to block it to make lightly go into battle and live in your own rhythm.

In 1970, a 14 -year -old mining boy worked silently in his heart: I want to be a writer like Balzac.

At that time, he only knew more than 3,000 Chinese characters, and the cultural level was similar to a primary school student.

Everyone around felt that he had two more axis, and ridiculed: "If you can become a writer, then the world is strange."

His manuscript was sent out stack by stack, and he was returned by stack.

Gradually, he became the joke of the local post officer. As soon as they saw his letter, they began to shout: "The manuscript fee (abandoned), the manuscript fee (waste)."

But he didn't care about the evaluation of others at all. He insisted on writing for six years without recognition.

A few years later, the fire of "The Name of the People" also brought this dreamer to the public's vision. He is the author and screenwriter of Zhou Meisen- "The Name of the People".

There is a good saying on the Internet:

"I never value the opinions of others. I know that the mouth is difficult to adjust, just like it;

I never care about the evaluation of others. I am not his wisdom teeth.

I never envy the lives of others. How do they have nothing to do with me, it is important to live a good. "

It is not in the mouth of others, but under his own feet.

In the second half of life, there is no need to attach to the outside world.

Focus on yourself, go all the way, time will prove everything.

I really agree with Mr. Yang Yan's words:

"The only thing that cannot be copied in the world is time. The only thing that cannot be repeated is life, how to go, and what kind of life is based on your own efforts and choices."

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