A family's highest -level showing wealth is not a house, not a deposit, but a ...

Writer Murm has a famous saying, and it is quite touched when he reads:

"A person traveled all over the world for what he needed. He found it home and found it."

On the road of life, how many winds and rain are clear, only home, the nostalgia and fetters of life-

Family sitting freely, there is a warm light that can be lit;

The family style is suitable, and there is the power to moisturize the silence.

The best family style is to be poor or not to blame the father.

"The Book of Songs" said: "Mourning parents, give birth to me."

Behind the word of the parents is the endless hard work of supporting the family, and the moment of worries about the childhood child.

Therefore, don't think of being poor, because parents have worked hard for their children for a lifetime;

Don't blame your parents, because in the face of wind and rain, they often live harder than us.

I have a friend who died early, my father was sick for many years, and his family was poor at home.

In order to live, he brushed the plate at a small restaurant, went to the cement plant to carry the cement, and even helped others to lift the coffin.

But he never complained about his father's use, nor did he blame his father to be too poor.

On the contrary, he was filial piety and was very good to his father. He always said, "My dad is not good at his body. It is not easy to pull me up with one acre and three points!"

When he first started working, as soon as he was fake, he would return to his rural hometown to visit his father;

A few years later, he stabilized the heel in the county seat, and he received his father's care in the city.

Two days ago Father's Day, he posted such a circle of friends:

My father is ordinary, has little knowledge, and has no ability and resources to support me. But he raised me with porridge and meals for me to read and literate, teach me a commonplace. He failed to support me a day, but he was the only umbrella in my life and supported me a home.

Seeing such a text, I really lamented.

I have seen too many people, the resentment is not good, hates that the family is too ordinary, and the family is born in poverty.

I have also seen too many people, and they work hard on their own, but they blame their parents to be incompetent, poor, and short.

Life is alive, and the father is not blame his father.

Because, only by understanding the hardships of parents can I break through in a difficult life and live a wonderful manner;

Only by accepting the ordinary of parents can we counterattack in ordinary life and live gorgeously.

Some time ago, there was a hot topic on Zhihu: There are many brothers and sisters at home, how should I filial piety to my parents?

The highest praise answer is only five words: "Don't compare."

Yes, filial piety parents are their own business, and they have nothing to do with others.

When the comparison between the hands and feet is more, and the filial piety to the parents is increasing, it will gradually understand:

Filial piety is better than brothers, and it is the blessing of the family.

Before reading the Secret of Intimate Relationships, a story in the book deeply touched me.

In a small town in California, there is a carpenter.

The carpenter is filial to the parents, but because of the meager income, many times, the elder brother who is in business is responsible for all the expenses of his parents.

The carpenter was very distressed and felt that he had not fulfilled the filial piety of his children.

He talked to friends:

"My parents worked hard to raise my brother and my brother, but I couldn't do anything for them. I supported them alone.

I didn't say any comfort, but asked him:

"Over the years, who has accompanied your parents to talk about walking on weekdays?"

He lowered his head and whispered, "I."

The friend asked again: "When your parents are sick, who is to take care of them?"

He still looked like a ginseng, replied: "It's me."

My friend continued to ask: "Who took them to see the NBA a few days ago?"

Hearing this, he raised his head: "It's me too."

But soon, he lowered his head again: "But all the flowers were paid by my brother, I just accompanied them."

Looking at the carpenter who understands the non -understanding, my friend patiently said:

"Filial parents are not only the road of material. Who says that you are not precious for them?"

Hearing this, he suddenly realized.

Bi Shumin once wrote in "Filial Prices":

"Maybe it is a table of mountains and sea flavors, maybe a small flower and a small flower;

Maybe it is the prosperous flowers of the flowers, maybe it is a pair of clean old shoes;

Perhaps tens of thousands of money, maybe just a coin containing body temperature ...

But on the balance of 'filial piety', they are equal. "

Do not use the flesh of the flesh to follow the ruler of his parents to measure how much you pay.

Because filial piety has no distinction between high and low.

If you have a better economic ability, you will pay more and support your parents in material;

If the family conditions are a little bit, they will accompany them more and nourish their parents in spirit.

I have seen such a sentence in the book and feels quite reasonable:

"The blame when I was in trouble is the biggest killer in the intimacy."

Along the way, I have seen too many partners who are scattered in the blame, and have seen too many couples who are alive in each other.

Finally, I know: It is the true meaning of happiness.

Remember 3 years ago, did the special photo that moved countless people?

This is the circle of friends of a man in Nantong, Jiangsu in January 2018.

The four -wheeled cars, the blood on the two, and the messy ground were showing the tragic car accident.

However, the smiling smile on the two faces made people move out. It turned out that he drove home with his wife that day.

Unexpectedly, suddenly, his wife accidentally drove the car to a fire hydrant, and the entire car rolled straight on the ground.

The two in the car were frightened and climbed out after being shocked.

Fortunately, they were only injured.

His wife was ashamed, ready to welcome her husband's head and scolding.

As a result, her husband not only did not blame her, but instead pulled her, and closed Zhang Ying at the scene of the accident, saying it was to commemorate this "rare" experience.

In these years, the older you are, the more you agree with it:

"The biggest stupidity in marriage is to know how to blame when they are in trouble."

Yeah, no matter how deep feelings, they will also love love in a sentence of scolding;

The close relationship will slowly walk towards the stranger in the blame again and again.

The trip to the avenue is not responsible for others.

Only if you do not blame your wife, you can keep the peace of peace in the house and the strong love between each other.

On Douban, there is a group called "color difficult", which is particularly incisive:

"The most rare thing in parent -child relationship is a" good -looking "face."

Extremely agreed.

The biggest enemy of education is not the parent's education, nor the insights of the parents, but their temper.

Parents who are not patient with their children, can not teach children who are prosperous;

Parents who have a temper of children who have a temper and can't raise gratitude.

And the really high -level parents know how to be in front of their children.

"Silicon Valley Iron Man" Elon Musk's mother, Meyer Musk, has an educational rule: "Don't scold."

Once, the young Elon Musk prank, quietly put a small firecracker in a guest cigarette.

When the guest lit the cigarette, the firecrackers exploded, the guest was frightened, and the face collapsed.

Looking at the panic guests, Musk laughed and leaned back.

Mother Meyer Musk was very angry after learning about it, but she did not immediately punish Musk.

Instead, I said "interesting" first;

Then explained the danger of the firecrackers in cigarettes to Yan Yuecai;

Finally touched Little Musk's head and whispered: "Don't do it in the future."

Under his mother's "no scolding" education, the three brothers and sisters of Elon Musk were not only adults, but also talents.

On the other hand, the parents around--

How many people get angry with their sons and get angry with their daughters. In front of their children, they can never control their temper;

How many people have loved their children in their hearts, but there is always a "ugly" face on the face.

They don't know that the biggest disaster of parents is to get my temper at the child;

They don't understand that they are not fierce, but they are the top cultivation.

Parents, remember at any time:

Leave the best temper to your favorite child.

I like a word very much:

"Good family style is the biggest blessing of the family."

The best family style is: poor father, filial piety is better than brother, he does not blame his wife, and he is not murderer.

The world changes, life is like a dream-

The poor are not blame the father, it is the root of standing;

Filial piety is better than brother, is the blessing of the family;

It is the true meaning of happiness or not to blame his wife;

Qi is not fierce, it is top -level cultivation.

In the second half of life, these four points are achieved, and then stand, family harmony, happiness, and practice.

So, enough.

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Author | Jingxing, read the author at 10 o'clock.

Picture | Visual China

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